Just what is a “blue zone?” It’s an area where people live beyond age 100. These pockets may become more and more prevalent in the coming years. People over 90 are the fastest growing segment in our society today! When people hear this, they have one of three reactions: to freak, shriek, or cheer. I’m all for cheering! Centenarian consciousness is alive and well, and just waiting to be copied.
I’m one of four siblings, we all have children, and my mother celebrates her birthday within days of Christmas. So stress, guilt, obligation, uncomfortable familial patterns, and financial pressure were as much a part of our winter holidays as the joy of being together. At a time when I just wanted to relax and go within, I found myself feeling overwhelmed, obligated, and worthy of blame. And this grew with each passing year, until recently.
One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that they have too much to do and not enough time to get it all done. If a woman’s excessive demands are temporary, her adrenal glands will provide a burst of cortisol and epinephrine, which give her the energy she needs to cope with her immediate crisis. But if her demands are excessive and ongoing, these same hormones wreak havoc on her body. I’m sure you know that this can lead to adrenal exhaustion. However, did you know that feelings of low self-esteem and lack of personal power can also contribute to adrenal exhaustion?
In the not so distant past, people would say a child came from a “broken home” if the child’s parents were divorced. And this was considered a great tragedy. Many people, who really needed to separate, stayed together “for the sake of the children.” Although each situation is different, I can assure you that when a parent is miserable and stays in a miserable situation for the children’s sake, the child learns that miserable is normal for relationships. She also learns how to put up with misery. Tosha Silver, a writer and astrologer, told me that she considers a family “broken” when people who obviously dislike each other stay together for the sake of the kids. And I agree.