Is This Your Perimenopause Transition?

3 Types of Menopause Transitions

by Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Menopause

Around age 40, women’s bodies begin perimenopause, the transition leading to menopause (the point in time when you stop menstruating permanently).

The hallmark of perimenopause is a change in the levels of the hormones estrogen, progesterone, and the androgens. Yet this is not solely a physical event—it is also the biggest opportunity for personal growth and empowerment since adolescence. Approximately 40 million American women are going through the menopause process today, so if you are one of them, you are in very good company. Here’s a summary of what you need to know about this transition to help make it as smooth as possible.

There are three types of menopause.

1. Artificial Menopause

About 25 percent of women experience artificial menopause (menopause resulting from surgical removal of the ovaries, surgical disruption of the blood supply to the ovaries, radiation, chemotherapy, or taking certain drugs). For these women, menopausal symptoms can be severe and debilitating because there is no opportunity for gradual adjustment to the hormonal drop-off. Hormone treatments are often prescribed to help lessen these severe symptoms.

2. Premature Menopause

The second type of menopause is premature menopause, which is diagnosed when a woman goes through menopause in her 30s or early 40s. It’s usually secondary to autoimmune disease, nutritional deficiency, or some form of chronic stress (including excessive athletic conditioning) that has adversely affected hormone-related reproductive functions. Premature menopause occurs not only earlier but also faster than normal menopause, often necessitating supplemental hormones to maintain physical comfort during the transition.

3. Natural Menopause

Most women go through the third type of menopause—natural menopause, which occurs gradually, usually between ages 45 and 55, in a woman who has at least one of her ovaries. Many women begin noticing changes in their menstrual cycle and/or mood years before they actually have their final period. This transitional perimenopause period usually lasts five to ten years, though the entire process can sometimes take up to 13 years. There’s normally a gradual crescendo in the beginning, a peak as one approaches mid-transition, and a gradual decrescendo towards the end, as the body learns to live in harmony with its new hormonal and emotional milieu. During perimenopause, periods may stop for several months and then return, and they may also increase or decrease in duration, intensity, and flow. Whether you need hormone replacement or alternatives for symptom relief during this time depends on what else is going on in your body and your life.

Is This Perimenopause or Menopause?

It is virtually impossible to tell when you’re finished transitioning from perimenopause to menopause until it has been a year since your last menstrual period.

In other words, menopause itself can only be diagnosed a full 12 months after the transition is finished.

Nevertheless, because hormone levels both in the brain and the body undergo progressive changes during perimenopause, salivary hormone levels, urine levels, or blood levels can be measured to give you an idea of where you stand. Hormone levels can also help you monitor your need for hormone replacement or your dose.

In order to have the best transition possible, it is important to be optimally healthy going in. That means understanding what is happening in your body, and supporting it so that you continue to produce adequate amounts of hormones for the rest of your life.

Typical Symptoms of Perimenopause:

Many women sail through “the change” without any symptoms of perimenopause at all. Others experience a wide range of symptoms, all of which have physical, emotional, and psychological aspects.

During the years before menopause levels of progesterone typically decline, while estrogen levels remain stable or even increase. This is the most significant issue for the majority of women; many of the early symptoms that women feel are due to progesterone levels that are too low, in relation to their levels of estrogen.

Symptoms of Low Progesterone

This state of a low progesterone-to-estrogen ratio is also referred to as “estrogen dominance.” Some of the symptoms that women suffer when progesterone declines include:

  • Breast swelling and tenderness
  • Mood swings
  • “Fuzzy thinking”
  • Irritability
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Water retention
  • PMS
  • Weight gain

Symptoms of Low Testosterone

Testosterone levels may also start to decline well before the last menstrual cycle. While the symptoms of low testosterone are often more subtle that those of low progesterone, for some women they can be significant. Symptoms of low testosterone include:

  • Loss of sex drive
  • Decreased sexual response
  • Decreased sensitivity in your erogenous zones
  • Decreased sense of well-being, energy, and ambition
  • Depression
  • Loss of or thinning pubic hair

Symptoms of Low Estrogen

Estrogen is often the last hormone to decline, but is the hormone that is traditionally associated with menopausal symptoms. As you approach menopause your ovaries slow their production of estrogen. While your ovaries continue to make some estrogen for the rest of your life and your body is still producing it from other sources, the overall effect is a dramatic drop in the level of estrogen circulating in your body—about 30–60 percent for most women. Symptoms of estrogen decline include:

  • Hot flashes
  • Night sweats
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Decreased energy and ambition
  • Depression or mood swings
  • Dizziness
  • Headaches
  • Mental confusion
  • Urinary incontinence
  • Recurrent urinary tract infections
  • Increased susceptibility to vaginal infections

The Wisdom of Your Menopause Transition

Although women have been taught to dread menopause, this life stage ushers in the springtime of the second half of life and is often accompanied by surges in creativity, vitality, newfound ambition, and the need to be of meaningful service to the community in a larger way.

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During perimenopause and beyond, our goals and behavior become more motivated by the demands of our souls, not just those of society. We quite naturally seek answers from deep within instead of looking for approval from the outside.

The menopausal transition is actually a profound developmental stage in which unfinished business from the past comes up once again for resolution and healing, so that we can free ourselves from the outmoded beliefs and behaviors of our past. All the issues that weren’t resolved during puberty and early adulthood—such as body image, relationships, vocation, fear of aging, and self-esteem issues—now arise once more to be healed and completed.

While menopause itself is a normal life stage that does not cause health problems, the menopausal transition is marked by a statistically increased risk for breast cancer, osteoporosis, heart disease, arthritis, depression, and memory loss—all of which can be prevented if a woman heeds the wisdom of menopause and opens to her increased intuitive capacities. There are also a wide variety of options available for addressing and relieving the most common symptoms that arise during the menopausal transition.

Learn More — Additional Resources

For a full discussion of the three different types of menopause and effective approaches for possible symptoms, see Chapters 4, 5, and 6 in The Wisdom of Menopause by Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Last Updated: January 14, 2014

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and a leading authority in the field of women’s health and wellness. Recognizing the unity of body, mind, and spirit, she empowers women to trust their inner wisdom, their connection with Source, and their ability to truly flourish.

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  1. Coulson Duerksen
    2 months ago

    There are many resources available. Here is one: https://kellybroganmd.com/how-to-help-someone-who-is-suicidal/

  2. Janine
    2 months ago

    Hi, I notice you did not mention disrupted sleep in any of the lists. My “friend research” has this as a consistent symptom across 100% of them. I’m 51 and started having early AM insomnia about 3 years ago. It’s gotten a bit better but still an issue sometimes. Curious why you don’t mention it and who else out there has noticed this.

    1. Nina
      2 months ago

      I relate! Waking between 3 and 4am and being unable to go back to sleep has become the norm over past year resulting in 6hrs max sleep a night. Experiencing mild depression/general despondency and lack of mental clarity, which is out of character. Would like to hear what other women have found helpful. Thank you.

    2. Beth
      2 months ago

      It’s listed under low progesterone as trouble sleeping.

    3. Beth
      2 months ago

      It’s listed under the low progesterone symptoms as trouble sleeping. This is one of my biggest complaints is insomnia.

    4. Beth
      2 months ago

      It’s listed under low progesterone symptoms and also estrogen dominance. One of my worst symptoms

    5. Julie
      3 weeks ago

      I used to wake up at 3am like clockwork and then not be able to go back to sleep but then I discovered something that helps my insomnia… I set a soft phone alarm for 1am. When it goes off I go to the bathroom and take 3mg of liquid melatonin. Because I’m still really tired at 1am I go right back to sleep and sleep until 4:30 or 5, which is much better than a 3am wake up!

  3. Denise Wilson
    4 months ago

    So….. the latest “pause” was about 8 months. I thought I was almost there. Feeling pretty good, energy levels good. I had been on nuvaring for hormone replacement for several years which helped with the worst of the perimenopause symptoms. My body told me about a year ago to stop – severe headaches, terrible cycles when I had them. So doc and I decided to let things be and stop. All good. went 8 months no cycle. Feeling good.

    then I had a cycle a few months ago. Then nothing again. Clock reset I know. BUT, the last month or so the worst symptoms are back…night sweats, severe dry mouth, no energy, forgetful and irritable. God am I prickly……I have not changed my supplements, my diet is good (keto/low carb helps with night sweats a ton), etc. Is this normal in the process? Thanks

  4. Janean
    5 months ago

    Hi, I’m 51 and have been pretty regular except now. I had my period in Feb. then skipped March and started again April 20th and having prolonged bleeding. It was pretty light but it’s been 19 days and I still have my period. I’m going to have an ultrasound today to make sure everything is ok. Just was reading about seed cycling and didn’t know what was the best seeds to start with during my period cycle?

    1. Janean
      5 months ago

      Also would I benefit from using Young living oils- progessence plus?

  5. Candance
    7 months ago

    Hello I’m a 42 year old woman that is having a heck of time. I woke up one day so dizzy lightheaded and could barely walk! I’m still working, but I’ve been seeing a chiropractor and thought it could be my neck setting on a nerve, but no luck, seen my regular doctor and blood work comes out good but she didn’t check my hormone levels, now I’m seeing a neurologist and he ruled out autoimmune disorder, in the meantime I’ve realized I haven’t had a period for 3 to 4 months and was wondering if I was going through the change??? What can help lightheaded, anxiety, vertigo, is there something that can help????

    1. Candance
      7 months ago

      Also having night sweats

    2. Reina
      3 months ago

      I had a sudden onset of vertigo that came with viral conjunctivitis. I recovered by doing vestibular exercises developed by an MD at the University of Colorado. If you look for vestibular exercises on YouTube you should find a video of how to do them. In my case I had to do them several times for it to help with the dizziness and I had a bit of residual dizziness after which I was told by an audiologist is because the brain takes a few days to re-set after an imbalance in the inner ear. Good luck!

    3. Lepa
      2 months ago

      Hi, check out Sophrology (a relaxation technique), helps ease anxiety.

  6. Catherine
    7 months ago

    My OB-Gyn recently had my estrogen levels tested as I was complaining of hot flashes and night sweats which have been particularly difficult in recent weeks; I wake up several times every night, drenched in sweat, and need to change my bedlinen every morning. My OB-Gyn told me my estradiol levels were borderline high so no estrogen was needed (I have just turned 49).

    My periods have been regular since my late teens but I have not had any in the past seven weeks. There are no signs of it being on its way either.

    I am trying to get the following questions answered: can estrogen dominance cause symptoms such as hot flushes and night sweats? Should I ask to have my progesterone levels tested as well, or could I just try out OTC progesterone cream (ProgesterAll) and see if it makes me feel better? Can estrogen dominance cause periods to stop?

    I’d be most grateful for any input or suggestions!

  7. Ellie
    7 months ago

    Anyone else ever experience eczema and itchy rashes for the first time since perimenopause started?

    1. Melody
      7 months ago

      Yes

      1. Janean
        5 months ago

        Yes I get itchy mostly at night when going to bed

    2. Michelle S.
      7 months ago

      Yes! All of a sudden I’m sensitive to mascara and eye make-up and get an itchy rash around my eyes if I use it.

    3. Beth
      7 months ago

      YUP! Got much worse this past year. Have a “scar” patch of eczema/rash that won’t go away, it gets lighter, but won’t disappear 100%.

  8. Ms. P.
    7 months ago

    I am 49 now , but my symptoms started when I was 45. I woke up one day feeling a bit light headed and very anxious(feeling restless in the stomach and that feeling when we are nervous). I went to to my PCP and my BP was bit elevated (131/90) at her office. But two days after that I felt the same anxious feeling with extreme cold and body shaking and I went to ER and my BP was again high, and tested for everything and they couldn’t understand why my BP was high. but after a couple of hours BP came down normally. They thought it was a panic attack and gave some tablet for it. But I have been having these episodes of cold, shaking and my BP going up on and off for a few days every month around my periods. These symptoms come suddenly. I still get my periods regularly every 26 days, though lighter than before and also shorter cycle(mine used to be 31 days or so). The feeling of cold, shaking and can feel the heart beat is very terrifying and feels like some impending danger. Is this perimenopause related or some other thing. Does anyone have these cold shivers, shaking and BP spikes ? Having these symptoms for 4 years. I am on a light does of BP medication (Carvedilol) too.

    1. Leigh H
      6 months ago

      I’m 49 and recently had this happen to me at night while sleeping. I’m sweating then heart racing, then get up feeling panicked and then shake. Been to the er and a cardiologist nothing wrong, going for a stress test to be sure. My pulse jumps up every time this happens and wakes me. It’s not every night, but often. I still get my period regularly and it’s heavy. I’m hoping it’s hormonal and I can start bio identical hormones to fix my problems.

    2. Mrs Hall
      5 months ago

      This Is at Sakely what I am I have been experiencing lately and especially around my cycle almost exactly to the ER test results come back normal very terrifying.

    3. Claire
      5 months ago

      Hi I have just the same cold shivers then hot palpations dizzy wobbley legs shake tremours had all test ok blood pressure gets high every time visit docs I’m 49 and been suffering for about 7 years period are like yours anixztey sleep here and there it’s not nice

  9. Lori
    8 months ago

    Is it okay to take Amata and Black Cohosh at the same time?

  10. Ferndina
    8 months ago

    My 40’s has been pure hell! I felt wonderful when I was on birth control Paraguard for ten years; I loved it. When I took it out everything went down hill. I have fibroids, enlarged uterus, recommended hysterectomy, lost all my beautiful hair, cant get it to grow back. I am so emotional, my daughter says I am mean all the time. I get so frustrated with her I now know it me not her lol I cannot stand the sight of men right now, sex blah, relationship blah no interest at all. Thank you Dr. Northrup for putting things in perspective for me. Now that I know what I am experiencing, it is time to create a lifestyle regimen to help me flow through this transition journey.

    1. Sarah
      6 months ago

      I could of wrote this myself! I would’ve 41 and I have become a monster, anxiety and panic attacks took over, I can’t stand the smell of my husband or my son.. Maybe it’s all men I guess.. But night sweats, can’t catch my breath, itching, I can’t get out if my head from over thinking, hair loss also, it just won’t grow and suddenly turned gray! Like literally overnight! I hurt.. Headaches, I guess I’m a big ball of hormone fun

      1. Rosa
        2 months ago

        Have you checked your thyroid? Sounds like yours is low. Request TSH, free T3, free T4, TPO antibodies and reverse T3 tests. Good luck!

  11. KC
    8 months ago

    I approached three doctors when I was 33, 7 years ago about hormones before one said, let’s test them. Because of my age the others said, you are too young. Tests showed they were within normal range but I had never felt so bad in my life. My youngest was not even two when I started feeling bad. I had insomnia, anxiety, depression, foggy brain, major PMS, awful. Finally, a different GYNO that didn’t deliver my kids suggested trying some compounded progesterone as I can’t take estrogen because of a genetic blood clotting disorder. After a week of using it I noticed I was sleeping better. I charted all of my symptoms for there on. After a cycle or two I saw a behavior therapist. It did wonders for the irrational worrying I was experiencing. I still have to use techniques once in a great while but I found it very therapeutic. Then about 9 months after using the compounded progesterone I met with a Naturopath doctor. Before I go further, I met with my GP initially which was one of the doctor’s that told me I was too young to be experiencing anything hormonal and that hormone testing isn’t accurate and expensive. He ended up giving me a prescription for an antidepressant and antianxiety meds that made me even more miserable. So after being on it for a week and seeing the GYNO that suggested compounded hormones, I stopped. It was the best thing I ever did for my situation. I really felt it was hormonal and I wanted to treat the cause. The Naturopath doctor helped me with supplements and replenishing my adrenals which balanced things out. It took some time but I finally felt like I could grab the bull by the horns again and live my life and enjoy it. We have changed things up a couple of times but the last 7 years have been good until April of 2017. I had turned 40. I started experiencing panic attacks, I would all of the sudden get hot and feel like there was no airflow, panic and my heart would race, so I would crank of the air and cool off, then I was ok. This happened a handful of times. Then in fall of 2017 I started feeling an unbalanced sensation, almost like I was hungover but I wasn’t. I would feel anxiety and nausea, my nighttime vision wasn’t like it used to be and I felt like I was looking through a fish bowl. I noticed the anxiety, panic and nausea was increasing a week or so before my period. I finally saw my GP the week before xmas and explained I had been sinus and/or ear infection sick two times over the fall so he prescribed me a stronger antibiotic to hopefully kick what was left because I also felt like my right side wasn’t draining as well as my left. Each morning it’s more congested. If the meds didn’t help then I was to see an ENT. The meds didn’t do much but before seeing an ENT I went to a different eye doctor. I had my yearly in 10/17 but nothing changed. When I saw the new guy he did an extensive workup since I was having issues and he hadn’t seen me before. He said my current prescription was almost twice as strong as what he said I was reading at! I was in shock. How could it change that quickly? So we adjusted my prescription and he wants to make adjustments slowly but things did seem better after making that adjustment. Then onto the ENT. Hearing tested good, CT of sinuses which showed a crooked septum but otherwise good. Nothing on the scan would cause the unbalanced feeling, etc. So I am back to square one. I am seeing my Naturopath next week. One thing I have looked into was looking back at my cycles. This is something I have charged since having my first baby. In the last 12 months, the majority of my cycles were shorter, some period days were shorter. I also have spotted right before starting my period which is unlike me. My latest cycle was a bit odd. Leading up to starting, the week prior, my symptoms were not fun. Last Friday when I got home from work, I started cramping like I was starting and all of my symptoms disappeared, tender breasts, anxiety, nausea, gone. Went to the bathroom to check nothing. Nothing Saturday morning. Saturday at lunch time I had some spotting and then Aunt Flo arrived. Never had all my symptoms let down and not started right away or started and then the symptoms let down. Does any of this sound like Perimenopause or just an inbalance?

  12. Tara Evans
    8 months ago

    Hi everyone, I’m 46 and been noticing symptoms the last 4 years, mostly skin and digestive irritation, irregular cycles with more PMS and depression with lots of public crying, which is always fun! It drove me to desperation 18 months ago and I really felt like jacking life in. I did try talking to my mother and stepmother about it and was reassured to hear that they recognised the hopeless feeling that sweeps over me. I have had a hell of a journey the past year, had to leave my husband because of his lack of support (luckily I don’t have children), sold almost everything I owned because just owning things and having to dust them, etc, was too much for me mentally. Been homeless a year now, sofa surfing and staying with family. Not easy! The best time for me was this summer, I walked a National Trail by myself and stayed and worked on organic farms (WOOFing) and during that time I experienced almost no symptoms, either PMS or IBS. So I joke to my friends I have a cure for perimenopause – just get rid of your life and possessions and undertake hard physical labour every day and you’ll be fine! Not been so good since returning to my hometown again. Seriously though, we can get through this with courage, taking care of our bodies and putting ourselves first in our lives. All power to you and hope you all find your way. I love your approach Christie, thanks for sharing it with us.

    1. MrsW
      8 months ago

      Hello everyone and Tara – your note struck a chord with me. I am 46 and I have been having bad peri-menopausal symptoms for 2 years (but I only realise that now). Very heavy periods, but still regular, and I can cope with that. It’s all the other things that I’m struggling with. Physically, I have put on weight, my skin and hair have changed, terrible digestive issues, bad bladder control, often tired. Emotionally, I have bad anxiety and I just don’t feel myself at all. My worst symptom is breast tenderness/pain which radiates out to my armpits and is almost constant for the two weeks prior to my period. This fuels a lot of anxiety about breast health so I have very regular comprehensive checks. I have always been such a capable person, I am professionally qualified and I own a decent business. I have three lovely children and a fantastic husband. But I have become a dumpy, frumpy, moaning middle aged woman and I hardly recognise myself a lot of the time! I agree with the comments about physical exercise. I feel good after a day gardening but pretty rubbish when I’m sitting at my desk at work shovelling biscuits into my face. I have now decided that enough is enough and I need to take control of my health and my happiness for the next phase of my life. I’m going to overhaul my diet and take up some proper exercise. I don’t want to get any drugs or HRT from my GP. In any event, whilst an excellent doctor and a good friend, when I tentatively mentioned menopause to my GP, she said she had no time for the menopause! I’ve started taking lots of supplements – I can’t tell if they are making a difference physically but I think the process of taking them makes me feel better – starflower oil, magnesium, a general Menopause multivitamin and whatever else I fancy. It’s great to find this website and I would really welcome any comments on breast tenderness – tips, etc. Thank you and love to all! P.S. yes, HotflashMama, I had terrible pins and needles and tingling (which obviously my health anxiety convinced me was MS) but which I think could be a vitamin/mineral deficiency. I read that the magnesium should help the pins and needles and I think it has a bit.

    2. Kat
      8 months ago

      When I was your age, doctors chalked everything up to that time of life… but I ended up figuring out that I had a bunch of nutritional deficits, mineral imbalances, heavy metal build up (eventually had two root canal teeth extracted, immediately felt depression lift)… and mold irritates me. Wonder if your walkabout helped you with some of that too. I wonder where your feet would like to take you next.

      1. marihari
        5 months ago

        How did you figure out that you had heavy metal build up? And mineral imbalances?

  13. HOTflashMama
    8 months ago

    Anyone have tingling hands and feet?

    1. Maria
      8 months ago

      Yes, I’ve had that quite a bit, went to the doctor, she wanted to do a nerve test which I declined, to bad they don’t all understand these unusual symptoms of hormone imbalance, thankfully for blogs, I’m reassured that im not going crazy and these weird symptoms do exist, hang in there, mine stopped after a few weeks.

    2. Beth
      7 months ago

      100%, its awful!

    3. Teri
      3 months ago

      Yes!! That is why I checked out this blog. I know it has been six months since you posted. Are you feeling better? Has the tingling improved? Three years ago, I experienced tingling and my doctor took blood tests and it revealed my level of vitamin B1 was depleted and that could cause tingling. So I started taking 100mg. of B1 and it went away. Now it started again , mostly in my arms and feet, but also my neck, hands, it just moves around. I started taking B1 again but it’s not working as quickly. I have not had a period in nine months, so I am definitely in perimenopause and just read last that decreasing levels of estrogen can cause the tingling sensations. I am going to see my doctor but was curious to know if others had this and what they did.

  14. Gretchen Guttridge
    9 months ago

    HELP! I am going through hormone HELL! No Dr. believes me and it is becoming very frustrating. I am 34 and began having systems about 8 months after the birth of my second child. I have dizziness, digestive issues, anxiety, depression, muscle cramps, sleep problems, heart palpitations, short of breath! I have a history of anxiety and depression but this is different, and I am tired of all the Doctors telling me it’s anxiety! I need some help please.

    1. Kathryn Wells
      9 months ago

      Try changing your diet to autoimmune paleo or keto. Sugar can often exacerbate hormones and make our symptoms worse. I just started keto paleo a week ago and have lost 11 lbs without restricting calories. I drink a lot of water, and supplement daily with magnesium, sodium and potassium. This is because when your body goes into ketosis, its important to drink a lot of water, and so those three minerals are shed very easily. Try it out and see how you feel after the keto flu has subsided (6-14 days after starting the program)

    2. Kathryn Wells
      9 months ago

      I forgot to add that these 2 protocols will help with your digestive issues, mood swings and even depression. Cramps and dizziness are often a sign of low electrolytes. Try drinking more water with magnesium, sodium and potassium. But also go see your doctor to make sure it’s not something worse.

    3. cvapatient
      8 months ago

      Find a good doctor, I believe dr. Nystrup can refer to one in your neighborhood. For muscle cramps you can take magnesium every day and epsom salt baths. (see “women’s bodies, women’swisdom). The extra magnesium may help you with cramps, sleeping problems and depression. But first of all have yourself checked thorougly so you know there is no other cause for your troubles.

      Sending you a healing ball of energy 🙂

    4. Chris
      5 months ago

      Ketosis / Low carb and intermittent fasting almost killed me. ( So many health problems, and depression so bad I could hardly go. ) BEWARE – just saying. May be it worked for some, but not for me. There is no “magic bullet”. We are all individuals <3

    5. Claudia
      5 months ago

      I’m in the exact same situation. I’m 34 and mine started after i stopped breast feeding my daughter. The only thing that helped was taking a progesterone only bc pill but unfortunately that seems to lead to more depression.

    6. Rosa
      2 months ago

      Sounds like low thyroid. Request full thyroid panel

  15. Carol
    9 months ago

    Hi everyone,
    I am glad to be able to talk about what l am going through at the moment as it always helps to talk and share our challenges. I am 43 years of age. June last year, all of a sudden l had the worst headache in the back of my neck and followed by a panic like attack. This went away in a couple of days, but every month after my period would finish, three days later, the same thing would occur – neck pain, followed by the anxiety. By the fourth month, the anxiety lingered and became severe with extreme restless legs, and night sweats. I was crying, anxious, restless, nervous and confused. I didn’t want to eat at all. I have seen nearly every specialist you can think of from a Neurologist, Internist, Gynaecologist, Ortho Molecular specialist, Psychologist and Endocrinologist.

    I have had to quit my job as every morning around 5.30am, l wake with heart palpitations and restless legs. I am currently on a low dose of anti depressants and also taking the birth pill.

    What seems to ease my anxiousness is to move, this also helps with my restless legs. I still have not received confirmation that l am in the pre menopause phase but all my symptoms, including dryness and low sex drive all point to hormonal imbalance.

    I hope we all find relief soon xoxox

    1. Kelly
      9 months ago

      Restless legs can be related to blood sugar. Adrenal dysfunction can cause all of these symptoms and it cascades into hormone imbalance. I would look into getting tested for adrenal fatigue and check your fasting blood sugar. An easy way to check for adrenals is to have a urine test and look at sodium and potassium levels to see how far apart they are.

  16. Bea Saunders
    9 months ago

    I’m 48 years old now but in my late 30’s early 40’s I was a hormonal mess and didn’t know. I was a raging lunatic, I was moody to say the least, zero sex drive, irregular periods and always hangry!!!! I thought the issue was everyone in my personal life. (At work I was fine).
    I spilled my guts to my PCP one day and he said I was depressed and prescribed a low dose antidepressant?????? Which did sorta help for the moment.
    After finding a great GYN doctor in May of last year (hard to get in) — I’m now in a good place but not without some mishaps…..I did try an IUD August of last year which after 2.5 months turned into a nightmare with severe bleeding, a visit to the ER and a D&C. My GYN prescribed me bioidentical hormones I started 1/1/18 and so far so good!!! No hotflases…sex drive has improved and I’ve lost weight. I’m hoping this might be the answer to my perimenopausal stage until I fully hit menopause. I’ll keep you posted. Wish me luck.

    1. Carol
      9 months ago

      Hi Bea,

      Glad to hear you are feeling better with the bioidentical hormones. I will look into this myself.

      Healthy regards,

      Carol Jabbour

  17. kimmiepoo
    9 months ago

    I am having most of the symptoms mentioned in this forum ,HOWEVER, I am also having some other uncomfortable little gems. Swollen and irritated down south. Lots of discharge but also very dry down there. I have found the Replens moisturizing gel and it has been a God send. The heart palpitations, flushing, hot flashes and the worst sleep I’ve ever experienced in my life can go elsewhere as well. I cry all the time and am pretty much miserable. This came out of left field for me as well. I noticed some irritation the week before Christmas and thought it was a yeast infection and I treated it as such which didn’t help at all. Then my period came right on time but with no PMS at all. I have always had severe PMS symptoms and this month I had none. My period has always lasted exactly 7 days with bleeding all the way til the end. This period was 4 days and the heaviest bleeding it’s ever been with large blood clots. I turned 41 in September so I guess this is par for the course. I am hoping to get in to see my doctor this week and get something figured out. This can’t be my life now 🙁 I am not married and have no one to talk to about this. I’m so glad I found this place with these stories. I’ve never be so down. Thank you to all for sharing your stories.

    1. Carol
      9 months ago

      Thanks for sharing, I really can relate 🙁

      1. kimmiepoo
        9 months ago

        You’re welcome Carol. How are you managing? I went to the doctor last Friday. A female doctor no less and was told “there is no test for hormones”. She said that normal is between 90 and 100 and therefore it cannot be tested? She wanted to do a biopsy instead. I walked out and will not go back. I have found another gyno and go see her on the 6th. She will do testing I know. I’m managing. Last night was pretty rough with the hot flashes but it could always be worse I guess. I miss the old me though. 🙁

        1. Kristin
          3 months ago

          Same experience. For 5 years my female OBGYN who is in her 50’s told me that hormone testing wouldn’t do any good if I was still getting a period. Unbelievable how unhelpful some doctors are!

        2. Liz
          1 week ago

          Finally found a MD/Functional medicine doctor (she’s both) after hearing the same thing about no test for hormones. The test you’re looking for is called the DUTCH hormone test. You may have to pay out of pocket and go to a functional medicine or natural path doctor, who often do not take insurance. But the test DOES exist and I’m still frustrated by how little my PCP and GYN seem to understand about balancing hormones.

    2. jennyRuth
      8 months ago

      I can identify completely. One thing that really helped me was progesterone cream. I use about 90mg a day topically. I tried the progesterone pills but they were too expensive and also – felt strange. The cream helps my moods, migraines, cravings, sex drive…you name it. There is a lot of research out there around using progesterone and it all leans towards positive results. I was resistant at first around hormones but, after dealing with so much intense stuff, I went for it. I am super happy I did. Dr Northrup has some information on it too. Take care of yourself.

    3. Nicky
      6 months ago

      Hi Kimmiepoo. I know it’s been a while since you posted this but I had to reply and let you know that I am experiencing the same stuff. I’ve done tests and all is well … they say. The anxiety and gastro symptoms are the most challenging things to deal with for me. Hang in there. You’re not alone in this. This too shall pass …. just wish it would roll along a little faster

  18. Danelle
    11 months ago

    I’m a natural redhead. Most people I know seem to be going through perimenopause easily, but I’m a mess. I feel like Edith Bunker in the “Edith’s Problem” episode of All In The Family. I’m moody, depressed, anxiety-ridden, angry, can’t sleep, can’t get up in the morning, no energy, no ambition, gaining weight, digestive tract is acting up, and while I’ve always been fairly able to get along with almost everyone, I feel like I’m now constantly in conflict. To those of you who have tons of peri symptoms – are you redheads, too? Do we redheads have it worse?

    1. Ginge
      10 months ago

      Im too a natural red head. Im 43yrs old and it all started last year for me. My sex drive went down hill. I started to get a burning red face at 5pm every night that lasted a few hours. Followed by night sweats every night. Had a few weeks where i felt like i had the flu, then i started to take a wellwoman tablet every day for a year and all was good. Untill now. Since end of November 2017 ive been real crap!!! Im normally a very bubbly outgoing person who has turned into a recluse. My family are grown up and seeing the changes in me alongside my husband of 22yrs who is struggling to understand me. I no longer have a sex drive nor do i get aroused. My boobs are full and tender, i have bloating. I hardly sleep. Constant weeing thru the night. Headaches on and off day and night. Dizziness foggy head. Feel like im not on this planet. Forgetful. Real low .aches and pains.i struggle to go to work and struggle with making conversation with anyone. Need to get back in bed as and when i can. I cant take much more of feeling like this i just want to be me again. I had bloods done last month for all fatigue related things all were fine. Waiting on my last weeks bloods for hormone tests although this may be unreliable due to me taking the birth control which has stopped my periods for a few years now so i dont know where im at naturally with my menstral cycle right now. Also i get really cold feet when i get into bed but they are sweaty at the same time. I just hope i get some joy from these bloods as i was starting to think i had something drastically wrong woth me till i read these other womans same symptons.

    2. Karen
      9 months ago

      You described my symptoms and what I’m feeling to a tee! But alas, I am not a redhead (although I do have reddish undertones).
      At 52, I still have regular periods, but am now miserable a majority of the month vs the 3-4 days leading to my period. Ugh.
      I just recently started reading The Wisdom of Menopause, which has helped me feel like I’m not the only one!! If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend.
      Hope things get better for you soon!

  19. Dee
    11 months ago

    46 yo, no period for 6 mos. migraines, dizziness, off balance, no energy. This happened last year-8 mos no period then boom a period regularly for 4 mos. can I start taking hormones?? I’m miserable.

    1. jennyRuth
      8 months ago

      Try progesterone. That should ease things and balance your cycles a bit. Don’t do estrogen though, it is nasty.

    2. Maria
      8 months ago

      You could try a low dose of natural progesterone and the low dose estrogen patch, they helped me and I spent years afraid of trying hormones, if they don’t work, you just stop!! Good luck

  20. Rebecca
    11 months ago

    All I can say is I am grateful to all those who have posted here and I wish we could all go out to lunch one day. Perimenopause insanely sucks. I have had crippling pain in my head and face and — and is there a DSM entry called bi-polar-insomnia-narcolepsy disorder? This is where you can only sleep from 12:30 AM to 3:15 AM one day and then can’t get out of bed the next day. I try to walk 3 miles per day or go to the Y, but the headaches and this sleep insanity interrupts my gym or walking routine all the time. I am chronically tired, and this affect my mood badly. No one told me that peri-menopause would utterly destroy my life, my ability to have some semblance of a normal sleep schedule, and my ability to hike or work out without fear of bringing on a crazy headache. I asked my mother about it – she said “eh, nothing really happened. I don’t remember.” I am going to remember this part of my life, even if I would like it to be over with and forgotten about. I am single and these crazy symptoms make it impossible to get enough social activity into my schedule, also — so I spend too much time alone.

  21. sandra
    11 months ago

    If this is part of the golden years that were talked about when I was young I will be glad to end without them. the sweating alone has cost me my job accused of doing drug/drinking not the case drug test on the spot proved that. my daughter said I was dead to her 3 years ago and her last words were your a disgusting FAT PIG have gained 40 lbs in less than 6 mos cant stand being around anyone the slightest noise gives me headaches so bad that I cant see and throw up for days on end. On the months that I do get me period it takes a ultra tampon, a pad and depends just to make it to the pharmacy to pick up all the prescriptions that the doctors think will help non of them have made a difference except to depress me further as the anti-depression medication has caused me to gain 30 more lbs in 5 weeks. Now having lost my job I do not have insurance to cover all the different lets try this lets try that pill the doctors are trying to give me. Also I have no clothes had to make a dress from a sheet just to have something to ware to the doctors. My family has now uninvited me to all holiday parties saying I am a disgusting disgrace to them and they don’t want to be embarrassed by me any more. My boyfriend walked out saying all sorts of mean nasty things from what a pig I eat a 900 calorie a day diet because I am now so fat I’m diabetic. Now the Insomnia part of this has lead to an eviction notice from my apartment management neighbors complained about lights on ,the tv and shower going late night early morning. Friends no longer call or want me around they say I smell well with the hot flashes and sweating 3-5 showers a day I still stick I cant even stand myself. Now I’m being told I have anywhere from 5 to 10 more years of these problems and some women they never do get the medication right to help with any or all the symptoms. I use to live the perfect life made 200,00 plus a year, vacations, new cars , clothes, friends, a husband, family now I live on the street my hair is falling out , teeth are loose and rotting and my food comes from a dumpster and on the good note my mother & most of the women in my family went thru 15+years of menopause before they didn’t have a period for a full year but non of them suffered barely any symptoms. I have no ambition , don’t care , can barely think straight all I see is endless and unnecessary suffering for years to come. I am now being asked to leave the library do to a nasty smell. Well least I can say not wanting sex or to be touched anywhere breast sagging belly and cellulite and fat have strechted the skin on belly and legs so badly that it has cracked and puss like cellulite ousies out along with the acne I didn’t have as a teenager and all the doctors can say is try this drug or that one and its part of life well no one should suffer like this for 10+ years and be told its part of life, yea no life I ever expected to suffer thru but it is all the truth.

  22. Kathy Lainey
    11 months ago

    I’m 56 and still in perimenopause. I don’t have many issues with hot flashes or night sweats but I am having issues with insomnia. Probably a year and a quarter ago my periods were long, flooding, and full of clots. The bleeding was so bad that I became dizzy, short of breath, and pounding heart after these episodes. This happened around July or August. The next couple of periods were pretty much normal. In November, my period was the same as back in July or August. The next several months extremely light periods that didn’t last long. This month (November), my period lasted one day but was flooding and full of clots. The insomnia, the dizziness, the shortness of breath, and debilitating fatigue. Will this ever go away? Will I get to that promised land you talk about? I have no energy, no ambition, no motivation, and extreme lethargy.

    1. Janean
      5 months ago

      What is the longest amount of days you flowed? I skipped one month and then when I did get the next month am still flowing for 19 days. So sick of it.

  23. Margaret
    12 months ago

    Hi..im 45 yrs old..im still on my menstrual,I have no sex drive,my mood is low most of the time,muscle stiffness in neck,around shoulders etc… Im still holding it all together.The Doc doesn’t listen,hormone levels are so so..when Im on my period I’m exhausted…wrking or either sleeping…buts it’s the pain,I cannot say I’m used to it…5years nw but mentally it’s draining,from the person I was to nw..well it says it all,is anyone experiencing this.????. Pl

    1. Vanessa
      11 months ago

      Have you tried to work with a doctor trained in functional medicine, or a doctor of naturopathy? They use different ranges that what conventionally-trained MDs use. So you may look “fine” in the eyes of conventional medicine, but not necessarily so in the eyes of alternative/integrative medicine. Most importantly, you should not have to suffer or have to get “used to it.” You can find a Functional Medicine provider in your area on this site: https://www.ifm.org/ (The Institute of Functional Medicine). Hope that helps!

      1. Grace
        11 months ago

        Thanks for sharing! I am going to find one in my area. 🙂

    2. Cheryl Stevens
      10 months ago

      I am 48 and am experiencing daily neck and shoulder aches, severe fatigue, terrible anxiety and just want to hibernate until it is all over. Finding it hard to function and the pain takes all my energy.

      1. Debbie IS
        8 months ago

        Hi Cheryl I have just found this forum and have the same symptoms as you, bad neck and nd shoulders and really lethargic with no energy. My doctor thinks it is Chronic fatigue syndrome but looking at this site I think it may be peri menopause feeling pretty crap really. Can’t say about periods as am on the coil. Going mad indeed!!! Anybody any suggestions I do have night sweats but not day ones.

        Debbie

        1. jackie
          6 months ago

          hi Debbie,
          I’m reading this forum I’min perimenapause and I also have the symptoms ,you should try the adrenal cocktail Google it it will help with fatigue.

        2. Jackie Munoz
          6 months ago

          Hi Debbie,
          I’m in perimenapause I suffer on a daily basis but my biggest issue right now is burning sensation around body and itchy skin, I did have really bad fatigue it’s subsided alote you should look in to adrenal cocktail it’s suppose to help with adrenal fatigue.
          Hang in there

      2. Joanne
        5 months ago

        Hello Cheryl,
        I am 49 and have the exact same symptoms. I thought it was my mattress lol but, I think it may be perimenopause.

  24. EllaRaye
    12 months ago

    As i type this, I lay (or is it lie?) in my bed fearing the second worse headache in my life…my first worse was yesterday…so bad I zipped to the ER fearing real bad news…CT scan showed no bleeding or anything abnormal with my brain…800mg motrin normally knocks it out but that wasn’t the case yesterday…i was probably born with headaches which became predictable but more painful with birth control pills in my teens…at some point I started having tension headaches with the occasional migraine and all of them nearly stopped when I transitioned to vegetarian diet 11 years ago…this past April I went to my private doc bc my cycle started changing and i experienced hot flashes…she said I was perimenopausal without any tests and i told her I wanted to go at it natural so no HRT for me…most women in my family had complete or partial hysterectomy so i had no clue what to expect or when this would occur…i just hit 43 years in September and i want to embrace these changes but in the last 3 months I’ve had headaches again…the 1st 2 were announcing my cycle just like when on BCP, but this cycle I barely got a headache in the beginning but yesterday (last day of my period) it brought tears and fear…my cycles were 26 days, now 23 to 34…thats fine..the flow is all over the place and duration is the same 5 days at this point..i could bleed for weeks and be fine but these headaches I can’t deal with…especially if they’re as bad as yesterday…ER prescribed a barbituate and nausea med that im hesitant to take…im getting a daith piercing next week to see if that helps with the headaches…im already on celexa for anxiety but i want off those as well bc it does nothing for anxiety on the road and makes me so tired…id like to know what my hormone levels are as well as Iron since my VA doc claims I’m ‘slightly’ anemic… like I said..i want to be happy abt this but it seems like my body is trying to kill me…

    1. Jb
      11 months ago

      Try eating red meat before and during your period

    2. jennyRuth
      8 months ago

      My migraines went out of hand as I entered perimenopause. It is actually common for women to get them because of the progesterone drop that is happening. Try progesterone as the pill or topically. It really helped get the horrific painful migraines back in check and also helped my moods. So few doctors every suggest it and yet there is loads of research showing how helpful it can be on many levels plus, it doesn’t have the dangerous side effects that estrogen does.

  25. Stephanie Doucette
    1 year ago

    Absolutely some of the best writing and humor here!!! Ahhhhhh…. therapyyyyy! I’m taking a deep breath, putting down my knife and erasing the text I was just about to send my effin husband!! Ladies, thank you!! Ditto to so many things that you have all written. I feel like I am safe walking into the grocery store with all the “public” out there for at least the next 30 minutes!! Whoosh! ❤️

  26. Edith
    1 year ago

    Hi….ladies

    I am going through hell last year in Oct I start having Digest system problem. I got full quick and start having skipping heart beats can’t sleep waking all through the night. I start going through this in my late 3o’s now I am 48 . I see a period once out a year, I cramps like I am about to come on and don’t see nothing. My Appeti go up-and-down weight go up-and-down . Somebody please help me.

  27. Yadyra
    1 year ago

    Hi!
    After a life of regular periods my peri-menopause started with a no period month, and two months later, a period that doesn’t go. I don’t sleep well and I am bleeding since four months ago. I went to the doctor and said I have an ovarian tumor and enlarged uterus. My biopsy was ok. My anxiety escalated some days but now I feel better, although I have cramps and back pain. I took a progesterone injection two months ago and my period stopped for three weeks and started again. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Rebecca
      11 months ago

      How did the progesterone injection make you feel? Did it help? Thanks, R

  28. Nina Rae
    1 year ago

    I feel healing just reading about everyone’s experiences. I come from a family whose women seemed to “sail right through” menopause, and quite frankly, I am doing the opposite. Like another reader, I wonder what demon it is that has possessed by body and mind lately. My first lovely arrival into the 40’s was a fibroid the size of a golf ball, that turned by usual “every 28 days and light/moderate for 4 days” cycle into a butcher house of pain, blood and misery. Sex at any time of the month left a scene that should be yellow taped off and the detectives called. Then the headaches came – big ones. The kind that make you dream about ice picks to the skull that may release the pain, but you know that isn’t an option. Yes, I’ve tried all the triptans and “best” migraine meds. Meh. Then my lumbar vertebrae decided to spit out several levels of discs. Apparently, my “gusto” for life and the ligaments and tendons in my spinal column do not get along. Looking at the x-rays, my bones look 10 years older than I am. Thoughts of great-granny humped over at the dinner table, her chin barely above the plate, trying to eat without many teeth plagued my nightmares. Then came the mood swings. Miss “Peace and Love” and “Don’t Worry Be Happy”, enjoying bare feet, sunshine and going with the flow became Miss “War and Misery”. Family started to dart to the corners of the house and I took a new interest in gangsta rap music – it was a vehicle to let all that negative energy out. My once athletic body was overworked and undernourished. Yes, I was working 16 hours a day at an executive level with a pager and two cell phones. I dumped sugar and caffeine in whenever I could, like stopping at a gas station for fuel. Kids were grown, yes, but my divorced parents slid into elderly-ness and all that entails: endless doctor appointments (translated: hey boss, I need to leave early, AGAIN), and a new knowledge about their body functions I was not prepared to know about, or care for. Finances were tight. Morning commutes were hellacious, and I began lecturing all the drivers on their assinine behavior and lack of skills, in various degrees of colorful language. When a lover noticed things were “dry” down there, I wanted to put a bag over my head – and his. Didn’t he care that my boobs were now uncharacteristically enormous? God suddenly decided to move my C cup into the D-zone. But they hurt. And I have a fan in EVERY room. Sometimes two. With the A/C on already. I drive the care with the thermostat set on 60 degrees F, just so I can down another cup of coffee. People started asking me, “Are you ok?” They must have noticed that I was wobbly on my feet, dizzy again. Honestly, I started to remember how I once was “back then”, or “when I was younger”, with a new depression that it wasn’t all that long ago. The therapist put me on anti-anxiety meds and sleep meds and said “slow down”. But honestly, I can’t even get going. My brain is so foggy, I wonder if I will ever be the intelligent, sharp scientific woman I once was. Will I ever by athletic again? Should I start wearing “comfortable shoes” and pray that I don’t grow a mustache or lose bladder control? Is this the slippery slide? The silent torture? My GP says “oh, you’ll get through it”. I’m not. I’m 50. I haven’t had a period in 6 months. My body is in rebellion. I certainly do not need to be 25 or 35 again. But I would like to not scare my family away. I’d like to be “me” again. Until I came here and read these stories by these women warriors (and we all are, honey), I thought I was losing my mind and body. Now I found my humor and a sense of hope. Thank you.

    1. Liz Hait
      1 year ago

      Hi Nina,
      I just heard about Dr. Northrup today and logged on to her website. Here I found your story first and I can completely relate. I’m on the 7th WEEK of my having period. I’m 52 years old and I didn’t have my period all summer long, for it to come back full force August 11 and it hasn’t stopped since (maybe a total of 3 or 4 days in between that August date and today). I just had an ultrasound yesterday where they did find a fibroid the size of a golf ball, in addition to cysts on both ovaries. But no phone call as of yet, which I suppose is good news, but I’m ready to do whatever it takes to stop this damn period. All summer I had hot flashes, brain fog, moodiness, sleep disruption (although now, I’m so tired from these 7 weeks, I’m sleeping really well). I went on depressants for the moodiness, but I’m done taking prescriptions. I just want to work on what’s wrong with my inner energy that’s producing these crazy symptoms. I actually don’t work crazy hours and my daughter is all grown up and doesn’t live me. I am however in a new relationship and we haven’t even taken it to the next level (sex) because the week after we met is when my period came back! He’s been a complete saint. Anyway, I just wanted to connect and tell you that you are not alone. I would like to be me again too. Take care.

      1. Tammi
        1 year ago

        Liz- Have you tried Reiki? It’s a form of relaxation that’s supposed to facilitate the body’s natural innate healing abilities. I’m in the process of seeking out alternative therapies since a) my mother had a bad experience with hormone replacement therapy, and b) I avoid drugs like the plague. So, as soon as I find a reputable local practitioner, I’m so there, because it sounds amazing! 🙂

      2. Lee
        4 months ago

        Oh my god I love this post!! Humor will get you everywhere. Thank you for making this insanity funny. You will be better than before! I was told this is the time to take extra good care of yourself. It really is true. SLOW DOWN. Drink water, try to sleep/rest. Take vitamins (especially Calcium/Magnesium). Go for walks. Sounds corny, but your body is trying to find a new normal and it’s completely taxing! Here’s another great resource that I found all of this from: https://www.avogel.co.uk. It will take effort to focus on yourself, but you owe it to your body after years of going through monthly cycles. Stay strong!

    2. Tammi
      1 year ago

      Nina- I just had to comment and thank you for sharing your experiences. Your writing style is hilarious, and while I’m sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through, I appreciate the comic relief. This topic can definitely use some levity. And laughing sure beats crying… or screaming. 😉

    3. Alexia Marcoux-Zorrilla
      12 months ago

      Nina,
      You rock! You made me laugh as I lie here in bed on a Sunday morning beating back a migraine and searching up hormone creams and praying I don’t have a brain tumor because I am dizzy and get pulsing twitches in my head and this feeling of craziness which is the latest development in this string of unfortunate events called premenopause… Thankyou for being so honest.. just read that caffeine is really bad for estrogen dominance. So dammitwhy coffee?? It’s one of my few pleasures…
      It really helps to know that we are all going through this… if only we could believe that it will end as all those lovely ladies in purple with silver hair and wisdom lines seem to promise…
      Right now the effects are so visceral it’s hard to see a way through it
      Thanks again
      Alexia

      1. Juanita Gonzales
        10 months ago

        For everybody dealing with dizziness, I had scary dizziness that kept me from driving. I started progesterone cream at 100mg 2x a day and it stopped it 98.9%. Seems if really stressed I can get dizzy a little. It’s not a cure but it helped me a lot.

        1. Diane Guevara
          9 months ago

          Juanita, I have dizziness now and then while just sitting at my desk at work! I have used progesterone cream before and it worked for my ovarian cyst situation in my mid to late 30’s…I am 52.5 yrs. Old. Still in peri menopause..ugh…

    4. Victoria
      10 months ago

      Start using bioidentical hormones asap! Menopause is optional!

  29. Marvella Alarid
    1 year ago

    Hi Lovely Ladies,

    I am 50 and have been going through menopause for about 5 years. I have had every symptom you can think of and times have felt like I’m going crazy. I can assure you this is not the case.
    I have turned to a naturopath to help me. She does a full panel of tests and will not only look at the levels but how you are feeling. Most doctors will tell you your levels are in a good range but that is not the full picture. I take bio-identical hormones and they are modified regularly based on my symptoms that can change at a moments notice. Don’t let regular doctors dismiss your symptoms.
    I recently started to notice breast discharge in one breast. I am having my prolactin levels checked. High levels of prolactin can also be a result of menopause and this can result in lethargy, weight gain and even eye problems, which I’ve had all.
    Do your research and don’t let anyone dismiss your symptoms.
    You are deserving of feeling great even going through this change.
    I hope this is helpful information.

  30. Marvella
    1 year ago

    Hi Lovely Ladies,

    I am 50 and have been going through menopause for about 5 years. I have had every symptom you can think of and times have felt like I’m going crazy. I can assure you this is not the case.
    I have turned to a naturopath to help me. She does a full panel of tests and will not only look at the levels but how you are feeling. Most doctors will tell you your levels are in a good range but that is not the full picture. I take bio-identical hormones and they are modified regularly based on my symptoms that can change at a moments notice. Don’t let regular doctors dismiss your symptoms.
    I recently started to notice breast discharge in one breast. I am having my prolactin levels checked. High levels of prolactin can also be a result of menopause and this can result in lethargy, weight gain and even eye problems, which I’ve had all.
    Do your research and don’t let anyone dismiss your symptoms.
    You are deserving of feeling great even going through this change.
    I hope this is helpful information.

  31. Eunice
    1 year ago

    Hello
    I just turned 50 and my whole body changed !! I feel like I have hit a brick wall. For about 8 months I have had an irregular menstrual cycle. Miss 2-3 months and then it comes like Niagra Falls. Over 2 months I suddenly developed severe headaches. I go through at least 5 days out of the week with headaches, body shakes, etc. I have had just about every test done from blood work, MRI’s head, neck and spine to a Spinal Tap. Lyme Desease, Lupus.. everything . All the test results were normal. My Dr. Decided to put me on low dose birth control to see if this controls the headaches and everything else I’m experiencing. It helped a little but I still have the headaches, shakes, feeling a sense of hot shock waves, depressed. I’m now going to acupuncture to see if there is any relief. Is this normal for pre menapause? I’m totally miserable and feel bad my family has to witness this. Before all this I was very independent, active, happy person.

    1. Maria
      1 year ago

      Hi, when I turned 50 I had the same thing happen, not sure who’s body I’m in at the moment, I had a period where I had headaches all the time also. I also get the shakes, hot flashes, nausea and shortness of breath, I could go on and on with these weird symptoms. you’re not alone, read as many blogs on the subject as you can and it’ll ease your mind, some people have no symptoms and some have it all!!! Hang in there, it’ll pass eventually

      1. Ursula
        8 months ago

        Maria did it pass for you how long post M things settled the anxiety and shortness of breath and nausea and sever gerd reflux killing me im 50 missing a period

    2. Mary
      1 year ago

      I turned 50 last year and peri menopause has turned my life upside down. I had a 2 week period! My coworkers and family are driving me crazy! Sex? What’s that? Read Dr Northrup’s ‘The Wisdom of Menopause’ and get educated. Much if what you experience she talks about in her book. Incorporating vitamins and progesterone cream has helped me tremendously. And no, this is not a paid sponsorship. My only regret is that I wish I discovered Dr. N. sooner.

    3. Nina Rae
      1 year ago

      I feel you. My every 28 day regularity for 4 light/moderate days turned into a roulette game — you never know when it will strike, and when it does, better hope you have a second set of clothes! I have tossed several pants and underwear in the trash, to the point that I didn’t even want to buy/wear nice things. My southern region was demon possessed, surely. I’m now at the point where it’s been six months since the last period and the last few weren’t bad. Hope that’s a signal of things to come. Hang in there. It’s a roller coaster ride.

    4. MsMagenta
      1 year ago

      I highly recommend trying progesterone cream. I get mine at a compounding pharmacy so it comes in a container that gives measured amounts. I have had menstrual migraines my whole life and they got really bad as I got into early perimenopause. Menstrual migranes are triggered by the natural drop in progesterone. When we begin our change those progesterone levels drop. Dr Northrup cites studies that show daily use of progesterone can really reduce or even eradicate those awful headaches. The other bonus w the cream is it helps mood, creates calmness and improves sleep. Topical seems to work better for most women. Plus, it’s more affordable than the progesterone prescription pill. Try it out. I use 45mg at night.

  32. Shani
    1 year ago

    Ladies, what can I do about the tiredness I’m experiencing? I’m exhausted by 1pm most days then I’m making poor choices with food because I’m over tired. Have any of you got suggestions of what I can take? Plus I do work out and eat very healthy

  33. Jaime
    1 year ago

    I had partial hystorectomy in 2015 just had my labs drawn and my fsh was 8, tsh 0.850, estridoil 67.5, progesterone 4.5 and free testosterone was 1.2 The doctor said all my tests are normal but I’m not sure I agree. I’m losing my hair (think I have some aga too) I can’t sleep at night I toss and turn and I would rather clean dishes then have sex. Since I have no idea were I am in my cycle it’s hard for me to know if my levels fit the normal ranges without a period. Any suggestions??? I thought about trying progesterone cream not sure if that’s a good idea

    1. B
      1 year ago

      As a nurse and a patient those numbers are very low. Find a new doc asap. Do some research to find a good one. Bring your issues up front with him:her. Sometimes a functional med doc is better about these things.

  34. amywads
    1 year ago

    I am 46 years old endurance athlete that i believe hit premature menopause about 6 years ago due to low body fat and a lot of training. I have always had high ish cholesterol and i know estrogen is very related to cholesterol higher estrogen, lower cholesterol, I believe even when i was young, my estrogen levels were low, as i was very infrequent with periods and had trouble getting pregnant. thus high cholesterol all my life. so my question is should i be supplementing with bio identical progesterone, estrogen or both ?

    1. Vagia
      1 year ago

      Hi! I am a cross fit athlete and I faced a premature menopause too! No muscle tone, no energy, no sleep! I am 41 years old and I am on hrt, that gives me back my past self! I did it immediately after checking my hormones and I feel better now. I also add more protein in my meals and vitamin D! Hope it helps! 🙂 Vagia

  35. Lynn
    1 year ago

    I’m 39 years old and recently noticed some changes. I live with anxiety and have a lot of stress in my job and home. But lately my anxiety has been worse with a nervous belly. I also had an experience where my face got red and I felt like it and my legs were on fire. The AC was on and the hubby was fine. I took my temp and it was 98.3. I sat in front of a fan and felt better.
    Is this a hot flash?
    Is it normal to get a red face??
    Do any of you suffer from bloating and/or shortness of breath.
    I don’t really have any resources in my life do I am thankful for any input!

    1. Elle
      1 year ago

      Yep. All of that is part of the change. You’ll notice more changes as the years go on. It can get a little scary because you don’t know if it’s normal. Research and find things that work for you to manage it.

  36. DA
    1 year ago

    Fo-Ti has removed my Peri-M. symptoms completely. Hot Flashes, sleep issues, mood and weight issues. After that result, I added Vitex (Chasteberry) to help with cycle irregularities. I also eat a highly nutritious whole food, plant based diet, aerobic exercise 3 or more days a week and modest caffeine intake from White & Green Teas predominantly.

    1. MK
      1 year ago

      FoTi increases testosterone.
      Chasteberry increases progesterone.

  37. Dee
    1 year ago

    i’m not sure what is going on with me. I got married 2 years ago and I guess I was happy. I turn 47 in a couple of months, I don’t know it is something hormonal or not. I just don’t like my husband anymore. I don’t want him touching me, making sexual comments and everything he does just irritates me. I don’t think I have any other symptoms. My sex drive is their but I don’t act on it because it will make him think that everything is good with us, and I don’t feel like it is. I have periods, I don’t get hot flashes I don’t have trouble sleeping. I just don’t want to be married or tied down. I feel like I need to focus on myself. I have taken care of previous husbands and children since I was 17. I got divorced at 37 and my second husband died after battling leukemia. I now take care of my grandson, who is the light of my life. He is 5 and will be starting kindergarten in September so I won’t have him all of the time anymore. I have been his main caretaker since my daughter went back to work after having him. So I feel like it’s time to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life. I might change careers or go to school. I don’t know yet.
    I feel trapped. I feel like I just want to be left alone to explore life. I don’t know how to explain this to my husband. I feel bad. I don’t hate him or want to hurt him. But this is how I feel. And I know it hurts him.
    I told him that I need space and asked him to move into another room but he won’t. the way our house is set up that would put him by his son’s room with a bathroom in between and me on the other side of the house with my own bathroom. That’s why I haven’t just moved myself. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Elle
      1 year ago

      Susanne Summers talked about not liking her husband during her change. You have to learn to find ways manage this. There is hope! Many women go through this. Watch a hilarious show or movie a day…this simple thing helps too. Laughter is the best medicine try to keep things light as best as you can. You’re going to get through this ask your husband to be patient and help him to understand sounds like he loves you

    2. MsMagenta
      1 year ago

      It’s okay to feel how you do. It may just be that you are no longer into him. This can happen. It doesn’t necessarily mean perimenopause. Have you thought about going to a couple’s Counsellor? There is a really good therapist online here in Camobrll River, Canada named Justice schaunfber (poor spelling)? He has a book called “The Reconnection Book for Couples”. It really has helped me and my relationship. You can download it from him.

  38. Kate
    1 year ago

    I’m 45 and I get once in a while hot flashes. I gained weight a few years ago but this only made me sexier. I admit experiencing ups and downs with my sex drive. However, none of this bothers me. I actually feel quite good about myself and I have more confidence and self esteem than ever before. I rest more and enjoy the finer things in life. As if the pressures and desires from earlier ages have suddenly disappeared and I am happy because finally I feel free to be myself and I don’t give a **** about standard opinions anymore. So, ladies there is a perimenopausal bliss!

    1. Jennifer
      1 year ago

      Congratulations. I am envious. Your experience sounds glorious. I am also 45. The GYN pried the birth control pills from my hands for blood pressure reasons last fall. I bought a lovely sweater at a black friday sale, but I have never worn it. Within five weeks of stopping hormones, the hot flashes started and have not let up much. I don’t think I zipped my coat ever during the winter months here in Kansas. Saved on heating bill, so that’s a plus. No one prepared me for this. The furnace from hell that emanates from the chest while those around me think I’m nutz as I peel clothes down to a tank while they’ve got their heater on under their desk. Or when I spend some time inside the door of the tater tots freezer at the wholesale club. It creeps up and *bam*. I am confident women got burned at the stake for this. Because men weren’t any smarter about women’s bodies then than they are now, and this feels a lot like demonic possession. Plus all the other things. When you start the pill, they tell ya you will gain weight. I stopped the pill, and surprise, I’m peri-menopausal, so I’m going to gain weight. Eleven pounds in two months. Meh. Weight gain is far less of an issue than the internal combustion. I can work with the curves. Good on ya for your attitude about that. Truly, that’s beautiful to hear. For me, it could be like this for the next decade. How lucky am I to start at 45? Might as well get to it. I wasn’t doing anything anyway. I know I’ll get through this. Know you are a lucky woman. I ain’t mad at ya, sista. All I ask if that you be supportive of the rest of us.

    2. Monica L
      1 year ago

      I will be turning 50 in November, and my Dr told me I am post menopausal already. I gained 40 lbs in a year and feel like a bloated, beached whale. My legs and ankles are SO sore from all the water retention; it hurts pretty bad, and I have the nastiest heat rash on my lower legs. Ugh x 10. and the hot flashes…??? Now I know why my mother was always half naked around the house.
      However, having been very underweight most of my life, everyone is telling me how great I look now; my facial features have filled out, I have phenomenal boobs, just major curves going on. I’ve never had so much male attention in my life! And like Kate above, my confidence is through the roof. I recently got out of a very destructive and narcissistic relationship, it took me almost 2 years plus meds & therapy, to almost heal completely up. Breaking free and having control of my own life again is extremely liberating and confident building.

    3. Denise Elfenbein
      1 year ago

      Thanks for sharing!

  39. Donna Kilfoyle
    1 year ago

    I’m 49. After I had my son at 34, I had mid cycle bleeding for quite some time. I had a interior biopsy, which came back fine. Later on I had a D&C, but I still kept spotting. Eventually the spotting stopped, mostly. I’ve also had night sweats for quite some time. My periods did become more regular after I did have child #2, even with the spotting. Now these last couple of years I’ve had a few times where my period was really late. This period I started on Sunday is over 2 months late. This one has been the biggest gap. My last period was February 13 and this one started April 30. I’ve never had heavy periods are really bad cramps. But, before I realized I had started my period on Sunday, I was having a lot of dizziness in the night. I felt like I was drunk, because the room felt like it was spinning. Once I got up for the day, I was fine. Last night when I laid down I was looking at Facebook and got dizzy all of a sudden, again. When I got up in the night I was still a little dizzy and wobbly. Now that I am up, I fell okay. I have in the past and when I was younger, gotten lightheaded during my period, but never dizzy. I was also extremely stressed the day and night before, with my daughter going to prom. It was really bad. So, I didn’t know if all of the stress, me being 49 and starting my period almost 3 months late had anything to do with the dizziness I experienced.

    1. libby
      1 year ago

      glad i saw this. thank you. i am 43 going on 44 and last 3 months or so have noticed a lot of symptoms. longer pms, irregular periods – usually late and have had some horrible vertigo a couple of times. i also get these hormone type surges that feel like some one has given me drugs. going to docs next week to get hormones checked. i’m really healthy otherwise and made some massive changes last year like leaving my husband and stressful job – and am living a much happier life…so hopefully this all sorts itself out without too much challenge. thanks

    2. Tonya
      1 year ago

      I am going on 47 in September and I can tell you, that I know all about that dizziness. It was really bad for me in 2011 and 2012. It came on suddenly while I was in public and it felt like I was in a tunnel far away from everyone as the world spun crazily. The hot flashes and night sweats started in my late 30s and I still get them. It feels like spontaneous human combustion! I swear that I am surprised that I haven’t caught on fire by now. I could be fine one moment and the next, severely nauseous and dizzy. It is awful and oh the cramps. I’d gone from April to July without a period and then bam! In late July, it hit me hard and heavy and the cramps felt like someone was just clamping on my uterus and not letting go. I honestly thought about going to the hospital and screaming at them to take everything out of me that one night. I have always had cramps but that last one felt like it was not going to ease up. I tried to out last the pain but I cracked and scrambled for two ibuprofen and that was the only thing that stopped those vicious cramps. And I just started my period for this month but it is really light so far and quiet. Then, just a while ago, out of the blue I got a wave of nausea from nowhere. UGH! I hate nausea! I would rather deal with the cramping than to be nauseous. My doc told me I was perimenopausal and I told her that I know that. I am just hoping it ends soon. Good luck to you and everyone else that suffers with all of these hormone issues.

  40. Stephanie
    1 year ago

    Thank you Dr. Northrup. I so admire you and you are my go to when it comes to women’s health and wellness.

  41. Pebbles
    2 years ago

    I had a baby in my early 40’s and it seriously took years to get my weight back to my prepregnancy range and it was extremely difficult to lose the weight. I’ve been very disciplined to not gain weight since then but have not had a period for 3 months and I’m getting alarmed because my weight keeps creeping up no matter what… nothing is working..
    Very demoralizing and frustrating. I really love my wardrobe and in a short period of time nothing fits. I feel so uncomfortable in my body like I can feel it holding onto fat… every day for 2 months now I feel like my period is going to start but it doesn’t and the symptoms of bloating, h/a, tension,weight gain,cravings,increased hunger are making my days challenging to cope with these unwanted symptoms. I’m feeling a lot of anquish that I will never again be the person I feel on the inside…like Mother Nature is going to turn me into a matronly looking person I won’t recognize.

    1. Kristine
      1 year ago

      Hi I have had a similar experience with weight gain as soon as I got 47 this year. Super annoying I also developed terrible periods, fibroids , and bloating and weight gain. Plus random UTI symptoms. Nothing seems to help. I did cut out all dairy and animal products which helped a little. But still experiencing horrible and long periods and PMS. I just started on birth control pills to see if that helps. Any other suggestions out there? I’m. Trying to be accepting but this sucks.

      1. Becky
        1 year ago

        I have tried birth control and two other synthetic progesterone meds to control the heavy periods after ablation failure that did not work. I pushed my dr for prometrrium that is naturual and I feel like myself again with more energy and sleep better. I took two 100 mg pills for about a week to stop the bleeding and back to 100 mg per day since I only have a month supply. I think I need 200 mg per day, just testing this out. I have read that some take 300 mg per day. It may depend on your weight. My pharmacist told me this medicine is preferred over synthetic hormones now.

  42. Markus Dunnell
    2 years ago

    Thanks for every other excellent article. Where else could anyone get that type of information in such an ideal way of writing? I have a presentation next week, and I am on the search for such information.

  43. Cheryl Stevens
    2 years ago

    I don’t know where to start!
    I am 48 and have been experiencing generalised anxiety, some hot flushes, night sweats, aching muscles regularly, off balance, heart palpitations, extreme tiredness and general flu like symptoms 4-6 weekly. I often worry I might have something other than peri although my GP has confirmed this. He also did full blood tests and prescribed folic acid as deficient. I guess I am just looking for reassurance that all this is quite “normal” and will settle in time? I have suffered for approx 4 years.

    1. Marie
      1 year ago

      Hi Cheryl, have you tried homeopathy?

    2. Paulette
      1 year ago

      Sounds very much like me.

    3. Jacqueline
      1 year ago

      I get flu like symptoms every 4 to 6 weeks and that routine has been ongoing for more than a year. I describe it like having a 50% flu. I’m taking HRT – estrogen and progesterone. I’ve had blood work done and isolated that my iron was a bit low. Despite visits to my family doctor and obstetrician, I can’t seem to get a handle on this. Approximately every 4-6 weeks, I’m down and out for almost a week. Sometimes longer. I’m 51 years old and am very healthy and very active. I’m a competitive runner and I also swim for cross training. My training has been sporadic at best given that each month or so, I have to stop everything until the dizziness and nausea subsides. Has anyone gotten any feedback on what is happening?

      1. Deneen
        1 year ago

        have your physican do a Western blot test for lyme disease. That was exactly the way I felt, and now that I was treated by a great LLMD, I have my life, vitality and health back.

    4. Annemieke Leiden
      1 year ago

      I have been helped by an acupuncturist who specializes in women’s treatment. It has helped to get back in my body. He also encouraged me to dismiss the IUD and to rely on mother nature and his treatment instead of artificial hormones. I am still in that process and I try to listen to my inner voice. It seems to improve over time, although gradually.
      Also I have been taking Qi gong classes and the excercises help on all levels. A full body massage every now and then helps a lot as well. Plus Epsom Salt baths 2 times per week.
      I wish you well, and recommend to read the book “womens’ bodies, womens’ wisdom” as that contains good advice on how to tackle specific issues.
      Be kind to yourself and your body! Sending you lots of positive energy 🙂

    5. Manuela
      1 year ago

      I hear you Peri.How are you doing now? It’s been going on for a few years for me too.It seems to get worse now.Will it ever go away?

    6. Dexiyd
      1 year ago

      have your doc do a genetic test to see if you have a MTHFR defect. causes all kinds of havoc and affects your folic acid and your bodies ability to activate it.

    7. Alexia Marcoux-Zorrilla
      12 months ago

      Hi
      I am having the same experience… think something is really wrong…, get tests done… normal but fsh is 44 (high)..
      Just can’t wait for it to stop; don’t trust the meds; maybe just the progesterone cream.,
      Alexia

  44. kciardella
    2 years ago

    Hi,
    I hope you can help me. I am 49 and have been trying to decide if I need a partial hysterectomy. For over a year now, during my period, on about day two, it is like the entire seven days of my period wants to come out all at once. I am unable to use tampons at this time which I always was able to use. If I try to use a tampon, the blood clots go around the tampon and come out. I try to stay home, close to a bathroom, during these two days a month. I continue to get my period monthly and have my period for the seven days, still heavy on day three. I stopped taking Advil and Aleve to lessen the bleeding, only taking tylenol for headaches. I have a tumor on my liver just under 4cm that is a hormone driven tumor that only grew during pregnancy (I have 4 children) and is stable, actually getting a little smaller each year I get it checked. I have never been on birth control pills and have been advised not to take hormone replacement because of the tumor. I do have bad PMS symptoms which I recognize and try to control with diet, therapy and relaxation techniques. I have most of the peri symptoms, all but the hot flashes. I don’t drink alcohol and only have one cup of coffee a day. I have had many blood tests and had a sample of my uterus checked. No cancer. I have had two recent very bad experiences with bleeding while out that were very hard to deal with and embarrassing. After reading one of your books about menopause I felt I should not have the operation. I think the tumor is what is complicating things since I am unable to take any medications. Am I candidate for surgery since I am limited with my options?

    1. Sue Hunt
      2 years ago

      I’m 51, have no tumor and have the same experience with ridiculously heavy flow day 2 and 3. I usually do last 5-7 days, but day 1 and 4-7 are usually much more manageable. I still use those ginormous tampons (not so much clotting – maybe that is the tumor?) and keep them with me at all times 🙂 You’re not alone. 🙂

      1. Traci
        1 year ago

        Have you tried Vitex and DIM and or Calcium d-glucarate for level out your hormones? I was having the same experience and now my periods are almost non existent and I feel one thousand times better! If you have not visited Lara Briden’s website, you really should. I would take the natural approach to fix things before surgery.

  45. Fiona
    2 years ago

    I am 46 and have used natural progesterone on and off when I have needed it for years. I recently let 2 or 3 years tick by because I thought everything was regular and it was quite expensive so I didn’t use it. Now I am going through these awful symptoms at night either mid cycle or at period time. When I lie down to sleep in drop off because I am tired but then am woken over and over with panic attack like symptoms, they can be in different parts of my body. I can have inner tremors and heart beating too fast and back pain and hallucination type dreams. It’s horrible. Does anyone else feel any of these things?

    1. Kristen
      2 years ago

      Yep! 42 here. Getting all kinds of bloodwork to see what’s going on. Sigh. Fun, isn’t it? Keep me posted.

      1. Celeste
        1 year ago

        I am 42 also. I truly hope you have a better experience than me with the blood work. I went to an OB GYN who’s also a Dr. of Osteopathy, which supposedly means that he’s taught to treat the patient not the disease, and to also treat ther whole patient, not just the tits and bits….well that’s a crock of shit let me tell you. This man listened to me sob about my symptoms, he got my husbands horror story of my symptoms and reassured me this was typical perimenapause…ordered blood work, he took one look at it and said there’s no possible way it’s Peri….you’re obviously depressed…want some xanax and antidepressants? Ummm Noooo but I do want to kick this trash can across your office! FYI….unless it’s in black and white on your lab results…be prepared to get zero credit for knowing your own body! Hugs!!!!

        1. Venessa
          11 months ago

          BAM ! My thoughts exactly ! It irks me to my core when we are treated like nut cases. We live in these bodies, we know when something is amiss. I despise it when they drop the Rx for AD. This is typically done globally. I reside in South Africa, and it’s no different. AD are prescribed at the drop of a hat. We either get on board with their “treatment” plan or take the highway. How on earth can AD address hormonal issues ? SMH !!! I was like poo’ed poo’ed, shop shoo’ed out of my gynae’s rooms because my symptoms did not display the typical symptoms. Lab results suck, as they are so broad. What they reflect is not a one size fits all (although this is what these male gynae’s try and drum into us). What these results reflect, does not necessarily mean it’s optimal for our bodies to function optimally. I’m SO over all my symptoms, not to mention the useless “help” we receive from doctors who claim to know how we feel, and what we experience on a daily basis. Yeah right, they have lived through perimenopause and menopause ! They’d never come through on the other side if they had to encounter these ghastly, daunting and debilitating symptoms, daily, and for years. I’m in perimenopause, turning 48 next month and it’s relentless. I don’t have the typical hot flashes, nor night sweats, (except the night or two before my menses commences). My menses have also changed from 5 days to a day and a half, and are coming closer together. I too feel like I have fallen off the turnip wagon, and at times have lost my every last semblance of sanity. I absolutely am not wanting any form of HRT, other than BIHT, and supplements. I have Dr. Northrup’s book “Wisdom of Menopause”, and will start reading it shortly. I had an ablation in September 2015, as well as a ligation ( biggest mistake of my life). Ever since than, it feels like I’ve been hit by a sledgehammer daily. I knew about two months after the operation that my hormones were thrown into hormonal turmoil. Obviously none of the doctors want to admit this. Hell yeah, I know something was amiss as my libido was always sky high, along with other normal functions that never took an effort is now almost impossible to do. Low and behold when I saw my results for my Testosterone, it was tanked out. Almost unreadable, that coupled with low progesterone and ever dropping estrogen is leaving me feeling like . Doctors need to LISTEN to us before just formulating their own ideas. Nobody know their bodie’s better than us who live in them daily. Oh and dare not bring any materials from the Net to substantiate your findings. That is a huge NO NO !

          Anyone have teeth and gum issues during their perimenopause ?

    2. Atoya
      2 years ago

      I’ve had similar. I’m 44. I will almost be asleep and my body will shake. Like cold chills. Then heart races… then it will cycle over and over… I usually wake up with sweat on my chest the next morning.

      1. Lisa
        2 years ago

        Oh my gosh this exact thing happened just the other night…severe chills then eventually hot hot hot
        Woke soaked
        It was the child’s that was new

    3. martha bailey
      2 years ago

      maam i am 42. this is so me every night. i do not like it at all.

    4. Jill
      2 years ago

      Yep, I am 48 now but this hit me at all once at about 44. I was never someone who felt anxious and literally overnight it was like I was someone else- anxiety that grew into full blown panic attack, always at night shortly after falling asleep. I also has severe dizziness, weird heart palpitations (kind of like a tugging) and migraines at this time.

      This went on for three months, finally eased up after I started going for regular massages. I wish I went sooner because I lost 3 months of my life – totally preoccupied with all this at work and at home. Turned into a complete hypochondriac. Thankfully it all stopped.

      I am still in perimenopause now but think it’s close to ending- i have a light period about every 4-5 months. I rarely get nightsweats now but a whole new level of fun has replaced it (frequent UTI’s, back pain, dryness, etc).

      The worst part of it all when it started was everyone thought I was nuts, my GP wanted to put me on antidepressants (didn’t take them). I wish I had done more holistic practices earlier- chiropractor, massage, meditation. Meditation helps a ton. And I am not a woo woo person, but self care seemed to be the best treatment. Hoping this next transition gets easier, the urinary stuff is not fun.

    5. Candy Warren
      2 years ago

      Use Cymbalta or its generic version. Your panic attacks/anxiety attacks will go away. I swear by this. It happened.to me when I hit at age 47. I’m 58 now. Still on the stuff. But I wouldn’t trade not taking that pill each day for another panic/anxiety attack ever again. My PA-C started me on Lexipro first for quelling this problem. I bumped into an old high school classmate that turned me onto Cymbalta. Lexipro still allowed heart fluttering (part of the panic/anxiety symptoms). Cymbalta removed all symptoms. No, I don’t work for or have investments in the company that makes Cymbalta. Us sisters in menopause must help each other out by sharing our successes in fighting the horrible effects of menopause in our lives. Now if I could just get rid of this damn “Menopause Rage” that is causing me grief and anguish I’d be a “Happy Camper”. Good luck and God bless you.

      1. Sue Hunt
        2 years ago

        I was on Lexapro for 6 years after my parents died and I divorced. I wouldn’t recommend it. It spiked my blood pressure and cholesterol levels to the point where the docs wanted to medicate me for THAT, TOO! After being off it for a year, my levels returned to normal and haven’t been elevated since. My advice would be don’t do it. Once you’re on that type of medication, it is VERY DIFFICULT to get off of it, and you must wean yourself little by little over a long period of time. The problem with Lexapro is that the dosage was so low, it’s tough to wean yourself off of. Just be careful. Psych meds should be a last resort!

    6. Julee Bennett
      2 years ago

      Hi Fiona. I’m 46 as well and I’ve also experienced those exact symptoms. Remember, you are the boss of your brain and you get to choose your response to these feelings. When you train your brain to relax and not respond in a concerned way, you are telling your subconscious mind that you refuse to give these feeling any attention whatsoever. You will be amazed at how quickly those feelings disappear. Much of what you are feeling is hormonal, so don’t worry just find things to distract yourself immediately after waking up, things that bring you joy, and creative things you love. Also pay attention to your breathing and stretch when you awake. It tells your brain to relax, and the body will respond. xo Julee

      1. Jeanette watts
        1 year ago

        This is a great reply julee, and works well for me to.

        Jeanette x

      2. Maria
        1 year ago

        Great comment, that is the answer! We have the power to heal ourselves or to meke us ill

    7. Irma R
      1 year ago

      Im 41 years old and in experiencing almost the same symptoms dizziness heart beating fast. I’ve had blood wok done for sugar levels ekg CT scan and all comes out negative. Not sure if it’s panic attack or hormones changespecially?

    8. Kristen
      1 year ago

      Hi! Sounds just like me! Let’s talk! How are things going since you posted this?

    9. Kinn Adams
      1 year ago

      Fiona,
      I am 51 and am dealing with the same issues especially at night and it’s scary to say the least. Hang in there because this is a bumpy road for both of us.
      K. Adams

    10. Tonya
      1 year ago

      I too have the hallucinations after I wake up suddenly in the middle of the AM. I get the panic attacks and feel like I am dying. Heart jolting and just flipping out. You are right. It is horrible, but I am glad that I am not the only one that experiences it. I will be 47 on Sept 21st and have been going through perimenopause since my late 30s. It sucks! I wish you well.

  46. Amanda Kruger
    2 years ago

    My periods has always been regular never been on the pill and I am healthy fit women. I just turned 47. In January I had a mid cycle bleed for 5 days on the 5 Jan. Then on the 8th February I had a clear blood spot bleeding. When I wiped after using the bathroom I saw clear blood and believed my period started. Only to find my tampon with a small amount of brown blood. The following two days I had mild cramping with no bleeding. It is 21 days later and have developed sensitive nipples. I have done a pregnancy test and came negative. Yes my boyfriend and I have had unprotected sex the last three months. I don’t have any of the premenopausal symptoms either. I am at lost to what is happening to me.

    1. kerry
      2 years ago

      Peri – menopause !!

  47. CC3
    2 years ago

    Hi, I just turned 44 and 2 months ago all of a sudden I started having heart palpitations/ pvcs (sometimes every few beats). My periods are perfectly on time but recently I have been extra moody/weepy/hot and I feel my hormones are extreme (more cramps, worse pms,sore breasts, I cry easily). My pvcs got better for a couple weeks then returned with a vengeance, I notice them even more when I get cramping and hot all over which is happening even in mid cycle, I have a hard time sleeping at times. I had an echo which showed my heart to be normal, thyroid is normal (slightly anemic only) and I wore a holter for a week (waiting on those result,s but if it were serious I was told I would know right away). This has made me obsessed with checking my heart rate, I can literally feel all my beats and it’s driving me crazy, I just want to be my normal self again 🙁 I have been trying my best to just go on as normal as possible, but in my mind it’s always there. I am wondering if this could be hormonal related? Do I need some type of hormone replacement even though my periods are normal?

    1. Maria
      2 years ago

      I went through what you are going through last Summer, I literally could feel my heart skipping beats and it scared me, so I saw a Cardiologist, who had me wired up to a Holter Monitor, I had an echo cardiogram and a then a nuclear stress test where they put the dye in and guess what nothing wrong it came back all hormone related. So what I have been doing since is putting a couple of drops of pure frankincense oil on the bottom of my feet and massage it in and it has completely helped. I do not get them like I did the cardiologist said mid Forties is when it tends to happen.
      Good luck with everything.

    2. Lisa
      2 years ago

      At 48 major heart skipping anxiety etc. blood work fine
      Dr said anxiety. I am also in full blown perimenopause. I’ve finally began to accept that a huge amount of this is hormones! I do not take drugs for anxiety I found a great book dare. But knowing this should ease at some point helps. Heart much less skipping now

  48. Sharon Davis
    2 years ago

    I am 61 and unable to masturbate or be stimulated like I used to. I have been in (chemically induced) menopause since 2003, due to chemo. I found your book, The Wisdom of Menopause, about 8 years ago and I eagerly started bioidenticals including testosterone, at that time. Unfortunately, I chose to stop taking them after 2 years, which was the biggest mistake. Very soon, my clitoris shrunk and my urethra started protruding over time. I’ve become very depressed, gaining weight and developing high blood pressure among other things. I have lost drive and do not feel much like a woman anymore and yet, I still look young and I desire to feel better so I have finally decided to start bioidenticals again, assuming it’s not too late. Doctor, can you give me any advice? Do you think they will work for me now?

  49. Tra
    2 years ago

    I am 51 years old and just experienced my period ending and then around 5-7 days l had what appears to be another period. Went to the gyn and now I am going to do a sonogram and biopsy to make sure there is no endometrial cancer. This is my gyn’s protocol.

    Has anyone dealt with this before and what should I expect going forward. Frankly, it feels nerve racking since I was someone with a consistent period. If anyone has had a similar experience–please provide insight.

    As I read some of the comments–I have probably been in peri for a few years.

    1. Jill
      2 years ago

      yes, My symptoms too. Periods close together and lots of spotting. Sometimes two periods in one month. Sometimes only a few days without spotting leading up to heavier bleed again. This has been going on for two years. I was sent to hospital for tests but they were clear. As yet, I have been given nothing to combat this and I would be very grateful to know if there is a solution.

    2. Adrienne Kenyon
      2 years ago

      Hello, I hope all is well with you and you are in good health. I am also 51 with identical symptoms. Can you give me any advice?

      Thanks in advance!

      Adrienne

    3. Tania
      1 year ago

      Yes! I started going through peri menopause at 38. Just before I turned 39, this happened to me. I chart regularly and was confused as to what to do, and because I was used to my cycles getting longer and longer (35-40 days), I was less concerned. At 42 days late, I saw the OB and she confirmed that’s when I got pregnant. I still believe that this pregnancy was different from the others because I was still experiencing some of the peri menopausal symptoms. I have lived a very stressful lifestyle for years. About a year after I had our baby, I had many blood draws and labs. Mostly normal with high platelet production. Now that it has been two years since our son was born, my body has reset the clock and I’m going through peri menopause again.

    4. Diane Guevara
      9 months ago

      I am 52 1/2 and in a long peri menopause process…was put on a low dose birth control about 3+ years ago so that I would only have one period per month. I would have my 7 day period and then have another period a 1/2 week to a week earlier than when my next period should be, so, I was probably having an extra 2 or so periods a year. Was annoying to my husband as it “seemed” like I was always on my period. I am wondering if I should go off the pill and suck it up regarding the bleeding and try the homeopathic remedies, etc. I am doing pretty good. Oh, I WAS having a VERY heavy day 3 or 4 of my period, but that has subsided the last 5 months. Thank God!! Do get some dizziness while just sitting at my desk at work, which I thought meant I needed a neck adjustment (I have had 3 whiplashes)…now I have learned peri menopause gives many of you dizziness. Wow.
      And the strange flu like symptoms. I missed work last wed and stayed in bed. Chills and was exhausted and felt feverish but wasn’t. I have some anxiety that I manage through mindfulness…breathing, relaxing, being present.to the moment, closing my eyes…let the thoughts roll bye like a news ticker…
      Moodiness and depression hits for a few days each month..woke with a sweaty chest this morning and now I know it is peri menopause
      My period was supposed to start yesterday…so sweats must be connected. I lost my husband to cancer 22 mos ago and am finally in my right mind. Cannot wait to read Dr. Northrups books on this subject. Thanks for all of your shares

  50. KG
    2 years ago

    Dear dr christiane, thank you for the this amazing resource and all that you do. To all the sisters here who comment, support and share – thank you so much!!!

    I’m 35, married, and had a termination about 2.5yrs ago. My periods have always been and are still on time, painless, but now last just about 2 days. No weight issues but Over the past 2 years, beginning incidentally at a seriosuly stressful time at work and marriage, I began getting nausea, faintness and dizziness, couple of incidences of rapid heartbeat, anxiety, huge fatigue, couple of incidences of cold and hot during sleep, low ambition, indigestion/upset tummy, and twice a uti.
    All of these I’ve charted almost cylically occurring in the days in the phase between the last day of my period and day before ovulation usually. sex drive is low, except a few days just before period.
    Please any advice would be hugely appreciated! It’s all compounding my anxiety and I’d love to get these under control and plan a family soon. Thank you so very much. Love to all.

  51. KG
    2 years ago

    Dear dr Christiane, thank you for creating this amazing resource and the wonderful work you do! And to all the comments and suggestions here- THANK YOU sisters.

    I’m 35, have had one termination about 2.5 years ago. My period is always on time, lasts just about 2days and only mild/ almost absent cramping or pain.
    However over the past 2’years (beginning at what was a very strained time professionally and relationshipwise) started getting nausea, indigestion, anxiety, short episodes of rapid heartbeat, one episode of uti, couple of instances of cold/hot in the night, dizzy and very fatigued – all mainly in the days between the last day of period and ovulation time.
    Very stressed in the marriage and work. Generally low sex drive throughout the month too, except for a few days right before period.
    Tired of dealing with this craziness, is it hormones or intestinal parasites? any advice would be so appreciated!

  52. Zelda
    2 years ago

    Can someone help me? I am 39, have regular periods and had a normal fsh done 2 months ago, but starting 2 months ago, I have gotten hot flashes, burning breasts, join pain and night sweats before and after my period. I have never had symptoms after my period before. Currently, I can barely move from the constant hot flashes and burning breasts, which seem to have gotten worse. I understand I am probably in perimenapause, but it is so intense!! I am having a really hard time. I went to the dr who took blood but I wont have answers until next week. No one seems to be able to help me and I barely sleep because of the pain and hot flashes. Any ideas??? Please help.

  53. Diana
    2 years ago

    Just wondering. They say when women work together their periods can go in sync at times. I have not had a period in 4 years, I am 55. I do on occasion have what I call ‘faux’ ovulation or ovary cramps mid-month that swtich from left to right every other month. Been to Dr. and all is fine by the way! And then, 12 days later, I get what I call a ‘faux’ period. Cravings, bloating, crampy, moody and then, nothing happens.
    I have been workingin an office for the past 6 month with 18 women 1 male! Most of which are young. Since then, I swear with all that estrogen around me, my ‘FAUX’ symptoms have increased. Is it at all possible much like periods going into sync, could my body being around so much estogren be causing my faux symptoms to increase? I was estrogen dominant most of my life. I swear my body misses it and, if it can catch estrogen in the air, it will! Just putting it out there if anyone has ever heard or felt this.

  54. Stephanie
    2 years ago

    I am 56 and my periods have just started to change, after having an ablation procedure.
    I have to take iron or end up needing a transfusion. My HOT FLASHES are making my social life miserable. My PMS is lasting as long as 3 1/2 weeks.
    My cramps cause me to go to bed, even with ibuprofen and acetaminophen in between.
    I take iron, vitamin C, magnesium, calcium, K2, D, B complex, citalopram and bupropion.
    I go to water aerobics because it is the only exercise I can do without sweating to death.
    I’m a healthy eater, have occasional caffeine and a couple glasses of wine per week.
    Do I just have to deal with it?
    I feel like I’m going to be in the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest woman still having to buy feminine hygiene products for herself. Lol. Help!
    Any suggestions?

  55. D2
    2 years ago

    I am a woman age 42. I am looking at my life hormone cycle and wondering how I may have been able to better balance my system. I was an athlete very physical in dance and weight training 4% body fat 14-16yrs old. I was originally put on low dose birth control pills to encourage a period. later I had a boyfriend and we were together for about 8yrs during that time we got pregnant a few time. Each time the doctors raised my dose. I diligently took these pills on a timer because I was told even a variation of a few minutes in time could cause me to get pregnant again. At one point around 20yrs old I was on the highest dose available. The final straw was a series of events regular leg pains, angina attacks and finally a tubal pregnancy. Through all of this I am thankful to my mother my rock, she stood by me during my procedures and finally convinced me to stop taking these pills.

    what transpired was incredible to me – I stopped getting pregnant and stopped having chest pains. However I did go through bouts of the blues regularly but it was generally something that could be managed with basic personal care (food rest and a bit of TLC).

    at 39 I had a massive gum surgery immediately after I have felt changes in many ways physically; hair nail texture changes, acne between my brow (ive never had acne my whole life) day napping from exhaustion and headaches (also a new thing for me) .On the mental level a complete disconnect – no focus or sleeping at night, Everything seems to effect me in a fight or flight manner when I used to be a calm person, but the most painful is my apathy and disinterest in things that previously gave me joy.

    Ive been managing things admittedly not great but doing ok seeking refuge in my lady lunches or time to decompress. As well as seeing two doctors to ask about menopause and was basically brushed off told this couldn’t be my issue and I am too young. Then this past spring I had an oops moment during sex and took Plan B (just in case), for a few months I went into an emotional tail spin. it was Dark, I began to scare myself with the thoughts that went through me. I thought I was loosing my mind. I only felt normal for a few days just before and during my period.

    a dear friend recommended an acupuncturist & Naturopath in October. She had my blood tested every 5 days and we found my progesterone way dropping mid cycle to post-pardum/post menopausal levels and coming back up just before and after my periods. After using progesterone yam cream I felt incredible then my period came mid-cycle. We stopped the cream and I am again monitoring my blood levels. even though its not there yet it feels great to know I may be in the right track.

    Here is what I am wondering now,
    1. is it possible that my progesterone has always been low mid-cycle and taking birth control pills actually enhanced my abilities to get pregnant?
    2.is it possible that the gum surgery may have released lay ten toxins and chemicals into my system that are creating an imbalance in my hormones?
    3. with all the hormones being modified and adjusted in different ways how can I best self monitor my (progesterone) levels to other than weekly blood tests?
    4. do you have a network of hormone specialists? how do I find therapists that understand these changes and the resulting emotions of loss related it?

  56. Crystal Baughman
    2 years ago

    I’m 37 and I’m convinced I’m starting premenopaus/menopause at a young age. Symptoms started around 36. Changes in my periods, mood, depression, skin, vaginal dryness (which is the most frustrating symptom), brain fog, night sweets. My mom also started her change in her 30’s, but never will really talk about it. It seems very young to be starting this and I’m having a hard time emotionally with it and I don’t know of anyone else my age experiencing this. Doctors don’t seem to listen very well to my concerns, however my theorpist has been very supportive and believes that I may be right about my assumption I’m starting to go through changes at a young age. She actually recommended I look at Dr Northrup site as you have a lot of great information on aging and thus seems to be a topic that has been coming up a lot in my theorpy sessions because I’m having a hard time navigating these changes and keeping my mental well being healthy. I’m finding lots of great information on this site however I still feel very lost going through this and I’m not so sure it’s normal to be starting premenopaus/menopause so early.

    1. Christiane
      2 years ago

      You could very well be going through some changes ..but they don’t have to be “perimenopausal” per se. I’ve seen women actually stop periods for a year or two at around your age. Only to have them come back again later. So– instead of worrying about it, I suggest you take something like my AmataLife Pueraria mirifica supplement to help with your hormones. And then just let nature take it’s course. You also probably need more magnesium. Most of us do. I recommend Dr Carolyn Dean’s ReMag. Just google it. My Amata website is http://www.amatalife.com I also recommend that you read the section on Menopause in my book Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom or also the Wisdom of Menopause. Chances are good that you have years before your final menstrual period. So sink into this process and enjoy it. Christiane

      1. Susan
        2 years ago

        Hi Christiane,

        I just turned 56 years old and have been going through perimenopause for at least 6 years. Symptoms hot flashes (several), difficulty slleping or staying asleep, weight gain, some anxiety, and irritable mode at times. I am a person who lives a very healthy life style – clean eating, exercise on a regular basis (free weights and cardio).
        So here’s my story – When I was 36 I have a hysterectomy leaving 1 ovary, so still on my own natural hormones. I’ve tried different antidepressants which ended up the symptoms were not worth it. I then took Estradiol which was my magic pill – back to my normal self – great mood, energy, no more inner tube belly, no more hot flashes and could sleep like a baby. 4 years ago I was diagnosed with lobular carcinoma in situ (LCIS) and was immediately taken of the estradiol. All my symptoms immediately came back.

        In reading your article about Pueraria Mirifica, can someone with LCIS take this?

    2. Estelle
      2 years ago

      Hi crystal I just want you to know that I started going thru my change of life at the age of 35 and stopped having period by the time I was 39. I was told it was normal by my doctor back then because it was heretary . You see on my dad side of the family, he had ten sisters and we all started our periods at the age of 9 and 10. By our mid thirties we all started our change of life and finished before we reached forty. We’ve never had any problems and we have been enjoying life without those periods. I always thought , it’s a blessing.

  57. Verena
    2 years ago

    Dear Dr. Northrup,

    I want to use this place to thank you for everything you do and especially for the daily health recommendation. They help enormously on this journey. I really feel myself widening, opening up and smiling when I read them, and learn to trust the path, sometimes even when it’s feeling like it will last forever and never stop. Things click into the right places again, after being busy someplaces else for so many years.

    1. Christiane
      2 years ago

      Thank you so very much for this!! Christiane

  58. Maria Allen
    2 years ago

    Hello- I will be 51 in the spring and wanted to share some stuff regarding perimenopause and life itself. I have been “perimenopausal” for about six years now. The last three have been unbelievably intense. Personally, I have some challenges in my marriage and emotional issues that compound the up and down hormones of pre-menopause. My periods have been very heavy and I have been on and off iron supplement. Somehow I have had the courage to only consider getting my uterus out as a last resort. Right now, my physical health seems to be a lot better, as I take the time to pamper myself when needed and consume heathier food, along with some vitamins. But the thing that has been the gamechanger for me is cutting out coffee and all caffeine, including chocolate. I still consume a little coffee in the morning and have an occasional bit of chocolate. My periods are calmer now and the pain is down too. Yet this whole story would not be complete without mentioning how I have allowed God to guide and inspire me throughout this !

  59. Janna Taylor
    2 years ago

    Perimenopause has been the most challenging part of my life. I noticed in my early to mid-forties that my period had become very heavy. For about two years it was 21-23 days apart, but the bleeding was intense with severe cramping. As the days between started to spread out, so did the intensity of the bleeding. Out of the blue, I developed severe anxiety and panic attacks. The panic attacks sent me to the ER three times, before I finally believed the doctors who kept telling me that I was fine physically. I had MRIs, EKGs, Echo-cardiogram and numerous other tests just to reassure me that I wasn’t dying from some strange disease. I still experience the “dreads” from time to time. I continue to have hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, my face and extremities tingle. I am often dizzy. My thinking is clouded and I get tongue-tied very easily. Really, the list goes on and on. I just turned 51 and I hope that I am turning the corner back to normalcy. I know the symptoms are better than they were a couple years ago. My periods are starting to spread out a little and I have skipped a few here and there. I am not taking any medications, but I am taking a woman’s multivitamin, extra calcium, magnesium and B-12. Good luck to everyone on this journey!!

    1. Lynn
      2 years ago

      I cannot believe how similar my symptoms are to yours. I am 49 and have been noticing mood changes for a few years now. This too has been the most challenging time of my life. About six months ago I missed a period for the first time, then that same month I had my first panic attack while driving. I called 911 because I thought I was having a heart attack. I went to the ER and they said it was just panic. I didn’t fully believe that and since then have gotten a full cardiac work up – EKG, echocardiogram, stress test, and a calcium scan. I have zero plaque in my arteries and my overall risk of heart disease is very low. Yet I continue to struggle with panic and anxiety. My dr gave me xanax if I am having a panic attack and at first I took it here and there. It helped, but it’s no way to live! It has been probably three months since I have taken anything. I have tried meditating and exercising. Both have helped but the anxiety lingers. I even have the tingling you speak of. Overall perimenopause has knocked me on my ass. I went to see a new gyn who recommended the birth control pill to get me through this. I worry about the side effects but might give it a try. Thanks for sharing your story. Talking to other women going through this has really helped me.

      1. CJW
        2 years ago

        This sounds like me too. However, I am also experiencing very strange migraines with during REM sleep that wake me 2-4 times a night. It is so scary and makes anxiety go off the charts so I am doing as much as I possibly can to reduce stress and manage the anxiety. I have been to the ER 3x so far thinking I was having a heart attack because the palpitations go with it and scare me too. I do not like taking xanax either. I am still looking for a doctor that supports natural remedies. I have seen 3 gyn’s in my insurance network thus far and they all just want to give me a birth control pill. I am 53 and do not want to take them for fear of the side effects and dangers of those. I am still looking for natural remedies and someone to help support my decisions without throwing a synthetic pill at the symptoms. I would love to know if anyone else has experienced the nocturnal migraines. Thanks for sharing….

      2. Lisa
        2 years ago

        Please purchase a book Dare. It saved me regarding the understanding of panic and anxiety.
        I have that but better. but at 50 I get night sweats, chills, low drive, tingly toes, rach heart or skipping.
        I’m hoping to learn about natural progesterone or estrogen creams …

    2. Tracy
      2 years ago

      I am in the same boat as you. You are describing everything I am and have been going through for the past 3 years (I will be 48 in a few weeks). I have good weeks and bad weeks with this. I am seeing a hormone doctor and getting bioidentical testosterone pellets for the past year which help with some symptoms. The dreads you mentioned are so bad that I had to quit my high paying job and now see a therapist to help with them. I am definitely not who I used to be, a very strong, confident, highly motivated woman who had a clear career path that I have now stepped down from. It is very sad but I try to make the best of the situation and listen to what my body is telling me. I see a naturopath and take quite a few supplements that are helpful as well but I know my hormones still get out of whack especially the week before my period and I have been unable to use progesterone cream to help because it causes terrible insomnia and nervousness. I look forward to being on the other side of this I think, although my hormone doctor has said I am still quite a way from the end. Ugh!!!!

    3. Diane Rios
      2 years ago

      Oh thank you for this. I was looking for someone going through what I am – it’s unbelievable. I turned 50 this year and that’s when it all began. I haven’t slept more than 3 hours a night in months, waking many times a night completely soaked in sweat, my bed is wet, I have to change my night gown three x a night – I have migraines (never had headaches in my life), I am like an emotional volcano – the current political situation is not helping – I feel fragile and vulnerable and angry. The sweating thing and the no sleep thing feels like it’s killing me. Can you die of hot flashes? Can you die from lack of sleep? I feel desperate! 🙁

      1. Jody ramminger
        2 years ago

        Bio identical progesterone has been a life saver for me..my migraine s are gone and most of the hot flashes. Also taking b6 and bcomplex has calmed my nerves

  60. Oak
    2 years ago

    Interesting, helpful and a bit scary to read everyone’s experiences. I think I’ve begun perimenopause (very early stages) but I’m not suffering many symptoms yet. Rather, I keep thinking I’m pregnant because of the long PMS symptoms and occasional periods several weeks late. I’m 47 but had my only child at 41 and a miscarriage at 43. My little guy wishes for a sibling and I guess the only real challenge I’m having is accepting that it probably won’t happen. I know it would be infinitely harder if I didn’t have any children. So far I haven’t seen the grieving part of menopause mentioned here. Others?

    1. Stephanie
      2 years ago

      I can definitely relate to that. I have been married twice (this last time married at 38). I, too, had a child at 41 and at five he is asking for and wanting a sibling (I have older children that live in another state-22, 20, 15). It is very difficult, especially when my friends as younger and are still having children. It is definitely a grieving process that is not talked about often. You are not alone.

  61. BrittB
    2 years ago

    Hello Ladies – aren’t we all in the thick of it! I am 46 and started peri-menopause about three years ago. I believe my initiation into this joy ride was a migraine that lasted on and off for a month followed by a light period for three weeks. Since then I have night sweats and insomnia on and off. During ovulation I get elevated blood pressure and rapid heart beats for about 24 hours. Stress tests & EKGs shows nothing wrong. Then everything goes back to normal – for about a week. Then the migraines, nausea, and crashing fatigue start right before my period – which by the way comes when it wants to and has more blood then most crime scenes. I have cramps that remind me of labor. Blessedly, it only lasts 5-6 days. My periods can come 60, 45, 31, or 20 days – basically puberty in reverse. Anxiety and the fatigue come and go – again no rhyme or reason to it. Doc tested my FSH two years ago was at 21.8. Not menopause but certainly not fertile Myrtle. I feel like some days I just can’t handle the physical symptoms because they are so exhausting. Then, just like that they are gone. I am not a candidate for HRT because my mom had post menopausal breast cancer possibly due to HRT (she is cancer free now 🙂 )so i get to tough this one out. Anyway ladies, we are not alone and we are not shrinking violets. We are the stronger sex. Hang in the Peri-sisters. Brighter days ahead.

    1. @Sandyluv2bhapi9
      2 years ago

      Hello, everyone. This is definitely NOT my idea of fun! I truly appreciate this forum and your willingness to share your experiences. I was beginning to think I was at the point of no return, until I read your post MsBrittB. As I was reading your initiation story, I felt as though I were reading a page of my own journal; it gave me hope at a time when I need it most. On Saturday, 10/22/16, I will be 42. I am having the migraines, nausea, crashing fatigue that is unbearable, anxiety (without good cause or reason–other than the fact that I have been having mind-blowing migraines, I feel my ovaries are trying to jump out of my abdomen and, I am, losing my mind), light periods with cramps that would disable a blue whale and night sweats, coupled with inability to regulate body temperature during waking hours. Additionally, all lab and diagnostic tests appear within normal range. Progesterone cream 2x daily seems to help with night sweats, a little. My mom and grand-mother are breast cancer survivors, also. You are absolutely correct, we are not shrinking violets, far from it! We endure and persevere. To your point, Yes! We ARE the Stronger sex and gender. Thank you for your post! You shed some much needed light on my day. Be Well Ladies.

    2. Diane Rios
      2 years ago

      YOU made my day!!!! 🙂 So true and so funny! You’re so right we are not shrinking violets, we are basically wizard warrior goddesses by the time we get through all we have to get through in life. I had heard of menopause of course, all through my life from my mom and aunt and friends, but I did not see this coming. At 50, having just got the last child out of the nest, I was so ready to use my newly-liberated strength and hard-won wisdom to make my life easier, but OH WELL. My body had other plans. My symptoms are extreme right now – almost no sleep at all – for months! – and I’m up many times a night soaked in sweat, burning up then freezing cold, over and over and over. I’m totally exhausted, angry, frightened, confused….woot, it’s a total party!!!!!! Can’t wait for those brighter days ahead, I hope they come soon.

    3. Vanessa Barisano
      2 years ago

      I am so happy to find these comments and to hear women speak openly and honestly about their experiences.
      Britt, I too am 46 and started peri about 2 years ago with onset of random anxiety, insomnia, premenstrual migraines and extreme fatigue and occasional hot flashes. I can relate to you b/c i too have the anxiety and fatigue for no rhyme or reason. It’s a struggle especially 3-4 days before my 21 to 35 day periods. My mom too had post menopausal breast cancer after hormone replacement so definitely not a candidate for HRT either! My friend recommended Dr. Northrup’s books…..I know we found the right place for insight and wisdom in this journey! wonderful about your mom’s recovery, God Bless!…. my mom did well too after treatment 🙂

  62. Tonya
    2 years ago

    Hi, misery loves company. 🙂 I started having hot flashes & night sweats in my 30s. I had a great aunt who started hers in her 30s. I just turned 46 on 9/21 and I can say that back around 2012, I had a really awful time with nausea starting up before my cycles and this went on until earlier this year, when things seemed to calm down. But now the random nausea is back, panic attacks, mood swings, craving food like crazy, putting on weight that I can’t shed. My doctors told me that I was too young to be going through menopause, so, one put me on Synthroid for my thyroid. It helps to read other’s experiences so that I don’t feel completely alone & insane. Thanks.

    1. Jaime
      2 years ago

      I am 38 and recently found I am pre menopausal and taking estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. I had a 13 lb weight gain which caused me to start investigating.

  63. Tina
    2 years ago

    Does this perimenopause cause your periods to change in odor? I had the normal type of menstrual odor and now @ age 45 since my periods started going off course, they have a nasty strong smell that I myself can smell during the 1st few days. It’s horrible. Is this normal?

  64. Ellie
    2 years ago

    How I knew that perimenopause started for me was when I woke up one morning with nausea and awful anxiety and heart palpitations. At first I thought it was just stress, but it continued every morning until it had gotten to to the point where other symptoms started. Just before my period, I had the worse PMS I ever had. Crying for no reason, breasts so tender, gastro issues, bloating..just didn’t feel like myself at all. Even after a hysterectomy to remove endometriosis, I still feel like this most days. I used to be able to sleep in late on weekends, but my body jolts me out of bed and just wants to move. Mainly exercise! If I don’t get out and exercise I feel anxiety. Must be my body’s way of telling me that it was time to change my life. Just wish the other symptoms would go away.

    1. Michelle Helliwell
      2 years ago

      Ellie I have all your issues. It’s awful. The racing heart,palps,internal buzzing,jumpy muscles and now onset of arthritis. I am also on HRT which I thought would make it go!

      1. Sandra
        2 years ago

        Hi Michelle, I’m 54 and feel that I’ve been going through menopause since my last period which was in June 2015. I’m extremely hot almost all the time and yet I didn’t think this was menopause because I’ve always been hot. Whenever someone in an office where I’ve worked has asked me what I think of the office temperature, I’ve always said “don’t listen to me. I’m always hot.” In fact, my nickname for myself has been “Waldron (my surname), the cauldron” because I’ve always had a hot body core temperature. I’m emailing you because of what you said above “jumpy muscles”. Every now and again, I’ve experienced a terrible Charlie Horse while laying in bed. I started taking Ionic Magnesium Citrate Powder which is entitled “Natural CALM” and it has helped enormously. All you do is put a teaspoon of powder which has an Organic Raspberry-Lemon Flavour in a glass of orange juice and drink. It is quite delicious! I also recommended this to a male friend (a retired firefighter) who had a charlie horse while sitting with a group of friends in a bar in Sep. 2016. He tried the Natural CALM. I saw him recently and he said the Natural CALM stopped the charlie horse episodes. Perhaps it could work for you and your “jumpy muscles”? I’ve noticed that I have jumpy feet in bed. I’m going to take some for my jumpy feet tonight.

      2. A Muise
        1 year ago

        Wow…first time I have heard anyone mention internal buzzing!! I have this as well!..Terrible feeling 🙁

        1. Shay
          4 weeks ago

          I also have internal buzzing. There are forums online with hundreds and hundreds of women who are experiencing this unique symptom from menopause.

  65. Alysa
    2 years ago

    Feeling awkward not knowing what’s going on. This is the first time this has happened. I am a few weeks to my 50th birthday. My menstrual cycle ended a few days ago. I had a few days of nothing. Then, I started menstruating again.

  66. Cat
    2 years ago

    I’m cracking up laughing at this very moment, after reading the first lines of this article!! I turned 40 just recently, and my first post-bday period started yesterday… much heavier than they’ve been starting over the past 6-8 months. About a half hour into my evening shift, I had my first hot flash!! Nauseating to say the least! I guess it’s time for me to implement all those things I taught my mom after I first saw one of your PBS specials, 20 or so years ago!
    #firstfortyperiod #firstflash #f….!

  67. Christine
    2 years ago

    Hi! I am 51 and new to what my doctor told me is Perimenopause. I sometimes seriously think I am going crazy. Told that what I am going through is “Normal”. Heavy gross periods, back pain, migraine, brain fog, weight gain, sugar cravings and worst of all FATIGUE. Have had every blood test, ultrasound, thyroid check etc. Very very very frustrated. My husband is very understanding but he has no answers or experience. Hoping reading more of your posts will help.

    1. Traci
      2 years ago

      Hi Christine,

      I started taking DIM and Calcium D Glucarate for high estrogen I’m sleeping better, feel better and I lost almost 20 lbs. with no change to my diet. I was also having heavy periods so I took Vitex for a couple of months and now I have not had a period in over three months. I will take that over the heavy period any day! Plus I feel normal, even without the period and no PMS. I’m going to 49 in Jan.

      1. Cate
        2 years ago

        DIM has also been central to a major improvement in my perimenopause, which sounds a lot like Christine’s. I have also gone to regular acupuncture with an acupuncturist who specializes in women’s health, which has radically changed my health. Giving up alcohol, sugar and white flour while getting vigorous exercise has also made all the difference. Perimenopause has been an agonizing experience for me, and I am tremendously grateful for the treatment and self-care that has led me back to balance. Christine — it might help you to know that feeling like you’re going crazy is a documented symptom of perimenopause. I’ve been there and it is awful!

        1. shyla
          2 years ago

          thank you i am preimenopausel as well thanks for the last statement i do very much feel like i am going crazy and horrible forgetfulness. go through stages of panic attacks, its effecting me at work i am 40

  68. TL
    2 years ago

    I am 48 years old. I had a partial hysterectomy at 41 due to fibroids (still have both my ovaries). I don’t know if I’ve entered menopause since I can’t rely on the classic signs (period cessation, etc.). The last year I’ve experienced some insomnia, depression, nausea, and recently, anxiety, quick temper (I’m usually pretty easy-going), hot flashes and fatigue. How will I know if I am in menopause?

    1. NorCalGal
      1 year ago

      I’m in the same boat!! Christiane, how are we to tell given our unique set of circumstances?

      Thank you.

  69. misskyagirl
    2 years ago

    Thanks you so much. I am a 46 year old who is dealing with the insomnia. Today it was 320am……but that is so much better than 115am or 145am…so I will take it…I am also doing my saliva test today….and I have a wonderful gyno is is very holistic/natural…so once we figure out what is going on we can go from that point. I am not ashamed to say that yesterday was a melt down…..I was just so TIRED….and sometimes all I can do is just cry and let it out. I start my yoga teacher training today and I am thrilled….I will not let this transition in my life stop me from continuing this journey. Yoga has helped tremendously!

  70. Sharon
    2 years ago

    Wow..what a relief am not alone..am experiencing everyone symptoms here..terrible shortness of breath!! Thank u all for sharing. .am 47

    1. misskyagirl
      2 years ago

      I have also experienced the shortness of breath….thanks for sharing that…I thought I was just crazy…omg…what I roller coaster ride this is.

      1. Stephanie
        2 years ago

        Me too! Thinking I’m super out of shape or something but I’m not I’m very active! Feel sob

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    2 years ago

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  72. Ellie
    2 years ago

    I am 45 years old and am certain I am in heavy perimenopause. For the past few months I have not felt like myself. I am anxious, feel depressed some days, getting frequent hot flashes especially before periods and ovulation, frequent nausea, headaches and severe PMS which I did not have before. I have these awful mood swings where I just want to cry for no reason. I also have endometriosis for which I am having a partial hysterectomy soon. Does this sound like “the change”?

    1. Yasminr
      2 years ago

      Im 35 and the same. I had the Impanon removed and spent nearly three months in bed with severe anxiety, dizziness, chills, hot flushes ect. Im still suffering 8 months later

      1. Ellie
        2 years ago

        Oh dear..I was pretty much the same. Spent most of the summer enduring severe endometriosis pain followed by a hysterectomy. Had all the symptoms you mentioned. Certainly tough!

      2. Dee
        2 years ago

        Hi Yasminr, how are you? I’m just wondering if you have recovered. I’m almost 35 and I’ve had a similar experience stopping birth control. Have you recovered? Anxiety and depression have been the worst things for me. I hope you have recovered and if so what has helped? Thank you.

    2. Ellie
      2 years ago

      Thanks Marty. Once I had my hysterectomy, they ended up removing an ovary as well. My hot flashes were so bad as well as the mood swings that I had to have a small dose of Estriadiol every day. Right now i still feel nausea some mornings, but it is this ongoing feeling of uneasiness and anxiety that is really hard to shake. I do take an antidepressant that worked for over 10 years, but now that doesn’t seem to be helping. Some days are better than others. I do have a bit more energy since being on Estriadiol, but I still don’t feel like my happy-go-lucky self I used to be. Perimenopause is really tough on a lot of us. Especially when we are hit hard with symptoms all at once. Like I was. Didn’t know what was happening to me at first. Very scary.

  73. LHill
    2 years ago

    Currently, I am a 47 y.o. experiencing all these horrible symptoms. I have a cramp on my middle/upper spine, then the pain travels to the bottom on and off, my joint and muscles hurt- the pain travels, I have a crawling like sensation on my thighs, and tingling at times, tinnitus, dizziness, small hot flushes, painful teeth for no apparent reason, cold feeling sensation in my spine, lack of focus, extreme anxiety, feeling like I’m going to drop dead any minute, headaches, and dry mouth. I am going back to the doctor tomorrow even though there I have had numerous tests done, such as: muscle nerve testing, MRI, and blood work that give me a clean bill of health. Please provide a name of doctors who really know how to treat these menopausal issues. In addition, I have taken vitamins, and still don’t see any improvements; I had done acupuncture, had taken alternative Chinese medicine- Three Immortal and can’t seem to find any relief. Please advise.

    1. Wendy
      2 years ago

      I am also 47 and started experiencing noticeable changes last year…just not feeling myself. I was having extreme anxiety and insomnia. I will go several nights in a row without sleeping which of course affects my mood the next day. I had my yearly physical last November and all my blood work came back perfect. My gyno put me on Lutera low dose BC pills last July and I had an ablation done. Even with these two things, I still struggle emotionally and physically some days. I have a lot of tingling in my entire arms at night and nausea mostly in the evenings. I don’t have the motivation for my job that I usually have. I don’t have friends my age who have gone through any of this so I don’t feel anyone understands the frustration of it. I know my husband is tired of my complaining and I am tired of hearing myself talk about it but it’s not in my head. I know what I normally feel like emotionally and physically. The really bad evenings with the severe cold sensation then a mild hot flash right after won’t let me sleep and I don’t want to get out of bed the next day. Thanks for sharing your symptoms. I read there are 35 perimenopausal symptoms that you can experience in the 5 years leading up to menopause. My mom told me she sailed through it and didn’t even have a hot flash! I meet with my gyno next week and will discuss all of this then, although I feel there’s not much else o can do. I take the BC pills and eat right and exercise. I am not overweight either. Some days I feel like I’m going to lose my mind because I feel so bad and everyone around me gets on my nerves!!

      1. Ellie
        2 years ago

        I know how you feel. It is very frustrating when you are going through this and there is no one around who can relate to it. You seem to be trying everything you can to get back to your “normal” self, but for some reason you just feel very different. Between anxiety, feelings of sadness, nausea and other gastrointestinal issues, not getting a lot of sleep, feeling sluggish, and not to mention the low libido…it really plays a toll on a woman. Even lifestyle changes and medication don’t really seem to do everything to make you feel better. You feel like you are just getting through some days.

    2. Sharon
      2 years ago

      Feeling same as yours..like am going to die any minute..terrible shortness of breath

    3. Mary Fletcher
      2 years ago

      Hello You sound EXACTLY like my sweet friend Julie. Long story short…it was toxic mold in her AC unit blowing thru her home. Get your home tested for mold (air samples). She had Aspergillus mold ! Air scrubbers are going as we speak! She was forced to leave her home due to hurricane Matthew & while she was “away from her HOME” she started feeling better!!!!! This was an eye opener that it may be her home making her sick! You can google these mold symptoms & sick homes etc.
      U feel better soon! My friend has been staying w friends now for about 20 days & feeling better each day.

  74. Rachelle
    2 years ago

    I believe that I have been in perimenopause for about 4 or 5 years, I started out with periods being a few days late, sore breasts, then they jumped to a week late, until they where a month late, or even skipping periods.
    Today I’m almost 47, and I have migraines, hot flashes, and I get cold easily, frequent urination, and no period for two months and counting.. Please anyone else experiencing this

    1. Veronica
      2 years ago

      Yes I started a year ago, at 45 fatigue, dizziness, very tense head, I had to go to the Neurologist, because I was afraid that it was something else, and he said is menopause, I did not believe because at the time I was still having my periods, I have frequent urination, now no period for 3 months and still not feeling well, everyday is a battle
      I don’t feel my self anymore, sometimes I think it may be something else, I can’t believe that menopause can
      give you all those symptoms it’s terrible!! taking some Bioidentical Hormones they help with fatigue and concentration, and feel more motivated I really reccomend for hot flashes. I hope this help.

  75. Nga Hoang
    2 years ago

    I am a 45 years old Asian female believing that I am going through perimenopause help!

  76. Kerri jenkins
    2 years ago

    I am 49 and have been experience these symptoms for several years. I have also recently lost 75 pounds and have thyroid issues. When I finish perimenopause will I be able to start losing weight again? Also, when I go into actual menopause will the weight gain stop if I continue to eat healthy etc! I have been doing paleo lifestyle for the last 3 months and am eating very healthy compared to the processed foods of before. also I have an under active thyroid and a on medicine for this. Can this affect how long perimenopause hangs on?

  77. Stephanie
    2 years ago

    Is it normal for alcohol to affect you differently when going through perimenapause? Like intense moods, irritability and anger.

    1. Traci
      2 years ago

      Yes because it raises estrogen which is more likely elevated because of peri menopause, especially in relation to progesterone. I take DIM to get rid of the excess estrogen and it has worked miracles in my life.

      1. Iona McCulloch
        2 years ago

        Tracy, do you find that the DIM affects any medications that you take. I took it for a few days and it completely knocked out the effects of my pain and sleep meds so I stopped it as I need them to remain upright.

      2. Gale
        2 years ago

        What is DIM? Thanks. I’m 47, and feel like I’m experiencing the hot flashes at night. Some insomnia. Had an ablation a year ago. Worried about weight gain. I am active. Yoga and running.

  78. Lisa
    2 years ago

    I am 43 next month and have had irregular periods since the age of 39. In the last two years I have had only a handful of menstrual cycles. I am a high school teacher and the reason I bring this up is because my last two periods were the first week of school (August 2015) and the first week of school (January 2016). My hormones have been tested a few times and I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. Everything I have read says that lifestyle, stress/athleticism can lead to early menopause. Perhaps that is me as I have been under a ridiculous amount of stress in my life and I am fairly athletic. It has been difficult. My husband and I do not have children. I am the only person in my circle of friends to whom this is happening. I find myself depressed for absolutely no reason. It is difficult to deal with even small problems/setbacks. Maybe I am depressed. I don’t feel like myself. Recently my breasts have become incredibly tender. They have been this way for about 3-4 weeks. I have this crazy fear of breast cancer or that early menopause means there is something very wrong with my health. I have other physical symptoms as well. I feel very alone and wish there was a support group or something for people in similar situations.

    1. Leigh
      2 years ago

      Lisa, Alot of other women have written that they have the crazy fear of something being wrong with their health. I have experienced it also. Its perimenopause anxiety. I understand it all. Small problems that you let roll off your back before now seem like big issues. The depression and not feeling like yourself, tender breasts etc. Thats why they call it the change. It does change you. We have to remember there is nothing medical wrong with us. Its a natural part of life and you are not alone. Your friends are not going thru it now but boy oh boy will they. And guess who they will be turning too for support. Yes you dear Lisa. God bless you and I will be praying for you.

    2. Rattler
      2 years ago

      I started my peri-menopause when i was 39, after having a miscarriage. At the time i just thought it was stress making me moody and effecting my periods. Only after having my 8th miscarriage jan 2016 did my doctor decide something wasn’t right, i was told in march i’d hit the peri-menopause. Last week i was told i’ll never concieve again i’m too close to menopause. I’ve been offered HRT so going to give it a try before i kill someone.. Your not alone, i think it’s harder when your not ready for it. I certainly wasn’t.. Don’t dispare though, speak to a female doctor i’ve found them to be more helpful and understanding. Hope this makes you feel better.

  79. Heather
    2 years ago

    I am 33 years old and have two children. I have been experiencing shorten and lighter periods for several months, mood swings, hot flashes, dryness and pain during intercourse and lack of energy. I have seen 2 different doctors and told them I felt like I was going through premenopause and they both told me I am too young for that. Is there anything that can help me feel “normal” again?

  80. Lindsey Milligan
    2 years ago

    Hello, I am 38 yrs old and have always had heavy painful periods except when on birth control. I haven’t taken birth control for many months, close to a year. About 6 months ago, I noticed my periods were almost absent, light bleeding for a day or so, severe headaches. When to GP he put me on a high blood pressure pill for the headaches. Then went in for my annual with my guano in March, and have been bleeding since. Have high risk HPV, had a cervical biopsy, came back fine. Continued to have very heavy bleeding a clots, gyno put me on progesterone pills 20mg 3x day. Lighten bleeding for a few days. Had vaginal ultrasound, showed very think endometrial strip, possible mass. Had endometrial biopsy, came back possibly polyp. Gyno put in mirena, started have extreme cramping, and still bleeding, gyno said take more progesterone. To no avail, after 3 months of bleeding nothing has helped and gyno, is not worried about it. So here I sit, with sleep interruptions, irratability, constant bleeding and feeling of now hope in sight. Is my gyno a fraud? Or am I overreacting. I mean 3 months of constant bleeding, have our and taking another 60mg of progesterone with no relief. Other symptoms not sure are related are heatburn, change in bowel movements, lack of ambition, anxiety, lack of appetite, but weight gain, increase in blood pressure, constantly fatigued. Please help me understand if I am crazy or need to see a specialist.

    1. Lisa
      2 years ago

      This sounds terrible. I hope you find relief soon.

    2. Denise
      2 years ago

      Get ablation. It is a laser that will virtually eliminate your period. Your Gyno should have told you about this. Get a new one.

      1. Kristen
        2 years ago

        My doctor recommended this and I am wondering if you had it done. I’m worried because lots of people on forums mention weight gain and I am already very overweight. Would love to hear about your experiences.

        1. Tracy
          2 years ago

          I had an ablation several years ago and it did not stop my period, they were slightly lighter for about a year but now just as heavy as ever. My hormone doctor told me that some women who have a “spongey” uterus that the ablation does not work for them. I wish I would have known that before I had it done. It was a more painful recovery than what I had been led to believe and it was for nothing. I had the ablation because my periods were so heavy they made me anemic. If considering ablation, you may want to talk to your doctor about whether you are truly a good candidate. I’m not sure if they know how to tell if the uterus is spongey ahead of time or not.

  81. Betsy
    2 years ago

    I’m 42 now. Four years ago, so 38 yrs old, my cycle disappeared for six months then came back and never left for until I began birth control 4-6 mths later. After using them for one year I quit and resumed a normal cycle. Well last July 2015, I had a cycle, the nothing until December 2015. Again, period would not stop and it was excessive. I started bc again in Feb and am still on them. Period is regular but side effects are horrible. I had hot flashes I’d say 2014. I’m having insomnia and some depression which I’m attributing to bc as it didn’t start until about April. Labs are not conclusive because from what I understand they have to be monitored at different points in your cycle to show a true picture. It’s also been my experience that all docs don’t buy into ” peri menopause” and that does not help us at all.

  82. Tricia
    2 years ago

    5 years ago I started with flooding periods, cramps periods that would last 2 weeks a few months lasted longer than two weeks. Periods that would come every 2 weeks. Now, my period comes when it wants I spot here and there. My breast are tender and lumpy. These changes started when I was 46 I’m now 51 and I truly hope this roller coaster of periods and flooding are getting close to ending. It’s near impossible to go out when your flooding.

  83. Misty
    2 years ago

    I am 42. I have had regular periods up to about 3 months ago. For 2 months my cycle was a few days short. This month it was a few days late & now I am having another period 2 weeks later. I thought I might be too young for these hormonal changes so I took a look at my diet. The only thing I did different was drink Rooibos tea & add collagen to my breakfast. I stopped those two thinks but still got the random 2nd period this month. I feel extra tired & definitely more introspective & sensitive. Do you think I could be in perimen pause at 42?

    1. Gail
      2 years ago

      absolutely! I started at 38 with the fuzy thinking, insomnia, and sudden panic attacks along with almost overnight loss of libdo. Going on 7 years of thisplus weight gain and near constant water retention. All of this has caused my to become a hermit o the world.

  84. J.
    2 years ago

    I’m 51. Regular periods. Slight symptoms like night sweats and irratibility. Last month I had the worst symptoms. I had extreme hunger like nothing I had ever experienced. Nothing satisfied it. It lasted 3 days. The next day I woke with anxiety in my chest like someone had died. This went on for 2 days. I kept saying to myself “this is hormones”. The hunger came back one more day. Then I felt like I was going to ovulate. I get the pain in my ovaries right after I ovulate. I have charted myself for 20 years. Well the ovulation pain lasted a week. I went to doctor to find that I had a cyst on my ovary which had ruptured and hemmorhaged. I asked the dr. If this could of caused all my symptoms. She said possibly. I say definitely. I know 2 other woman this happened to. One was so depressed she couldn’t get out of bed for a month. The other thought she was going crazy. Both had cysts. If you are getting strong unusual pms symptoms. Go to doctor. Get a vaginal ultrasound. It’s worth a try.

  85. Brenda
    2 years ago

    I am 49, will be 50 in January. I went 8 months without a period then had one May 7, this one was kinda heavy, more so than “normal”. I started again 3 weeks later, this time its very heavy with cramps for 3 days. Is this “normal” or should I consult with my OB?

    1. Maria
      2 years ago

      Sounds familiar, I didn’t have a period for 5months then stated back in May and hasn’t stopped for a month now, my Gyno checked with ultrasound and found I have enlarged uterus due to low progesterone, you might wanna get it checked out just to be sure, good luck, Maria.

  86. lynda
    2 years ago

    Hi I’m 49 female please can anyone advise me .. I’ve had uti past 3 months been on antiobics that they keep giving me every time I go Dr been on 4 lots now … Trouble is my urethra is very sensitive I think its to do with my estergeon levels …. Red in side vigina had camera done but all normal Dr just says I’m going through the change … Is their any cream I can use to ease my pain in urethra … Thank you ,.please help at my wits end Dr or useless just keep giving my antibiotics that I’ve stopped myself … I’ve been using d mannose which is great but still have sensitive urethra ..

    1. Anon
      2 years ago

      Colloidal Silver, specifically the MesoSilver brand (they have a website) was the only thing that helped me, and without side affects.

    2. PeriCrazy
      2 years ago

      GoldenSeal also works very well for UTI. Research it.

  87. Wren Willow
    2 years ago

    I am a 51 year old woman in perimenopause. I have had irregular menses for about a year and many cycles have become very painful and accompanied by heavy bleeding. I skipped January’s period and in February had a very light bleeding, which was followed by watery discharge, which felt like I went incontent over night. Since then (now it is May) I have had this pink or light yellow discharge, that is continuing to be watery and interrupted by bleeding. It has no scent and is not accompanied by pain and is not as profuse as it was, when it first started. two to three maxipads within 24 hours.
    I have been on Chinese herbs, Vitamin A, Bcomplex, C and Edry, see an acupuncturist weekly, without much success.
    Little sex drive, and irritabilty are my constant companions, too.
    Is this the new “normal” or do I need to seek the help of a gynacologist, as these are symptoms of another condition than I think, they relate to.
    Thank you for your response. Wren

    1. Sherri
      2 years ago

      Hi Wren, I’m 49 and have been perimenopausal for 5 or so years now. I’ve had heavy periods that came anytime even when I was on the pill and have skipped some periods also. I also had the same watery discharge lately that was pink, but also has been very dark and thick at times. I became so weak lately I went to the ER three times over the last few months only to be told nothing is wrong, which is good but not common to what I hear are classic symptoms. Last ER doc who was female said I need to start the BHRT that my NP perscribed the day prior and that would make me feel much better. I’m on day 9 and feel remarkably better, with no shortness of breath and my weakness is improving daily. I would highly recommend BHRT and wish you well!

  88. Dawn
    2 years ago

    Are headaches common in perimenopause? I am 46 and I can’t sleep well, hot flashes, periods constantly here and there however this last month I had my period 3 times. I just have this headache that won’t go away! Is it from this?

    Thank you,
    Dawn U

  89. Mama Lola
    3 years ago

    I am 48 years old, I had a partial hysterectomy when I was 40 but still have my ovaries and tubes and have been suffering from migraines for the last 3 years. I get them around every two weeks. They seem to be cyclical. I also have digestive issues once a month. I started a smoothie of veggies and fruits every morning and that has helped my digestive issues so far. I am typically very good otherwise with what i eat. I prepare whole natural foods for me and my family everyday as well as homemade Kombucha. I had read that estrogen helps with these migraines as I really don’t like taking the sumatriptan that sometimes doesn’t help anyway. I have been taking an herbal suppliment Peri menopause support with soy isoflavones black cohosh and dong quai but didn’t see any difference in my migraines. I recently went to my gyno to discuss estrogen but he did not have much to say. He thinks the herbal stuff is a joke as, expected. As far as estrogen pills he said it was up to me and gave me the prescription. He didn’t take any hormone levels and didn’t even ask about my diet or exercise. I decided to take it for a couple of months to see if it works on my migraines. What is your advice?

    1. Fe
      2 years ago

      I can relate with you… Been looking for a med doctor who can really understand and diagnose my uncomfortable feelings. If this is part of our perimenopausal or hormonal changes of our body then why cant they give solutions at least minimize the uncomfortable feelings we are going through. Ive been to different doctors but still Am feeling the same. I hate this feeling headache, fuzzy mind, anxiety, etc. When will these end?

  90. Terri Coulter
    3 years ago

    I’m 56 years old and my last period was 16 months ago. I just started bleeding a little, is this something to be concerned about?

  91. Iris Prcic
    3 years ago

    I am constantly itchy all over. Is this a symptom of perimenopause?

    1. wendy
      2 years ago

      This is actually a good question, my itch is from Candida Overgrowth, i have it all over, but perhaps it IS a symptom because yeast overgrowth is worse during Perimenopause?

      1. Tammy
        2 years ago

        I have been going thru the change for about 3 yrs now and heavy bleeding . Now for the last 4 months I have had itching and irritated vagina dr gave me estrogen cream worked alittle while then quit I am so miserable . Just had hormone blood work done . I don’t know the results yet . But I have tried everything anyone else doing this ???? Help !!!!

  92. Kim Anthony
    3 years ago

    Thank God for this opportunity to talk to you Dr. Northrup. I had a partial hysterectomy 4 years ago for fibroids. My problem is that for the past 2 years I have been suffering with increased symptoms including hot flashes, headaches, blurred vision and mental fogginess. The past 6 month have been the worst. I am a hormonal mess. Hot flashes 5 times an hour that cause the headaches and blurred vision. I have recently quit my job because everyday I was experiencing these symptoms. I have been to my PCP, neurologist, 3 eye doctors and have had many different tests. My PCP insists that I am not in menopause because of my blood tests. Headache specialist thinks its perimenopause. I have recently started taking supplements, cut caffeine and sugar, and going to the gym. The gym definitely helps. But I am at a loss because I don’t have any answers and I feel so alone in all this. Where do I go from here for help? I have an appointment with my GYN but she has been unable to help me figure this out up to this point. Who do I turn to? My life is at a stand-still. Please help! Thank you!

    1. Rhonda
      2 years ago

      I experienced the same symptoms. Even worse. So much in fact that I developed panic disorder. I had no idea why I had the shakes. My family thought I maybe had taken drugs-which was proven through urine tests. I made my doctor test my hormone levels-even begged and finally she gave in to testing. Yes, I was in perimenopause. I was nervous, scared, panicked, sore muscles from being tense, headaches, and easily fatigued. Get on medication as soon as possible.

      1. wendy
        2 years ago

        Let me tell you something that will change your life, you are NOT dying!! which is what i thought when i went into Perimenopause, it is your ADRENAL GLANDS freaking out, they have their OWN job, and now they have to help out during this time of life!!! GOOGLE: “Adrenal Fatigue During Perimenopause” you will be SOOOO glad you did,
        long and short? the Only thing that helped me was Hand Fulls of Vitamin C.
        No Adrenal Disease, just Exhaustion…Some Docs say it dont exist, you must have either Cushings or Addisions, i am here to tell you that is NOT TRUE!
        The Adrenals make lots of Hormones,.. but get this???!!! they are making TOOOOO much Cortisol when you are in Perimenopause and THAT is the Cause of your Panic Attacks

        And Honey? PLEASE dont take Anti depressants for this, God oh PLEASE.

        Vit C lowers Cortisol, i have been in the middle of the worse panic attack, swallowed 4x 500mgs of Vit C and kissed the Ground that GOD gave us, it works within just a few minutes (and i am not heavily religious!!LOL )

        Wendy in California Age 51 and BEEN THERE.

        1. Jackie
          2 years ago

          Thank you for this awesome advice!!!! Just what I needed to hear.

        2. Stephanie
          2 years ago

          Thank you SO much for leaving this response
          I really needed to see this …….it’s like you left it just for me to read . May God bless you for being a blessing to me !

        3. Sherri
          2 years ago

          THANK YOU WENDY!! I am going through it too!! Exactly!! BHRT is helping but I have also been wondering if my adrenals are not ready for this rollercoaster because I have had severe exhaustion that has put me in the ER twice in the last 2 weeks!! Thank you so much I will check it out!! God bless you!! and wish you well!

        4. Tracee
          2 years ago

          Wendy thank you so much for sharing your information ..I just took 4 vit C’s gosh I hope this works.I have severe Hormone problems from peri-menopause. I hade cancer at 34 and went on hormone suppressing drugs which put see in “fake” temporary menopause. and now 12 years later I’m going through it naturally but it seemss my symptoms are way more severe tan anyone I know and its debilitating. I am looking fir a Doctor to go to as my quality of life now is close to nothing. Any other tips are very much welcomed and appreciated ..I am feeling calmer already ..thatnk you wendy and god..I love natural ways to treat these symptoms..god bless you dear ..hugs.

        5. C
          2 years ago

          Adrenals control critical hormones. The online video by Dr. Lam in California explains the cycle very well.

        6. Heather C Baxter
          1 year ago

          wow this helps! I will try the vitamin C, I have my stash ready! Thanks

    2. wendy
      2 years ago

      read my post to Rhonda below, i meant it for Every lady here.
      My eyes started to go becasue of the high Cortisol/Adrenalin output during perimenopause, it was my Adrenal glands, they are fine, just stressed…my pupils were sooooo constricted, it freaked me out INSOMNIA ! heart palps, you name it, getting better now 6 years later.
      I had 20 20 vision before all this

    3. Peri
      2 years ago

      I’m 45 and am premenopausal. Last 2 week have been the worst yet. just a few symptoms that someone might be able to relate too (I hope so) is I’m having a hard time focusing in any conversation and knowing how to reply which is so embarrassing, Keep thinking of horrible things from the past that I’ve either heard about or saw, crying frequently, depressed, no energy, can not focus on my job. One night recently I was driving home and by the time I reached there I was shaking and burning up so badly I could barely get out of the car and into the house. I had to eat crackers and soda and lay down. It was horrible. I have a dr. appt. middle of June. I do hope there not something else wrong with me and that it is premenopausal symptoms. I’ve never felt like this. It is horrible and embarrassing. How do you explain to anyone like husband or co workers? This behavior is quite the opposite of how I usually am. Awful!

      1. Ellie
        2 years ago

        That’s how all of mine started…along with nausea and IBS flare ups.
        Anxiety attacks, intrusive thoughts, crying, no energy, couldn’t concentrate, feeling depressed and thinking about the past. All of that plus feeling physically sick from nausea, bloating, headaches, tender breasts..you name it.
        Welcome to the next phase of my life I was told!

  93. Aurieona
    3 years ago

    What is the product you have talked about for vaginal dryness when I’ve heard you on hay house radio? Thank you!

    1. 2 years ago

      Hi Aurieona, you can find it here: Pueraria Mirifica Plus Vaginal Moisturizer

  94. ab
    3 years ago

    I am almost 50 will full-on perimenapausal symptoms. I look forward to being on the other side! My health is a little complicated because I also have Epilepsy, currently controlled, but it wasn’t when they symptoms started 3years ago — like getting my period 2x in a month. Since I have grand-mal seizures, keeping them in control is important on many fronts. What are your feelings about combining the Pueraria mirifica with Tegretol? Do you have any experience with that? Is there any evidence that it lowers the seizure threshold? My doctors are fine with herbs as long as they are safe for me to take. Thank you!

  95. Freddie
    3 years ago

    Please I really need help. I’m 48 and have been a happy energetic yoga and meditation person perfectly happy into all natural food and life but the past couple of yrs I started having peri menopause rage and anxiety so bad I started taking Vicodin to calm down just to get through a day when I have to deal with people. I’m ashamed of this but I can’t deal with any stress or rude people without going nuts. I’m not violent but I’m scared I might if pushed! I can’t work unless it’s at home alone on my computer but even that is getting to be tough with fatigue and depression and no desire or drive for life. Im fat now. I’m not me anymore. I’m alone 99% of the time I’m losing the house I proudly bought all by myself 15 years ago. I’m in los angeles. I need help can you refer me to a Dr. who can help with hormones? I’m afraid of antidepressants. I tried the Barbara Streisand place but it’s $500 just to get in the door after a month or more wait.
    Can you tell me
    Does the rage and crying come from low progesterone ? What causes it? I cry over the slightest thing.
    I can easily wean off the pills but then when I do the hormone issue rears its ugly head. Then I start again. Please help I’m desperate!!!!

    1. Midwest_Mama
      3 years ago

      try moodcure.com Julie Ross.

    2. Cyndi
      3 years ago

      Consider using some over the counter progesterone cream. Look for one that has the label USP on it and also one with no parabens. I use 20 mgs. nightly of the Progest by Emerita, and it has helped my sleep and my moods immensely. I was also getting horrible heart palpitations from peri-menopause, and they are gone too. There are instructions inside on how often to use it. Some women notice a difference right away, and others might notice a difference in a week. Give it a try. It saved my life. And yes, you are experiencing peri-menopause. Your hormones are fluctuating and your body doesn’t feel the same. I cried over everything too. Good luck.

    3. Gwendolyn
      3 years ago

      When I read your comments I immediately related to them. While my situation is slightly different, I too have sudden outbursts of uncontrollable rage. While I hope I would never get to the point of harming someone, I cannot be 100% sure because the rage I feel is so great. However I am only 43 and have already been on a strong antidepressant for several years. I have a medical condition that prevents me from working so I am at home alone most of the as my husband has a job that involves him being away most of the time. I do not understand what is happening because I am not this person. I feel as if someone else has taken control of my emotions and body. I am gaining weight at a rapid pace. My moods are like being on a roller coaster. I have night sweats sometimes to the point to where it feels like I’ve just gotten out of the shower. I can cry over the simplest things. And am often depressed. I don’t understand why because my medication has always controlled this. I’ve always been aware of menopause but this is the first I’ve ever heard of peri menopause. I am going to see my local physician next week to hopefully find some answers. Unfortunately I am aware that it may lead to me taking more medications. Because of my physical condition I’m already on several medications as it is. This is certainly not the quality of life I expected. I just wanted to give a shout out to you to let you know you’re not alone. I hope you find your answers and have peace n

      1. Candace dussault
        3 years ago

        I feel exactly the same way . I cry all the time and I have been on antidepressants for years that have kept that at bay. I have very little energy sleeping 12 hours and still feel like I could go back to bed and sleep more. I am a runner and had no problems up until 6 mos ago ,however now my muscles hurt so much that it has really created havoc and I have cut my running way back . I can remember the day probably 7 mos ago when I looked in the mirror and it was like over night my legs and hips were about 1 inch bigger and it has gotten worse . Of course this is very depressing as well. I feel my body is not providing enough glucose for my muscles and it is causing me to be very hungry after working out. I have hot flashes and night sweats constantly , however I tried an estrogen patch which made me want to just lay in bed and wish for death … Ugh!! I take black cohosh which helps but not enough and I am afraid because it says weight gain . I am going to try natural progesterone cream so I will let you know how I make out with it . Good luck to you . The crazy thing really is that I thought I would love menopause as I had terrible one and when my hormones were at their highest levels is when I felt horrible and so I naturally thought menopause would be very good for me …. Boy was I wrong !:(

        1. Candace dussault
          3 years ago

          One meant to be pms

    4. Jennfier
      3 years ago

      Why are you afraid of antidepressants? You’re depressed and you are losing your house. Give it a try for a month and see if it helps. Forget about all the societal baggage about antidepressants and see if it helps you. Your MD can prescribe them, but if you want to give it a real shot of it helping go see an expert-go to a psychiatrist. Get real help before you lose you house.

      1. Aimee
        2 years ago

        I suffered from depression & anxiety since childhood…. But didn’t realize it until I FINALLY got help in my early 30s. I fought going on antidepressants too. Don’t. I thought they would “change me.” YES, THEY DID, but in the very best of ways. It’s like the “real me” was able to come out for the first time in my life. At first I was on Zoloft, which worked okay, but then my doc out me on Wellbutrin, which has been tremendous. I’ve been on exactly the same dosage for about 8 years.

        And I’m here because I’ve been having the mother of all yeast infections for the last month-and-a-half…. Which has been really awful. I’m 43, a proper weight, and quite active, but this yeast infection has laid me low. After a bombardment of 14-days of Diflucan, I am finally having symptom relief, but my doc has suggested following up with vaginal estrogen cream, and I’m going to take her up on it. I’m also making pro-biotics a permanent part of my diet, rethinking my undies (I think thongs are a thing of the past for me…. they are awful anyway LOL!), and VERY CONSCIOUSLY not letting life events stress me out (work, my teen son, taking on the troubles of friends too much…). Meditation is helping too.

    5. Carolyn
      3 years ago

      Freedie, i totally understand how you feel, and are experiencing the same debilitation. I dont know what the answer is but i know this, just dig in and do as much research as you can, try different things…. one you could try and put into google is orthomolecular hormones, their should be a product that comes up, try that… as for paying 500.00 for the right to good health, that is rediculous. I have just turned 40 and for reasons i dont know, my hormones have taken over, and the rage is so scary i dont trust myself not to go off the handle.

    6. Debra
      2 years ago

      Omg Im the same way….I don’t even go out much anymore cause Im afraid Im going to get myself killed if I click on the wrong person. The 5-HTP works good for me but I tired taking all this stuff now….Was in tears earlier thinking about may have to resort to the HRT and really didnt want any Rx drugs in my system but so close to suicide cause Im tired of dealing with this along with other life issues got going on….Wish you well.

      1. helper
        2 years ago

        The changes in hormones can be so extreme during perimenopause, and the endocrine system is so complex. Underactive thyroid, stressed adrenals, too much cortisol, not enough progesterone, too much estradiol. Try small amounts of progesterone cream to see if this helps the anxiety and rage.

  96. Robin
    3 years ago

    I am about to turn 47. My menstrual cycle is regular. I Recently (about 6 months ago) became sexually active again after many years of abstinence. Every time I have sex without a condom with my new partner I end up with BV (and a UTI). After I use the metro gel and antibiotic for the UTI as directed by the OB I end up with a yeast infection which then needs to be treated with terconazole as the diflucan does not work on the yeast that turns up in the culture. I am pretty convinced that all of this is a result of peri menopause and my body not being able to maintain a good PH level after intercourse. I would rather not use condoms as we really don’t otherwise need to, we are both STI free and he has had a vasectomy.
    Should I be taking estrogen to help my body (vagina) maintain balance? I am at my wits end with this and my doctor does not seem to know what to do with me except continue to write prescriptions.

    Please help !

    1. Lucy
      3 years ago

      Just a quick note on vaginal yeast infections: A doctor told a friend of mine that the best way to get rid of one is to get boric acid (from a pharmacy), fill a gelatin capsule with it as best you can and insert it in your vagina. You may need to do this a few times over several days depending on how out of balance you are. The idea is that candida is always present and thrives in an environment of a slightly different acidity than our bodies are naturally. The boric acid helps return the vaginal ph closer to that natural level thus making it harder for the yeast to survive and easier for what’s naturally supposed to be there to thrive and keep the candida in check. I have used this technique quite a few times over the the last 15 years and found it quite reliable. It’s better than the creams that wipe out everything leaving you wide open for another infection…And of course you can help it all out by keeping your sugar intake down.

    2. Arya
      3 years ago

      Probiotics may help in preventing these issues.

    3. Tara
      3 years ago

      Why my husband and I first became intimate I started getting chronic yeast infections. I had never had them before. I tried all of the typical allopathic remedies, but nothing worked. My Chiro recommended Biotics ADP (Oregano) and their FC Cidal. I took a round of that for one or two weeks and haven’t had one since. .. that was 9 years ago… I don’t remember the dosage, sorry.

    4. Sassy Red Gal
      3 years ago

      Both of you should think about a candida (yeast) cleanse. A man can carry candida infection and be asymptomatic. It can be a vicious cycle. Also, Apple Cider Vinegar to balance your(both of you) PH levels. Essential oils can also be very helpful to deter UTIs and candida(and make some nice romantic oils.

      1. Kim
        2 years ago

        I am now doing the candida yeast cleanse now.. I’m just stumped on what to eat

        1. Stephanie
          2 years ago

          Hi Kim, try reading Anthony William’s book, Medical Medium. He offers delicious, healthy recipes that help rid your body of candida. Food is medicine! ♥ Here’s an article from his site about Candida.

    5. Meg
      2 years ago

      I too have experienced this nightmare BV- Yeast cycle! It’s just horrible and disheartening. I have terrible reactions to antifungals. I have a wonderful Gyno who had me use boric acid vaginally to get the ph balance correct. I initially had a script filled at a compound pharmacy but now order the boric acid powder and gel caps on Amazon. I use them preventively after sex and stop the madness before it starts! Google boric acid and BV -Yeast . You’ll be glad you did!

  97. Debra
    3 years ago

    I need helppp bad with this transition because I am not one of the fortunate ones that’s going through this smoothly. I am having severe acne, depression and night sweats which keeping me from having restful night sleep. Supplements have been helping some which are Evening Primrose Oil, Vitex, Borage Seed Oil and find the Oregon Grape Root as a blood cleanser to help acne. Started back on my healthy eaten to see what happens but if any suggestion would be welcomed.
    thank you

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      Please try the Pueraria mirifica supplement I created. It can work wonders with perimenopausal symptoms of all kinds. http://www.a-ma-ta.com. And let me know how it works for you!

      1. Debra
        2 years ago

        Are there samples to get cause can’t afford to buy more thing that does not work.

      2. Nicky
        1 year ago

        Is this product recommended for use by those of us with a strong family history of breast cancer or should we avoid it?

  98. pei
    3 years ago

    Over the past decade, I have the typical symptoms of the perimenopause, with palpitations, aching joints, sweats, irregular periods, etc. Having diagnosed with autoimmune disease (sjogrens) and pcos in my teens and twenties, it does not really help with the hormones. Even once had high prolactin levels which indicated low ovulation although periods at the time was normal. Now in my early 40s, like to know anyone who are in similar situation and are facing possibility of early menopause?

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      Please try http://www.a-ma-ta.com. Read the testimonials. SO many women have been helped!

  99. Kristy
    3 years ago

    All of this it’s crazy that’s happen to me breast tenderness ,changes in my periods and unrinary tract infections ,insomnia. Thinning hair low sex drive joint pain! I am glad to know that I’m not alone but what I do I am 41 it started at 20 .

  100. Kristy
    3 years ago

    I am 41 have been having uinary bladder infections since 20 s now I have breastn tenderness mod eswings vaginal dryness insomnia and periods have changed from 7 days two three ug all of this it’s driving me insane help! Glad to know I’m not alone

  101. Chrisanthi Siolas
    3 years ago

    Can I take oral progesterone 100mg with Remeron 30mg and cymbalta 60mg

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      I’m fine with the progesterone. But chances are
      Good that there are good alternatives to the other stuff. Try the Pueraria mirifica herbal stuff I created. Read the testimonials first. Then ask your heart. http://www.a-ma-ta.com

    2. Verity Saffron
      3 years ago

      I took 60 mg of Cymbalta for 17 months. After realizing that maybe the Cymbalta was making my peri menopausal symptoms worse I weaned myself off it but removing 10 grains more each day from each capsule over 8 weeks. I added 20 minutes of cardio to see if it would help with the depression. Life isn’t perfect but 8 months after stopping Cymbalta things are much better and my symptoms are much more manageable. Don’t quit Cymbalta quickly.

  102. Maria
    3 years ago

    I think I just had my last period 6 weeks ago. I am 54 years old. For the last three weeks I feel these crumps, same once I would normally feel before getting my periods in the past. Is it normal to have these crumps for so long and I also feel quite bloated.
    Should I be worried or is this normal? Any advise/comment would be appreciated.

    1. Christiane Northrup
      3 years ago

      This is really normal! Don’t worry.

  103. Kim
    3 years ago

    Ladies, the uterus does not have an open door! The cervix is the entry point…not the vagina. Things do not flow in and out of the womb as one might imagine. The vagina yes, uterus no. As far as I know, as when in labor and during menstruation the cervix opens (painful/uncomfortable cramping) allowing its contents (baby/menstrual blood) to exit. Then it closes again.

  104. Jolanda Simone
    3 years ago

    Hi Christine, I am a big fan of you and your work, i bought that book: “womens heath, womens wisdom” a long time ago and i followed your work ever since. But i stay with a question i have never seen answered yet anywhere. It is never discussed openly i can recall. My question is the following:
    Once a woman does not have her monthly menstruation anymore: how does the womb/uterus still cleanse itself?
    I refer to having sex for instance, semen and other related flueds could still remain in the body, even if you cleanse
    it. Normally we would have our monthly period to cleanse and wipe the remaining smells and not wanted energies
    out, and make the womb PH neutral again. To my knowledge 🙂 But when that stops? How does the womb get rid of
    the sperm and smells which are not of her own? I have noticed that i smell my “guy” still after a week, and i am really good for my body, eat healthy and am very much in balance. Can you tell us, what happens when we are not menstruating anymore? Thank you. 🙂

    1. Shara
      3 years ago

      I’d also like to know this answer. Thank you.

  105. 3 years ago

    I’ve also been meditating on the identical point myself recently. Glad to see a person on the same wavelength! Nice article.

  106. Kim
    3 years ago

    hello
    I love your article.
    I really need some advice. I am 56years old and have been having awful symptoms for I would say 4years. I recently went to my doctor and results show I am peri menopause. She has given me an option of hrt. I am scared. I have no breast cancer in family. I have all pretty much symptoms, put on a good 2 stone. I had a hysterectomy when I was 32years old, I kept my ovaries. I have tried herbal remedies but nothing works or maybe I needed to take longer. Look fwd to your reply. Thank you. Please help. kim

    1. Patti
      3 years ago

      I also had a hysterectomy and left my ovaries and I’m 52 yrs old I’m emotional one min then laughing the next,tired am also a breast cancer survivor so I can’t go on any hrt.i have learned that there is bio- identical hormone treatments.

  107. Lynn
    4 years ago

    In 2013 I had 2-3 periods (I was 43). In 2014 I had one period in January. I’m now approaching one year without a period. I’ve had hot flashes (warm moments) over the past two years but no other problems. My doctor told me today I should take provera to force my period because a thickening uterine wall could lead to uterine cancer. I feel hesitant to alter what my body is going through, natural menopause, by forcing a period. Blood work showed perimemopause. Any insight or feedback is appreciated.

    1. Pat
      4 years ago

      I’m going through the same thing. Perimenopause was about the same as yours with some “warm” moments and pretty much no other symptoms. Now a year and ten months after my last period I had post menopausal bleeding with all the old symptoms of pms ……breast tenderness, acne and cramps. I saw my Dr who did a transvaginal ultrasound and found irregular thickening of the endometrium so she did an endometrial biopsy which came back benign. Now she wants me to take Progesterone 100mg for ten days to bring on a heavy period to shed the lining. I’m having symptoms of tense muscles, irritability…laughing one minute and wanting to cry the next, and foggy thinking. I’m scared if I take it it will throw my whole system off! And why all of a sudden am I having these symptoms? Ugh! Help!!!

      1. Ms. O
        4 years ago

        So glad I came across this.
        I, too, am having the same exact symptoms. Dr. is recommending progesterone to force a cycle. My body is doing fine. I have been able to manage all my symptoms with food and diet. I do not feel the need for the prescription. Is it necessary? I am 49 years old.
        Any advise will be greatly appreciated!

        1. Ms. K
          3 years ago

          Did any of you take hormones to transition? I’m going though menopause at 44, but lots of research shows that I should take HRT to protect my heart and bones. Totally confused. My doc says it’s up to me.

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