Be Happy Now!

by Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Emotional Well-being

On May 4, 2010, Robert Holden, Ph.D., was the guest on my radio show Flourish!. Dr. Holden is the Founder and Director of the Happiness Project and author of many books on happiness and success, including Happiness Now!: Timeless Wisdom for Feeling Good Fast (Hay House, 2007). Though I had known about Robert’s work for a number of years, I didn’t truly appreciate his gift to the world until I heard him read a poem by Hafiz entitled, I Know the Way You Can Get on the CD that accompanies Kim Rosen’s wonderful book Saved by a Poem. I began the radio show by asking Robert to recite that poem. And it set up a wonderful vibration for the rest of our time together.

He shared his family story with me, growing up in a tiny town in England with a very loving family, which had problems like many other families. His mother was afflicted with periodic depressions that “came out of nowhere” and then disappeared. His father drank too much and eventually ended up homeless. From those early defining experiences, Robert kept asking himself over and over again “What is real?” And the answer he kept getting was “love.” And so, starting in his 20’s, Robert decided to let love and loving guide his life. This included loving all aspects of himself and others, especially the parts that he or others considered unlovable, such as the parts of our bodies that we don’t like and the emotions we consider unacceptable.

In fact, the kernel of truth that runs through all of Robert’s work is this: No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance. So true. Although it’s a bit of a paradox, when you start with the mindset of self-acceptance, your efforts to improve yourself will be far more effective. In the book Happiness Now!, there’s a wonderful poem on self-acceptance. One stanza is:

Without self acceptance, you are always hiding.

With self acceptance, your spirit is gliding.

Nice line, eh? When you catch yourself in the inevitable self-judgment and self-criticism spin that our ego so often engages in, say the following out loud to yourself:

I accept myself unconditionally right now.

And you might also add a fun little touch to encourage self-acceptance, like:

And I am completely adorable.

There, now don’t you feel happier? Right now?

Last Updated: May 26, 2010

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and a leading authority in the field of women’s health and wellness. Recognizing the unity of body, mind, and spirit, she empowers women to trust their inner wisdom, their connection with Source, and their ability to truly flourish.

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  1. louise
    5 years ago

    Yes and thank you… perfect for my moment’s of self pity and mental fog today. Rebounding from a short flu bug, my dreams pointed me in the direction of facing many irriations in my present partnership. i made an attempt over a year ago to leave a 25 year marriage for my health in many ways, However, being the peacemaker of my family… i recoiled in shame and let go of my dream, because i let anger and control rear its ugly head and over power my decision. Ive studied your writings for several years and more recently as i have been hitting the brick wall again, that which acknowledges by past self and that which see that i must allow the change within so that i can grow and blossom for my remaining years. I am seeking your guidance again, realizing that habits of enabling and protecting and keeping my marriage, is such a strong pull. It is going to take some super tuff love with myself… to make the choices i need… to become independent enough to make those choices for ultimate freedom and happiness. Merry Christmas and Happy Hannukah… peace to all and Cheers!!
    Thank you Christiane

  2. Sandra
    6 years ago

    i feel as if your writing has saved me from so much self doubt and darkness .I am so blessed to have bought your Goddeses book at a moment of madness in marriage. I am engouraged by this Happy article and every page I read of your work .Know you are a terrific Dr. Mama Guru that truly shares from the heart and I hear you and I am stronger because of it . I truly hope to work as hard as you have to find my way thru this Life and enjoythe richness and dance in true joy . Thanks to you that starts now . Your permission has given me the stregth to give myself permission to face it all in true joy. Thankyou from the bottom and top of my heart . All my love to you always from myself and my 5 children and husband. I lost my way and you found me. In turn i found the strenth I needed naturally.

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