Overcoming The Pressure To Procreate Before Age 35

by Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and a leading authority in the field of women’s health and wellness. Recognizing the unity of body, mind, and spirit, she empowers women to trust their inner wisdom, their connection with Source, and their ability to truly flourish.


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  1. Nicole
    4 years ago

    YAY! Thank you SO much. I just turned 40 and I have not met my mate yet. I’m so glad I am amazingly fertile and fruitful every day. Phenomenal how frightened people get and push their fears on you.

  2. Danielle
    4 years ago

    Thankyou so much – this has given me so much hope and peace

  3. Denise
    6 years ago

    Hello Dr. Northrup,

    Thank you so much for this! When I was younger, I had always assumed like most women that it was either impossible or dangerous for both mother and child to conceive after age 35. As I got older, I came to understand there were cultural beliefs involved as well, based on the notion that bodies breaking down or slowing down is a natural part of aging and older parents simply aren’t up to the tasks involved in caring for young children. And yet, there are grandparents in my community who end up doing exactly that, assuming responsibility for their grandchildren’s care for some reason, and they manage the children quite well, busting that myth. When I started talking about still wanting a child at 48, I heard the same things as Bridget above about all the risks in addition to being told it was selfish to birth a child at such a late age who might end up having to care of me before he/she even reached adulthood. This info is something that I and other women need to hear.

  4. Elle
    6 years ago

    Dear Dr. Northrup,

    Thank you for your inspirational messages. Could you please post information about reversing menopause. I went through menopause in my early 40s, after a great deal of personal stress. I am now 49 and feel the best I have ever felt in my life. I believe I can regain my fertility, and I would love hear your medical perspective on the issue.

    1. Maggie
      6 years ago

      I would love to hear something about this too. I’m 47 and have had amenorrhea since I was 36, due to chronic dieting and stress. I’m still hopeful that I will get my cycle back. 🙂

    2. Christiane L Northrup
      6 years ago

      Read the book Anna: Grandmother of Jesus. It’s rather astounding. And whether or not we can “prove” this, there is enough inspiration in this to truly uplift you. And Elle– I would already suggest that you ARE fertile. I’ve had patient who thought they were past menopause and were actually pregnant and didn’t know it. And we all know women who have given birth in their late 40’s. BUT– your soul may have a different idea about how your fertility will be expressed besides a biological child. So– do the very best you can with your thoughts and beliefs. And then turn the whole thing over to God.Thanks for sharing this.

  5. Erin
    6 years ago

    Thank you for this!! <3 Exactly what I needed to hear, and there are so many women I want to share this with!

  6. Robin
    6 years ago

    I have had female problems for the last 4 months and getting an appointment with (medi-cal) obgyn is treturous. Next appt is June 23 and I’m asking for anesthesia for a colposcopy procedure!
    I am 54 almost 55

  7. Amy
    6 years ago

    Thank you very much for approaching this topic Dr. Northrup!

    I am currently 25 weeks pregnant at 38 years old and I feel wonderful. Happily I didn’t take ingest my physician’s remark last summer that my “eggs are getting crunchy”…! I know that she probably meant well by saying it, but even at the time I couldn’t help but wonder why she felt the need to cast such a shadow on the process. Definitely a cultural portal. In the end, I became pregnant quite easily once my partner took a break from smoking marijauna. I think a good cultural portal that could be initiated would be to put an emphasis of health on the male partner rather than all of the onus on the ticking biological clock of the woman !

    Thanks so much,
    Amy B

    1. Celia
      6 years ago

      Just want to say congratulations and maybe you are due soon? I had my first sweet baby girl a few days after turning 43. She is healthy and intelligent and beautiful!

  8. Sanna
    6 years ago

    Dear Dr. Northrup,
    Thank you for sharing this insight, which I think is very much needed in our society today. I am a blessed mother of 4 and I had my fourth baby when I was 43 years old. And that was no “accident”: he was very much wanted. People regarded me as crazy or selfish. Doctors urged me to take tests, but I knew and felt that this baby was fine. and he is: he is a healthy toddler now, and I feel fit and enjoy every minute with him (and my other three).

    There was never a doubt in my mind about my age. I knew he was going to be with us even before he was conceived. I had met him in dreams for years already….He was already a part of our family and I wouldn’t have wanted to miss him for the world!
    I put my trust in God and this wise soul to come to us when the time would be right. And so he came when I was 43 already. There’s more to having children than just the biological side of it. Despite everything we “know”, it remains the biggest miracle in life.

    Bless you and your great work,

    Sanna, the Netherlands

    1. Christina
      5 years ago

      I , too, just had a baby at age 42. Both of us were Healthy as can be 🙂 in fact I had his sister at 39 and another boy at age 36. I totally believe there is a ridiculous conspiracy to scare women from having babies over a certain age!
      I also rejected the amino, etc tests.
      Congratulations on your lovely family and I hope our stories can encourage others!
      Full disclosure… I do have 7 children the oldest just turned 16. My husband and I feel truly blessed 🙂

  9. bridget
    6 years ago

    Thank you, Dr. Northrup. I also believe fertility is a gift from God. My sister is a nurse, and steeped in what can go wrong with a pregnancy in an older woman and continues to point that out to me whenever I mention that I still want a child, at age 48. I take your news to heart!

  10. Claudia Darbie
    6 years ago

    Dr. Northrup,

    My gynecologist of many years, who was progressive, and holistic in his practicing methods, retired two years ago. I still stay connected to his work, and have a new, young doctor of the same practicing methods.

    Thank you for believing in us (women) and sharing all that you do. I am going to turn 65 in October, and I can honestly say that I have never had more of an active libido than I do now, and as long as I stay in company that calls the best of me, I am healthier all the time.

    Is it uncommon for a woman my age to actually want more physical activity in her life. Of course, I have a partner or a friend, so to speak, that brings that out in me. Of course, he is amazing, so I feel very blessed in that way.

    Claudia Darbie

    1. Kathleen
      6 years ago

      Dear Claudia, what progressive and holistic methods does your gynecologist practice? I would love to find a Dr. like this and feel as god as you!!!
      Thank You,

  11. Alexandra
    6 years ago

    Dr. Northrup your wisdom always astounds and overwhelms my heart of the feeling of release that it creates in me. And that necklace is gorgeous and definitely a wisdom necklace. 🙂

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