Just what is a “blue zone?” It’s an area where people live beyond age 100. These pockets may become more and more prevalent in the coming years. People over 90 are the fastest growing segment in our society today! When people hear this, they have one of three reactions: to freak, shriek, or cheer. I’m all for cheering! Centenarian consciousness is alive and well, and just waiting to be copied.
The primary relationship that needs updating at midlife is the one you have with yourself. All other interpersonal crises that arise at this time are simply reflections of this. Your new self is no longer willing to accept less than you deserve. Relationship troubles are not due to the crazy-making effects of their hormonal shifts. And midlife gives us new wisdom and the courage to voice it.
Did you know that every cell in your body is replaced every seven years? It’s true—at the cellular level, the oldest you get is about seven years old. I remember years ago hearing Deepak Chopra speak about this. He said that the only reason we keep creating the same body—or one that seems to deteriorate with age—is that we keep thinking the same thoughts over and over again. That is because all biological systems operate according to what are called “premature cognitive commitments” to the way reality is. Let me explain.
Recently, I flashed back on a moment when I was sitting on a doctor’s exam table without any underpants—and asked to put the soles of my feet together. I was being evaluated for “club feet.” My feet are wide. And when I was little, I had to wear orthopedic shoes, not the patent leather Mary Jane’s that I craved. What I don’t understand is why I wasn’t wearing any underpants. And why, years later, the only part I remember about all of this was how exposed I felt. I think I was probably about five.