The Healthy Use of Shame

We learn our first lessons about what to approach and what to avoid from our parents. As we get older, they also teach us more complicated lessons about how to act in public and in private. These instructions get laid down in both the orbitofrontal cortex, which says, “Yes, it’s okay to feel that and go after that,” and the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, which says, “No, better not do that right now. Look before you leap. That’s not appropriate.” We need both parts of our brains to be fully functional.

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Gender Differences

Though we’ve come a long way in society in a relatively short period of time, old archetypal patterns still exist in our society. We are programmed to await the knight on the white horse to bail us out financially. This old mythology is far from dead; in fact it’s the basis for nearly every Disney fairy tale we’ve been brought up with (except Mulan).

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