Astrologically, we have moved through the eclipse tunnel and the Grand Cardinal Cross of this past spring. These astrologic aspects have transformed our lives on many levels—most especially all of our partnerships. Let me give you the Cliffs Notes on these transits: They have been in the service of our individual and collective evolution. In summary—grow or die.
Kind of like the menopausal transition, but on a global scale.
So what’s the message? It’s time to end self-sacrifice. In all its forms. Instead, we must start to live our lives fully, from the dictates of our souls.
If you look at this from a higher perspective, it’s the rise of the feminine that is happening—after 5,000 years of systematic suppression—in men as well as women. What is “the feminine?” It’s understanding that your feelings are your inner guidance system—not something to be ignored or squelched.
In men, this suppression of the feminine shows up as being afraid to admit weakness, fear, or sadness—and turning to rage and anger instead.
The feminine is about standing for the highest in others versus worrying about competition. It’s finding your tribe of sisters who will be there for you—and support you when you cry, when you fall, when you need someone to help with a meal. It’s understanding that interdependence is more powerful than independence—that it’s a sign of strength, not weakness, to ask for help.
It means that it’s time to take the phrase “I should be able to do this myself” and transform it to “I really appreciate your assistance. It makes it so much easier.” And it’s time to allow others the privilege of giving to you—and for you to learn how to graciously receive.
This transition has affected some of my closest friends. They are realizing it’s time to throw off the outmoded beliefs from childhood, which said they weren’t good enough or worthy enough. They are shedding the need to give to others as a way to win approval or love.
They are also re-evaluating their relationships, and realizing it’s time to leave any that aren’t true partnerships. Are you in a relationship in which you are earning all the money while your partner is doing all the spending—meanwhile complaining about your flaws? Or judging you for not “being there for the children?”
It’s time to leave jobs that suck the life force out of us—that we are staying in for the “benefits,” which we will never live to see if we continue.
It’s time to stop putting your adult children’s needs and feelings ahead of your own desires and needs—even if you are afraid they won’t love you if you don’t mend their clothes, pay their rent, let them borrow the car, or __________ (fill in the blank).
It’s time to stop calling your mother every day unless you love connecting with her. It also means not picking up the phone when that always-complaining friend calls with her latest dose of misery.
It’s time to truly fulfill our own dreams and to be fully acknowledged—to enjoy life regularly.
Self sacrifice as a way of life is a sin against your soul. It helps no one. And it’s time for it to end.
Remember, a healed life—in which you give and receive in a balanced dance—is a blessing to the planet. What a relief! (This makes a great Tweet! Please share.)
Have you been experiencing a lot of opportunities for personal growth lately? How have you ended self-sacrifice in your own life? Please leave a comment. I love to hear about your experiences.