My blog is about the quarter-life crisis this month. Like a midlife crisis, this is a time when you question if your life is turning out the way you want it to, only this crisis happens in your twenties. It’s not easy to be out on your own for the first time, and the transition from college to your first real job or from your parents’ house to your own home is filled with more anxiety than joy for many 20-somethings.
Nothing illustrates the dilemmas that today’s 20-somethings face better than the HBO series Girls. For one thing, you see how the “hook up” culture (of sex without a relationship) doesn’t actually create intimacy or happiness for most 20-somethings. It does just the opposite. The truth is we are all looking for our own “tribe” of like-minded people with whom we want to travel as we mature.
Although midlife women might wish to return to a time before gray hair, few would wish to relive their transition to adulthood. Most of us would agree that life gets better with the experience necessary to know what works and what doesn’t!
The Very Real Quarter-Life Crisis
I’m sure you’ve heard of a midlife crisis. But there’s another transition, called the quarter-life crisis, which can be equally trying. Your quarter-life is the time when you transition to adulthood, and usually coincides with graduating from college until about age 30. It can be downright terrifying to be on your own for the first time and to realize that your formal education didn’t prepare you for the real world.
The quarter-life crisis is more prevalent than ever. People are graduating from college at a time when the tried and true formula for success—go to a good school, get good grades, and then go to work for a company that provides benefits—is rapidly becoming an obsolete path! Today’s young men and women returning from military service are finding the job market even more difficult than those who are just emerging from colleges.
The twenties are a time when you sample a lot of what is out there in hopes of figuring out what you want to do with your life. And though the world is vast and there is a lot to sample, the sobering truth is that these years can be a most difficult time. Even with deliberate thought, you can find yourself on a path—in your relationships and your career—that doesn’t feel right, yet not know what to do about it.
So What Is the Answer?
If you’re experiencing a quarter-life crisis (or if you know someone who is), here are five suggestions for emerging from this very real and trying life stage as a happy, healthy adult:
1.) Shore up your self-esteem. Self-worth comes from making a solid contribution that society (not just your parents) recognizes. If you don’t have a job, build your marketable skills and resumé by volunteering for a cause that lights you up: an animal shelter, a program for battered women, trail maintenance for parks and walking paths, community gardening, Boys and Girls Clubs, the list goes on and on.
I love the title of this book. How many times have you wondered what your life would look like without the real or perceived limitations you buy into? Peter Calhoun’s book, Life without Limits, is the story of how to move beyond those limits and expand what you believe is possible. In comparison to the typical self-help book, Peter’s writings are deeply mystical and profoundly spiritual. Peter asked me to share this message with you:
In 1970 while still a priest in the Episcopal Church, I was shown a vision of what was possible for our species at this juncture in our evolution. That vision turned my world upside down. It was a vision of a New Earth and a New Humanity no longer bound by the limiting and false beliefs of the times. I set forth to live out that incredible vision that sometimes seemed more like an impossible dream. For three decades I awakened and demonstrated powers that are usually believed to be the exclusive domain of some the Eastern Masters. I did this, always insisting that such powers are in all of us. In fact, they are our birthright. – Peter Calhoun
His 1970 vision of the Earth as a “Prison without Walls”
Knowing the truth that can set you free
Discovering the false belief system that has kept us earthbound
Methods for detecting and neutralizing our own limiting beliefs
The things we do that prevent us from thriving
An amazing vision of living in the Garden of Eden in ecstatic union with nature right now
And so much more! I encourage you to get your own copy of Life without Limits. You wonít be disappointed!
p.s. On October 17th, Peter will be my guest on Flourish!, my Internet radio program on Hay House Radio. I hope youíll listen in.
Hungry for Change—the Book
Last year, I was honored to be part of a very important documentary called Hungry for Change. The film was produced by James Colquhoun and Laurentine Bosch, the brilliant folks who changed the way we looked at the food industry in the documentary Food Matters. The film Hungry for Change was a tremendous success, and people all over the globe have been clamoring for more information. That information is now available in James’s and Laurentine’s new book also called Hungry for Change.
Hungry for Change (the book) is a practical, prescriptive companion to the groundbreaking film. As in the movie, you will learn to transform your eating habits and change your life from the world’s leading natural health experts, including Jon Gabriel, Kris Carr, Daniel Vitalis…and me!
Podcast Flu Shot Alternatives
It seems that, for many, the Fall Season has become synonymous with getting a flu shot. Dr. Northrup gives immune system boosting tips to help you stay flu-free, naturally!
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