8 Ways to Turn Your Empathy into A Super Power

by Christiane Northrup, M.D.

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Empaths are highly advanced souls being incarnated on earth in increasing numbers to shed light into the darkness during this time of transformation. There are more empaths on earth right now than ever before.  In fact, medical intuitive, Caroline Myss, refers to empaths as “the new normal.”

All empaths are highly sensitive people, but not all empaths are alike.  For example, an emotional empath feels the emotional state of others. For this type of empath just going to the mall on a busy Saturday could be exhausting. A physical empath is able to pick up on the physical ailments of others, often getting headaches or feeling nauseated when someone around them has these symptoms. A friend of mine used to experience joint and muscle pain and fatigue when she was around her mother who has arthritis, and chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia. A cognitive empath thinks about what others are feeling and why. 

While most empaths are thought to be emotional or physical empaths, there are also empaths who feel the emotions of animals. These people often can’t go near a zoo. Global empaths pick up on the emotions of humans across the planet and may have a hard time watching the news.  Other empaths can feel the earth’s energy and may even be able to predict earthquakes and other catastrophes.

If you are an empath you may have traits of one or several different empath types.  And, no matter what type of empath you are, you may frequently feel exhausted or debilitated due to taking on the pain of others.

Super Traits and the Empath

There are many degrees of empathy.  And as an empath, it’s likely that you reach different degrees of empathy during different times of your life. That said, most empaths exhibit super traits. These include agreeableness, feeling optimistic about human nature, a willingness to compromise, and concern for social harmony. 

In addition, most empaths are very trusting, and we feel strongly invested in our relationships. We are natural helpers and fixers, and that’s what makes us prey to energy vampires. It’s no wonder that many empaths feel they need to hide their true nature. 

This desire to hide, not rock the boat, or just blend in and be helpful is the empath’s form of self-protection. For example, you may choose not to go to parties, malls, concerts or crowded, loud venues frequently because they make you feel anxious, overwhelmed or drained.  You may also avoid other places where you are more apt to feel negative or low energy, such as battlefields. Yet, for many empaths, no matter how hard you try to take care of yourself, you still end up sick, exhausted and with a slew of health issues you can’t understand. 

The good news is, you don’t have to sacrifice your well-being if you are an empath. There are ways you can take advantage of your innate strengths and goodness. And, you don’t have to do anything extraordinary.  As an empath, everything you do to heal yourself actually helps to heal the planet. Your mere presence on this planet is what creates the highest level of transformation for humankind.

9 Super Traits of Empaths

  1. Highly sensitive. Sounds, smells, and low energy can overwhelm you.
  2. Spiritually open. Feel connected to a higher source.
  3. Attuned to other people’s moods. Absorb other people’s emotions,
  4. Introverted.  Prefer 1:1 contact or small groups. If extroverted, may limit time spent in a crowd or party
  5. Intuitive.  Can sense when something is off.
  6. Easily overwhelmed in intimate relationships. Too much togetherness is difficult.
  7. Targets for energy vampires. Prey for narcissists, drama queens, chronic talkers.
  8. Nourished by natural world. Seek refuge in nature.
  9. Huge hearts. Often give too much, good listeners. Relieve the pain of others by taking it on, then feel drained.

8 Ways to Turn Your Super Traits into Super Powers

If you are an empath you may feel that you are cursed in some way.  The truth is empathy is a gift, and you have the power within you to turn your empathy into a power like no other.

Here are some ways you can activate the empathic power within you:

  1. Acknowledge that you are an empath. If you are an empath, compassion is your calling. You were hard-wired since birth to anchor the light on the planet. Acknowledging that you came here to do this is the first step toward letting your inner light shine. Learn more about your empathic nature in my book, Dodging Energy Vampires:An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Recovering Your Health and Power.
  2. Trust your intuition. As an empath, you are highly sensitive. Whether you can read people’s minds, receive psychic images, pick up on smells, or sense a feeling in your gut, learning to trust yourself and the messages you receive will help you avoid energy vampires and find positive, healthy relationships.
  3. Don’t play the victim. Empaths often lack self-worth.  After a while, your need to be loved can turn into a victim mentality.  This is commonly seen in spiritual relationships where the guru ends up with all of the resources and the devotees are drained of self-esteem, money and more.
  4. Set boundaries. Once you are able to recognize the energy vampires who drain you, set limits on the amount of time you spend with them.  Notice how you feel when you are with them and how you feel afterward.  Soon, you will be able to walk away for good and recover your precious energy.  You will also have a lot more time on your hands to do something you love.
  5. Meditate. Empaths need time to recharge. Meditation is a great tool for empaths and it takes only a few minutes. For example, Judith Orloff, M.D.’s 3 Minute Heart Meditation can help you feel centered in your heart energy. This is great for taking back your power when you start to feel sensory overload. But, you don’t have to sit to meditate. Spend time in nature or try visualizing yourself in a protective bubble where dark energy cannot reach you, but light can filter through. Do this several times per day.
  6. Breathe. Develop a breath practice where you simply sit and consciously breathe. As you breathe in, think about clarity and power. As you exhale, think about breathing out negative energy. You can even say “I am breathing in power. I am breathing out stress and negativity.” Do this several times per day to clear any built-up stress in your body. 
  7. Transmute negative energy. As empaths we take on a lot of negative energy everywhere we go. Employ ways that you can transmute negative energy in real time.  For example, bring plants into your workspace to help absorb any negative energy.  You can also try crystals which are natural energy modulators.   Surround yourself with beauty.  Try to speak positively in a difficult situation. Finding the humor in a situation when possible can also transmute negative energy. Another thing you can do is start each day with a gratitude affirmation to increase positive energy.
  8. Love yourself. As an empath, your life’s purpose is to take care of yourself.  It’s all you are asked to do!  Listening to your own thoughts and emotions is self-empathy. Take some time every day to honor your feelings and embrace your sensitivities. Recognize that you can be vulnerable and strong at the same time. Celebrate every time you listen to your intuition or do something that helps you become happier, stronger and healthier. Remember, when you live up to your full potential, you actually transform the lives of others.

Once you fully embrace your empathic nature, you will be able to experience great joy.  You will see the big picture on a deeper level – one that is full of beauty. And, you will be able to refill your own energetic cup by aligning directly with Source.

How has your life improved since embracing your empathic nature? Be sure to leave me your comments.

Additional Resources from Dr. Northrup

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How To Change Your Habits For Good

Last Updated: March 20, 2018

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and a leading authority in the field of women’s health and wellness. Recognizing the unity of body, mind, and spirit, she empowers women to trust their inner wisdom, their connection with Source, and their ability to truly flourish.

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  1. Makay B
    4 weeks ago

    I know what I am, I’m very grounded and have been through a couple spiritual awakenings. I know how to refill my cup and deal with certain things that I couldn’t before. Right now a very important person in my life is having an spiritual awakening but they don’t understand it or accept it and they are burning out. As an empath I know I have the powers in and beyond me to be able to help, I just now need to learn how to pass on my light, love, and protection to others that need it! This is my purpose for this person, I just don’t know how to pass these feelings of positive energy and love onto him spiritually. How do I do it??

  2. barbara
    2 months ago

    hi, I have been a very strong empath for a while now and so much of what i just read is exactly what i am but now i have learned from what i read how to protect myself from dark light and entities (the bubble shield) i do the breathing but never added the words so thank you for this information. Life is good and love is infinite

  3. Bill
    2 months ago

    Someone very dear and caring provided your website to me this morning. We have known each other for nearly 40 years, and both have struggled to understand the why’s, and how’s of my power of empathy. I have lived as an empath for more than 60 years, and yet until now, kept it to myself, sharing it only with a very small and confidential group of friends or family. I never even knew it as defined, or that it had a name for it. . I called it a curse for years. Your article above clearly pinpoints the reason that I have chosen not to express, or share it openly. It is something I did not ask for, would not have purchased if it were for sale, or ever accepted if I could have avoided it
    .
    Being an empath has been very frustrating and even dangerous for me over the years. The feelings that I get are draining, and usually overwhelming. My emotions are so sensitive that I get them out of nowhere, and without warning. I cannot be a part of social events. The feelings I receive from wherever they come, are sudden and powerful. I can start crying or become ill, feel unexplained pains, and recently severe headaches, migraine intense headaches. Almost to the letter, all the things you mentioned in your article, I have, and continue to experience daily. I do not talk about it with anyone, (aforementioned group excluded), for fear of people thinking that I am crazy, a liar, or a freak.

    I have every trait you mentioned, and then some. I am highly sensitive, spiritually open, introverted, intuitive, and constantly give or sacrifice myself for others. I feel called on by other intentionally. That they find me a vent for their emotions or anguish. I am a great listener, and people find comfort in dropping their troubles on me to find resolution. In addition, here is where the empath really kicks in, most of the time they can do it simply through feeling. They do not even have to speak to me; I just pick it up without even wanting to, and guide them through the issues, or take them on myself.

    Not being able to control this power has left me drained and confused as to what to do. I am now hopeful, that through research and more study on the subject, and knowing that I am not alone with this condition. I want to first thank my dear friend that brought me to you, and to you for your intense research and publishing’s on the subject. I intend to move forward with my quest for more learning, and a better understanding, how to deal with, or perfect, what you call a “Gift”.

    Thank you,

  4. Josh Anema
    2 months ago

    I’m Josh 33 years old. Just found out about this meaning and it impact it’s been on my life. I have probably lived 10 lifetimes in my life. I have the pain the healing the emotional rollercoaster and the knowledge that I can not explain or understand fully. I understand and know things without reason. I have always been 2 ppl born Male mental female fought myself always. I care about ppl too much to worry about myself. I sacrifice so others dont have to. I take pain just to easy someone I dont know. I recall past lives and I have my 3rd eye on top of my 6the sense never failed to go away. I have seen therapists and I have changed them for I also dont have to be next to someone physically to feel they’re pain or attempt to heal them. I have once and scared me to have to confirmation. It easier for me if ppl dont believe. It like catching a rock before it hides someone your hand hurts but them dont believe it would have hit them. Life is a struggle I’d like to help everyone but I am so overwhelmed at work how is there time? I have been offered opportunities to make profit off of my ability but I can’t seem to do it for I dont think it right to profit off of helping ppl. Is that wrong? Even if I’m drowning I will still help? In the end the only thing I wish for is my son doesn’t endure this life. My burden is my own. If you hear my voice I will and always will protect you for I am jwolf and I am dont stand alone. Thank you for letting me finally vent and share a piece of my story.

    1. Al
      2 months ago

      how did you see this past life?

  5. Gracie
    3 months ago

    I have always just assumed I was just emotional, but I have realized within the past few years that I am, without a doubt, an empath. I always found myself having these emotional bursts and not knowing why I felt the way that I did, but I now know that it is me mimicking the emotions and thoughts of those around me. This article was very helpful in assuring for me what I already believed to be true. I’m excited to discover more about my empathetic gifts and how I can find peace and provide other’s comfort with them.

  6. Tee
    3 months ago

    What I find is helpful is to when your energy picks up on the unhealthy energy of someone you encounter especially in the work place, breathe out . I call this breathing them out of your energy space. The focus you are putting into protecting yourself tunes them out. Then I smile and walk away. I also limit conversations with energy vampires. I do not give them much energy at all I cut the conversation to a bare minimum. I even choose one word answers. I barely give them eye contact i do not let them get any parts of my energy. I keep by body language the same like a dead corpse gazing into space lane i call it lol. I hope that makes sense. This keeps them away, they are unable to read my true emotions and thoughts. I also thank the universe daily for my gift, and for always being my guide and my protection. I find this empowers my energy even more. I have accepted my gift and I have in embraced it into my daily life. We will never be able to avoid energy vampires it comes with the gift but we can cut down the energy that we give provide them to a minimum(co workers parents, everyday people we encounter), or none at all.(husband wives, boyfriends )

  7. Aleisha
    3 months ago

    I discovered this one recently… giving out sincere compliments actually lifts my mood. Watching the light shine brighter in someone else lifts me up.

  8. Erin
    3 months ago

    I am an empath and a hair stylist. I need help with how to deal with energy vampires that I cannot avoid (paying customers). They are literally killing me. Thanks ❤️

    1. Patrice
      2 months ago

      Picture a bright healing light in your heart, a focal point of the light that is you within you. With every inhale see the light grow brighter & every exhale the light grows bigger around you. Surround yourself in the light bubble before you go into work. When paying customers walk in, see them in the light that already fills your salon. Your light will help ignite their own internal light & they will not try to vampire from you. You can listen to them talk without feeling the need to affirm negative things they say, just “mhmm” or “oh, wow” (and meanwhile you’re breathing your light bubble all around you).
      Also visualize cutting off any energy cords they may have sent into you (I usually visualize a big pair of scissors & sometimes I also visualize removing the ends of the cords from my heart like pulling them out). Your light will dissolve the rest anyway. Release it with whatever feelings arise, anger and rage are ok & give thanks for the healing.
      God bless.

  9. Andi Patzwald
    3 months ago

    Hi, I am an empath as well and life has been tough up until now absorbing so much negative energy around me. However I have discovered an amazing device called the Healy- has anyone here heard of it? It is a frequency therapy device that can also send vibrational energy! Truly the most incredible invention of our lifetime! It has helped me raise my vibration and learn how to stay at that high vibration and also help others. Truly life changing. Let me know if any of you are interested in hearing more about it, it’s my life purpose to bring this incredible tool to the world and for humanity overall.

    1. Sam
      3 months ago

      I want to know if I’m an empath, I’m 16 and I’ve felt a lot if not all of these “symptoms” of being a empath. I don’t know if it’s because I’m a teenager and I’m imagining crap but I don’t know if there is something I can do to know 100% that I am a empath. And how can I make my abilities stronger.

  10. Soli Holmes
    3 months ago

    Is it weird that I am an empath but also an energy vampire???when I was little me and my dad would walk around and the street lights would turn off when we go by. But I feel each others emotions when they are hiding it. I often can tell also how the world work in school and other places just by looking around and look through each others eyes. I have no control through any of this which makes it difficult. What should I do to fully control it???

  11. Diane M Fletcher
    4 months ago

    Thank You so much for this information, I am an empath I have always know but ignored or ran. I didn’t want to be that person. My daughter is a energy vampire. I let my family completely drain me. I was empty for the last 5 years. I have know this change was coming for a while I embraced it. I am now meditating every day I am learning and growing. I have started to connect with my angels. I was told I am also a medium. Which actually make a lot of sense. My life path number is 9. I have been exposed to death at a young age. I have known when people passed. I have always wanted to help people with that transition. I worked in health care terminal patients. I see that Mediumship is the same thing. That is the person I did not want to be. I never wanted to be the one to have to walk up to a stranger and give them a message. I did have to give my husband a message when his mom passed. I now realize this is my path I am embracing my whole self. I AM LOVE

  12. Heather Brown
    4 months ago

    I am 41, and years I have physical pain/symptoms for super close loved ones. It wasn’t until recently that I realized I may be an empath. It had been years since I had experienced pain for people. I started having severe neck pain, and the exact same symptoms that my best friend was having. I also started having symptoms for her pregnant daughter (that I’m very close to) such as urinary frequency, heartburn, shortness of breath, etc. My symptoms would alternate day by day. One day neck issues, and the next day I’m pregnant lol. I have always had a strong gut intuition. Loud noises, large crowds, super talkers, and negative people wear me out. I’ve also been a magnet for narcissistic people and have removed several friends from my life because they were not good to or for me. I just recently started putting all of this together when I was having shortness of breath, and it was scaring me. I’m a nurse, so I always self diagnose, even though I know better. As we traveled to OK for Memorial Day, I discovered that my pregnant God Daughter was having shortness of breath. I felt exactly the same way she did. It was riveting for me. I was freaked out and relieved (that I wasn’t really dying lol). Up to this point I had only suffered physical pain for people. After returning home, I no longer felt pregnant or short of breath until yesterday. A friend of ours was over, and was coughing and became short of breath. All of a sudden, I did too; and my eyes started watering as his were. My ribs and abdomen are sore today as if I coughed all night.

    I guess the point of this is that I’m pretty sure I’m an empath; but I don’t understand why all of a sudden after years of no symptoms, this has gotten so bad. I’m not super close to the gentleman I was having symptoms for last night. Does this mean my ability is getting stronger, or is it because I’m just now realizing this? I have been reading Judith Orloff MD’s book and it all makes so much sense.
    I feel like I’m going crazy and it’s like all of a sudden I’m opening up to all of this. It’s a little overwhelming for me. Why is it that all of a sudden this ability has gotten so strong for me? Any insight would be appreciated!

  13. Amber Green
    4 months ago

    Hello my name is Amber and I am is desperate need of GUIDANCE. I have always had an intuition. Sometimes I souls dream and it would come true years later or I would get this dejavu but couldn’t remember what specifically it was about. In addition I can feel energy. I can feel when I hug my husband for example if he is giving me love back or is faking it or not at all. I am 37 and only three days ago came across empths and clairsenents.i am in shock that I only just found this out after trying to figure out what this power I had for years. I also can not see but feel bad energy and demons I only recently have been having flashes of horrible pictures in my mind and I think a demon is trying to enter me. I always thought u was some kind of special but never knew what. I have been fascinated with magic my whole life but something always stopped me. (I think I got into it in a nother life and it went bad-maybe) recently I have been reading the bible. YouTube videos on god, jesus and actual history of it. And praying a lot for god to help me and, with the demons and being better for myself and family) im wondering if god helped me to be s bit more intune with myself and it opened something. I am very curious also if I can drain energy from my husband when he is loving me and I’m just sucking the love in.
    Please help! What all am I with these things going on. Is it more than just feeling and energy if I am having demons mess with me. (

  14. Katie
    4 months ago

    Ever since I was a kid I was able to feel when someone close to me or related to me had died before I was told. I could also feel when family & friends of my friends would have died before they told me. I could & still can feel their souls & the pain they felt while they were alive. When I told my mother’s parents they refused to accept me they told me I was crazy. My Uncles, Aunts, parents & friends accepted that it’s a part of me. I can’t stand being around my mother’s parents when I visit them without feeling drained nor can I stand being at work without feeling drained. Also I can feel what other people around me are feeling & how strong it is towards who it is or what it is. I don’t know what kind of empath I am.

  15. Milena Aguero
    5 months ago

    I just read your article and although I feel a bit more aware, I am completely lost. I know for a fact that I have these Empathic abilities but I dont know which type I am because I feel like I cross into a few categories but at the same time I have no idea what to do and how to go about making a change in my life to learn about such abilities and how to protect and develop them. I am 31 and life has been a rollercoaster of both good and bad. I’ve been feeling extremely defeated and tired lately. It scares me, the feelings are overwhelming and I think of the suffering of others around the world, close to me, I pick up on vibes and absorb emotions. It’s hard for me because I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality disorder, Major depressive disorder, and unspecified anxiety. I dont know how to help myself and my will power is running low. I need help but no one around me knows how to help. I feel so lost and alone while surrounded by people. Please help me. Thank you.

    1. Nate Brannan
      5 months ago

      With you saying you feel drained, you could be picking up on energies around you from other negative sources. Try going into nature more for walks or visits at a stream or something. Running water at a stream helps me relax because it helps me realize that even when I’m in distress, the world is flowing all around us and whatever we’re down about shouldn’t matter as much. It sounds to me like you’re on the emotional aspect of empathing. Something that helped me was talking to a roommate I had a year ago who was pagan so the laws of energy was more natural to her and she was able to help me resolve some of the issues I had before. Paganism and empathing work well together but it’s about finding the right person who can help you see that. Burning sage will definitely be something like a booster since it’s known to help clear away the negative energy. I don’t know what else to say, but what I’ve said so far is to help you not feel so down. You’ll learn more about yourself when you’re in better moods. I just hope you get to that point first.

    2. Juls
      4 months ago

      Your absolutely not alone I feel the
      exact same way. They always wanna put me on psych meds and they make me feel worse. I stopped all meds a few years ago and have learned different ways to cope I was beginning to feel i was losing it. Surgical menopause my twin and her drama moving in with me and my husband after her husband passed she came with her toddler Grandson which we love a lot. Its overwhelming in these times too everyone wants heard and nothing much is changing. I’m trying completely to self focus now on only positive happy uplifting way to get on with this beautiful life bc I do want the best outta life I’m here now I wanna enjoy it. So I will forsure be following this Doctor I was blessed to find thank you for your gifts of knowledge & wisdom to help US Keep enlightening US Praise God❤

    3. Cassie
      3 months ago

      You are not alone. I am also a twin and reading your story was like a little glimpse of my life. Feel free to add me on Facebook if you would like to connect. Cassie Violette from Maine 🙂

    4. LynneMarie
      2 weeks ago

      Hey Milena. I also am a combination of several different empath categories. I am 33 and actually have the exact same diagnoses as you. I have suspected for years I am an empath and I understand what your feeling, I run out of will power too. I feel emotional exhaustion and pain in such an intense way, don’t give up. The world needs people like you, just find a way to be out in nature maybe and breathe. Remember the good you can do and cut yourself out of situations where there is too much negative energy and pain periodically to rebalance your happiness. I am learning still & you seem very caring & strong, just exhausted I get that. Stay strong & go find a positive spirit or energy to be around for a bit if posdible.

  16. Christopher Saldana
    6 months ago

    I am an empath! wow, I always knew something was up with me since I was little. I still am today as a 15 year old! this has provided me with such knowledge that I am so humbled to know about! Knowledge really is power as well as love really is strength! My grandpa was..different though. He is not in touch with his emotions but is at the same time. I come from a family of empaths and he is one too! it is just that he does not know what to do with emotions, even his emotions! Someday though, I hope he will learn. I am a clairvoyant, claircognant, clairsentient, and a clairaudient. I work with the Reiki energy – the energy that taught me and still is, that we are all connected and we can heal using that universal energy and help others. And I WILL learn my birthright which is Shamanic Healing! All my life, i always knew my purpose was to help those around me and myself by helping others! Thank you so so much for helping me realize this knowledge as I can now better help myself!

    Kind Regards,

    Christopher Saldana

    1. marianne
      4 months ago

      wonderful testimony Christopher, stay true to your path and you will make a difference in the lives of others

  17. Sandra.V
    6 months ago

    I was recently told by a psychic that I was an empath, but I just couldnt put a name on it. My parents had alot of issues with me growing up. I use to cut High school because being in school was overwhelming. When they asked me I just didnt know why. I couldnt explain why I couldnt be around all these people. I even felt spirits and seen things I couldnt explain. My parents were old fashioned and didnt believe in mental health back then. I always had a need to help people to the point where I was taking advantage of most of my life. My relationships were with narssacistic men that used me. Everyone came to me for everything, advice, money, babysitting, all while some knew I was going through my depressions and stresses. I noticed when I needed something no one was around for me. I also noticed that, it took me a while to find out who I was because I always was caught up in someone else’s life and shadow that I couldnt pinpoint my life from theirs. I had so many negative energies around me that I knew I had to cut them out of my life. Long and behold, when I pushed most of the negative away I was able to find myself and who I was. Somehow even with that being a great thing, I still feel overwhelmed with my surroundings. Unfortunately I live in nyc and my emotions are all over the place. I feel so much different things and dont know how to control them. I feel sick, tired, sad, happy, depressed, angry and sometimes I feel like I’m going to have a breakdown. I also know and feel like some of these emotions are not mine. When I’m on the phone with my friends I know things before they tell me, and I tell them things that’s going to happen before they happen. Sometimes they get mad at me because I’m being so honest. Yet they still call me for advice. Its alot to manage, now that I’m learning more about Empaths, maybe I can learn to control all these different energies I’m feeling.

  18. Leon Combrink
    10 months ago

    I always new I was different but assumed most intelligent people also new these things. I was 47 when the penny dropped I was an Empath. Within that moment every single question I had about my past, those odd unexplained situations I saw, felt, smelled, touched, was visibly higher in made complete sense…….freed. then 2 weeks later my 9 year old daughter asked me out of the blue: So Daddy how much of the energy do you see? Am am know helping a Crystal Child into this world……. beauty personified, what a lucky humbled man I am to have found the truth……

  19. Frank
    11 months ago

    I knew early on I was empathic. I didn’t have a name for it back then. What I did know was it frightened me deeply. It would be years to figure out a way to teach myself to protect my soul. Even today I know things I wish I did not because I’m powerless against those forces. So I work in secret helping individuals without them even knowing. My grandfather told me never to interfere in the outcome of someone’s destiny. But I don’t believe that, my belief is if I can do good to help others I will.
    Peace

    1. Tina Haight
      8 months ago

      Amazing, I’m beginning to become more in tuned with this gift but also a curse. As you said there’s outside forces we can’t control that sometimes steal our positive energy leaving us tired but I fight against it the best I can. I was wondering if you have any pointers for me?

      Thank you,
      With love,
      Tina

      1. Debbie
        6 months ago

        I’m a claircognant super empath and it has caused a great deal of damage in my life where people who don’t understand me have slandered me, used my “gifted curse” as I now call it, to seriously destroy my life. I’ve been made to take numbers of psyche evaluations and neurocogs, sassi addict evaluations and so many more ways to prove I’m not crazy, an addict or “psychologically challenged.”

        The gifted curse is a gift for all who love us. The gift is there then for us to offer and feel proud of… the curse is there always where other human physicalists interpret things they cannot understand by ridicule and so many other cruel ways to treat us.

        We are on the up and up though… we are no longer being burned as witches. 🙂

        I understand the curse part though. But you have to see it from a different perspective.

        You wouldn’t want anyone to put needles on your cereal spoon and force you to eat with it. We could do it byt its likely we’d get hurt so we would to eat with a different utensil of optional. But when people see a rose, the beauty seems to outweigh the thorns. Regardless of the naturally growing flowers right next to them.

        Rose bud, you need to help others bleed love for us and others around them as we are meant to do. That’s when the righ people take the chance to see who we are, because those who are smart enough to see the beauty of us more closely are a whole lot lighter to carry than those who are afraid to bleed love for anyone other than themselves.

        For every blessing there’s a curse every dark a light, everything is in balance and so are we.
        Those who we cannot carry burdens for, are more than welcome to walk away and assume we are mere brambles.

  20. Jay
    2 years ago

    Need Help. I believe I have empathic powers and my feelings are overwhelming and I do not know how to react to this. I first experienced my power when I was young and my grandma was sick in the hospital, I had the worst headache I have ever had. After school when I found out she passed my headache was gone. Ever since I feel like I been picking up emotions and I can not tell what are mines anymore please help.

  21. Andy Espinoza
    2 years ago

    i am just learning of my empathic ability when another emapth i came across told me of such. i always new i was meant for something but i hid that because f the pain i endured in my heart. im slowly training to regain the love i always had and coud use more support if its possible. your page is amazing to read.

  22. Olivia
    2 years ago

    I am so glad my acupuncturist told me about this & sent me to your site!
    She mentioned a quiz I could take but can’t seem to find it?
    Where exactly is that located?

  23. Cathy Bonniwell
    2 years ago

    I am so grateful that my girlfriend shared the Empath test with me. I am an old soul Empath
    I finally see myself for who God made me to be. I am so thankful for you and all you’ve done to help us find our true self, and be able to finally embrace who God made us to be.
    I understand now what my true job is, and I will enjoy myself fully now. Finally I am free to take care of myself first and not feel guilty about it. Thank you thank you thank you!!!

  24. Deona
    2 years ago

    Thank you for the article Dr Northrup, that was spot-on for me!

    How can I change my thinking to be more empowering in dealing with an energy vampire I can not walk away from (at the moment), being my employer? Quitting is not an option right now, but the constant nit-picking and having to deal with her unresolved emotional issues through her aggression, is using up every resource I have.

  25. Julie
    3 years ago

    Beautifully written. I could relate to your comment about wanting to “hide your true nature.” I’ve often felt that way but I e never had the courage to put it into words. Thank you, Dr Northrup.

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      I generally have to live something for a decade or so before articulating it. This stuff takes time!

  26. Shaniqua
    3 years ago

    Ugh. Can’t wait for your book. I have been highly sensitive since birth but am just now at 57 yo learning how to take care of myself and distancing myself from vampires. So sad, they can be so close to you. But, the big question is…WHY did we come now?

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      We came to stand as the LIGHT. We are at the turning if the ages.. It’s exciting!

      1. Alicia Iona Thornton
        11 months ago

        I am a Empath ,I didn’t know how to really use my powers didn’t know there was a name for it just knew I was blessed with gifts and dreams and psychic abilities a few weeks ago or maybe I should say about 3 months ago I tried to see if I can do mind control and use certain kind of Energies to favor in a positive way As in Natural Resources in methods I use to meditate what’s good for me may not be good for others because I I use it for a positive outcome .I also realize there is a God who helps me understand things and empaths to me as well with his physic abilities as well with mines …over the past few months I have been taking through a tremendous turnmoil but also , as I will call it a promotion from my God. My powers have gotten stronger and more stable I’m now coming full circle with the world around me ,people places and things.. Thanks for this article … How can I help ?

        1. Alicia Iona Thornton
          11 months ago

          Sorry for the typos.. * God is physic and so am I, and I meant I have been taken through turmoil

  27. Donna
    3 years ago

    Oh Dr Northrop, this is the most accurate article I’ve read about me. Yes, I totally agree. Thank you!!

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      So glad
      To hear it!

  28. Shelly Fuhr
    3 years ago

    It’s liberating to read this blog and feel incredibly validated!!
    I check off every point on the list.
    I didn’t consuder that empathy could be broken down… I hit all 3 for physical, emotional, and can feel the emotions of some pets especially my current dog. All in all I’m way more agreeable as I age to trust and listen when I feel!
    Thank you for your mentorship. ❤️

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      Love it! It is our time. At last.

  29. Christine
    3 years ago

    Reading this came at the perfect time in my life.
    I have always admired you and read your book Womans body, Womans wisdom many years ago and you made me feel proud to be a woman.
    I found Tosha Silver’s book and it reconnected me back to you.
    Thank you for being so beautiful in your words and passion for women.

  30. Daniel
    3 years ago

    Would love to discus dancing Tango as an empathic milonguero. Thank you for this article. I am strengthened and encouraged.

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      Oh what a fantastic discussion idea! You must be an incredible dance partner…

  31. Susan
    3 years ago

    I’m 66 and your voice in “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” was the first voice I ever heard that felt like a kindred spirit. So many wondeful, meaningful voices are chiming in more and more, since you opened the door for me. I listen to you and I’m grateful for your voice! Thank you!

  32. Betsie Saltzberg
    3 years ago

    I especially liked your “9 Super Traits of Empaths.” I possess every one of them & feel especially distressed with my sensitivity to loud noises, bright lights, heavy fragrances and folks who talk a lot! These traits greatly impact my desire & ability to spend time with other people. I don’t even enjoy eating out and this past Monday morning my house was being cleaned so I was forced to go to a local restaurant for breakfast. It was bustling & while no one would have known, I was suffering greatly inside. The noise was unbearable, I found the food to be mediocre, at best & I felt no joy or peace. This is going to sound terrible, but all I could do was count the number of people at each table, then calculate how many were overweight- the number was about 70%. Golly gosh, it’s a problem!

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      Okay.. NOW.. your mission is to use that sensitivity to communicate with the Earth, the ocean, flowers, bees, rocks. Begin to see yourself as a magnet for beauty and healing.. imagine your energy field as an orb of golden protection., You can do this!

  33. Bev
    3 years ago

    Thanks for that. I am so glad that my energy-draining ex-partner moved out. I feel much more positive now.

  34. jc
    3 years ago

    I notice I tend to avoid pressure and therefore the decisions I make may not be in my best interest when my motivation is avoidance. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway is helpful at the right times, but I have to be in touch with myself to know when the right times are. Owning responsibility for my emotions is essential for making better choices and I find that in order to use empathy as a gift, I have to accept that everything I feel is mine : )

  35. Tanna
    3 years ago

    Wow Dr. Northrup – I have been loving this information and had a huge Aha moment from this blog…I’ve been my mother’s full-time caregiver for eight years and she is on a slow decline, close to making her transition now. Although she sleeps most of the time and I don’t have as much to do during the day for her care, I have been incredibly tired recently. I rationalized that I should have more energy to do more now because I have more time, but you helped me understand that I am likely feeling this way because of her condition, so that must explain the constant fatigue.
    By the way, my toxic sister is a total energy vampire and has been an abusive drain on me and my mom my entire life (she’s 15 years older than I am) so you have validated our decision to step away from her eight years ago.
    This has given me so much clarity and understanding – thank you!

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      I am so glad this has helped!

  36. Nicu
    3 years ago

    Thank you for these helpful tips!
    I’m a balanced empath! Just wanted to let you know! 🙂
    Love & Joy!

  37. Marj
    3 years ago

    I love having a label for my gift . . . a cognitive empath. Never totally understood why I knew what people were thinking or feeling. Others occasionally laughed, as though I might be making up these ideas. But it is real!
    This article also explains why certain people drain me and I try to avoid them. Thank you; I feel less guilty. And it’s good to know that my sense of being re-charged when I’m out in nature is quite valid, even critical. Much appreciated article.
    Marj

  38. Kathleen
    3 years ago

    Thanks for putting the words to what I already knew in my heart.

  39. Patricia Nield
    3 years ago

    I am still quite confused about Vampires identification as opposed to just thoughtless, self centred people who I thought were friends for the occasional contact when they wanted a listening ear, something done for them, yet are notiicebly absent on the rare occasion I need help.
    I also do wonder if I am the one who is asking too much but you echoed my thoughts over the past couple of years about always seem to be the one who keeps contact going. As a woman on her own after 1 marriage and 2 long term abusive relationships, I’m now ‘seen as the ‘needy one” by people who are3 blessed with ‘happy families and or partners” but I see through theri facade and say nothing. From my perspective I just want a friend/s who is/arer interested in my life on a reasonable regular basis and as reliable as I am. I refuse to get embittered by my experience and take responsibility for my part in any relationship and have learned to be brutally honest sometime but these day with more tact which is why I yee haa’d at your piece about expressing anger. Im surrounded by so man God controlled people who think I am ‘a sad and angry woman” I should be an athiest but Im not I just wont get into religion I had that growing up with nuns.
    being a little older than you but in great health and still looking pretty good I can’t help but feel there is also the jealousy syndrome of owmen by women which may need to be addressed at some stage but a writer I am not, so maybe another top[ic for a book from you. many thaks for this online course it’s becoming a bit obsessive because of the primary validation it has given me to date.

    Bless you dear lady

  40. Bee
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much. Your wisdom means so much to me and can’t wait to read your book! X

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      Thank you so much for this!

  41. Rona Ross
    3 years ago

    I’ve recently learned to say No with humility and want to continue

  42. Peggy
    3 years ago

    One thing I learned about myself was giving myself permission to bow out gracefully and even without explanation. Funnerals and gtherings with those in mourning are so draining, dibilating and negative effects seem to last longer when I have attended. I have always hated funerals, no one likes them but some people find comfort in supporting one another, I have never felt comforted. I prefer showing my last respects one on one or I find ways to honor those that have passed personally. Sometimes I let those mourning know I mean no disrespect by not attending funnerls or memorials and I just send condolences from a distance. Respect, condolences does not require personal appearances. I hope this is helpful to someone else.

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      I like the way you are honoring yourself.. as someone who lost a sister years ago and my father 9 months later, I can attest to how healing it is to have people
      Reach put with letters or calls long after the funeral.

  43. Margot
    3 years ago

    Thank you for naming that when we take care of ourselves we are adding to the food of all. Perfect timing! I’ve known i’m An empath for years. Much of what you’ve said here names what I knew in my bones but seeing it brought such Ah ha’s! Thank you! I feel a real shift after reading this! ❤️

  44. Valerie
    3 years ago

    Your information is going to help a lot of people.
    It’s taken me years to figure out why I am the way I am. And hearing others tell me to suck it up or just get over it.
    I have finally come to understand and appreciate who I am.
    Now to work on the vampires. I’ve had many.

  45. Rachel
    3 years ago

    I recognized my empathy years ago when my angels came into my life . I even wrote a book about how to protect your energy for sensitives!! Ironic!
    However I did not really realize until now the level of energy I give away and how I have been putting myself last all this time. I am a healer and therapist and author of two books and lately just feeling fricken exhausted. The last boyfriend was a grade A psychic vampire, thankfully I noticed in 2 months and ended it, 11 months later he is still harrassing me. I have asked myself often how can I stop this and why am I feeling so awful and why do i feel so drained doing the work I love and helping others. Well your articles and video just answered those missing links for me.
    It is time for me. I am not a victim but I have to stop behaving like I matter the least. I got in the habit of covering up my feelings all the time to look after others.
    I hve a feeling things are going to change for me !
    Thank you from my heart.

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      How thrilling!! So many people are right at this place of waking up too.. We’re all in this together.

  46. Judith
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much for your writing & blog post. I have been an empath my whole life & I am often overwhelmed by daily tasks. Disasters in the world pull me down & I am concerned about the health of the planet.

  47. Tere
    3 years ago

    After your interviewing Dr Judith Orloff, a new world opened up for me. I was an empath and my “symptoms” were a gift. What a change in mindset. Now you dive deeper and I am over the moon you are taking us by the hand to meet our true souls and feel empowered. The love And gratitude I feel for you are limitless. Thank you

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      This just touches my heart. Thank you!

  48. Gwen
    3 years ago

    All my life since I was a child I have had “this knowing” about people and events. Over the last 20+ yrs I have been made aware of “tools” I can use to open up this knowing…..such as…
    Acupuncture, Reiki, The sway test of asking my subconscious for answers, Tapping and more recently The Emotion Code. It is a humbling and amazing journey each day.
    Thank you Christiane Northrup for giving me even more information and joy about this “knowing” which I have come to realize is about being an Cognitive Empath.
    I continue on my “ crusade” of telling each woman I meet about Self-Care and Self Love.
    I know that this journey is taking me to a place where I will be able to express this knowledge to others in a more global way……
    I am grateful for each day of exploration!!
    gwen

  49. Michelle Reese
    3 years ago

    I am an empath and a highly sensitive. Since coming out of the fog a few years ago through my work with Heather Dane and Jean Haner and the Hay House community (I discovered Louise Hay in the ’80s), the biggest gift I have received is knowing that I am okay. And not only okay, but I have spent my life learning how to stay physically and emotionally balanced. I can walk through the world knowing what’s mine and what belongs to others. I no longer take on the symptoms of others. On days when I ‘m tired or don’t have my program in place as firmly, the energy will seep in, and I know what to do to re-balance. So I’d say the biggest gift is feeling good about my empathy and sensitivity and no longer feeling that something is wrong with me. And it took me until my ’50’s to embrace it. Thank you for this post.
    Michelle

    1. Christiane
      3 years ago

      Beautifully stated. Thank you!

  50. Karen
    3 years ago

    Thank you for this, it explains so much in my life that I have felt but you have put it into words

  51. Lidia Muntean
    3 years ago

    Thank you for share this information. Now I understand better my life, my past. Thank you!

  52. Shan
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much for helping empaths! We need this information, and need to be reminded of how to better take care of ourselves! I greatly appreciate you putting this subject out there. It is extremely helpful. I resonate deeply with your message.

  53. Claire
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much for this article! It came at a perfect time. I didn’t know that there are different types of empaths until I read it. I am a cognitive empath and I a happy to say that I have been pruning my life for quite a while of the negative energy/drainers I was associating with. The article helped me validate who I am and why making those choices was right for me (not everyone understands my choices but that’s ok!) I love hearing that my life’s purpose is taking care of myself, because I’ve gotten really good at that, too, but it can feel a bit “selfish” which can bring guilt. I will keep on this path of self-care honoring my feelings and sensitivities to become happier, healthier and stronger so that I can be of service to others. It’s comforting to know that I am on the right path! Actually, I kind of “knew” it!!

  54. Dawn Paiva
    3 years ago

    Thank you, Dr. Northrup, for enlightening and validating, I am a true empath, and didn’t understand it until I was well in my adulthood. As you say, I always thought it a curse to be so “emotional”. I used to wonder what my purpose was, what my gift was….. one day I realized my deep empathy WAS my gift, but I didn’t understand HOW this could be. How could something so painful and draining for me be a GIFT?? You are helping me understand and navigate this. Your wisdom and compassion for women everywhere is a gift to me! God Bless.

    Dawn

  55. Jeanne Chabot
    3 years ago

    Greetings! I am so glad you mentioned empaths who can’t go near zoos .. or feel Heart- hurt when I see a hurt Animal and go crazy when I hear of an Animal going extinct. It’s hard to be sane on this planet .. but I’m here so I’ll do my best and trust there’s a plan . Thank you for acknowledging us and helping with deep insight and great ideas .oh and I’m like you about the Inquisition.. can’t bare to read about it . Yuck!

  56. Kathy
    3 years ago

    I greatly appreciate your sharing of these insights. It is helpful and quite timely, as much of what you’ve mentioned resonates with what I’ve been experiencing and am struggling with at present.
    With gratitude, Kathy

  57. Donna Bruni Cox
    3 years ago

    Deep gratitude for your vision, light, beauty. Have been on this journey too, from Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom to today, and celebrate the gifts you share.

  58. Sheri
    3 years ago

    I have recently come to realize that I am an empath. It is something that has been with me my whole life, but, not until recently I accepted and embraced it. I am reconnecting with my true nature and would like to communicate with other empaths. Are there groups that you are aware of, that meet or correspond with one another? I appreciate your time and expertise in these areas and enjoy reading your posts. Thank you.

    Sheri

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      HI Sheri– Yes– Dr. Judith Orloff has a facebook group for empaths which is highly regarded. And also an e-letter. Go to http://www.drjudithorloff.com

    2. Fran
      3 years ago

      Dr. Judith Orloff has a Facebook group for Empaths. She mentioned it when she was on Dr. Northrup’s Hay House Radio show awhile ago.

  59. A simple thank you.

  60. Lee Waltz
    3 years ago

    The guru ends up with all the resources and the devotees are drained of self esteem, money and more….

  61. Michele
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much for this post. This is exactly what I needed to read and it validates and explains so much about what I am experiencing right now in my life.
    You are a beacon of light in this world and I appreciate your wisdom and compassion so very much.
    Thanks again,
    Michele

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      thank you for letting me know. It means the world to me.

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